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Post by AL on Nov 25, 2023 16:10:36 GMT -5
You could also try spiritual bypassing, that works for people in the suburbs all the time!
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Post by AL on Nov 25, 2023 16:12:35 GMT -5
I’ll be armchair guy. Focus on what you can control. Do you find it difficult to open up with family and friends or do you not find the dialogue meaningful when it does happen? You may need to make new connections or work to develop the old ones to get what you need.
Finding companionship is difficult for everyone. Even harder if you don’t put yourself in social environments often, you’re closed off, or not happy with yourself.
Short of having memories blasted from your head via EMDR, which I imagine is expensive, just accept that you can’t change the past. Interrogate why those memories still haunt. What do they tell you about yourself that you want to change? They’re useful if they inspire you to action. If not, develop tricks to distract yourself when they crop up and work on long term letting things go. Either way, accept that they’re just thoughts and they will pass.
I’m guessing you have a warped self-image and deeply worn, unhealthy thought patterns, compounded by stresses of life. Probably work on building your self esteem.
Psilocybin is decent for existential dread but not a solution for specific problems. Sure, a heroic dose might accidentally knock you back to default setting, but that’s sort of a cheap trick that has risks as well. I’d focus on long term improvement vs. quick fix, and that might mean working on relationships you have and building new ones with a better mindset. Better mindset can be achieved by doing things you love and giving love to others. this stuff only works if you are normal and don't have iPad baby brain |
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Post by BIL Security Team Alpha on Nov 25, 2023 16:19:37 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Nov 25, 2023 16:22:40 GMT -5
I’ll be armchair guy. Focus on what you can control. Do you find it difficult to open up with family and friends or do you not find the dialogue meaningful when it does happen? You may need to make new connections or work to develop the old ones to get what you need.
Finding companionship is difficult for everyone. Even harder if you don’t put yourself in social environments often, you’re closed off, or not happy with yourself.
Short of having memories blasted from your head via EMDR, which I imagine is expensive, just accept that you can’t change the past. Interrogate why those memories still haunt. What do they tell you about yourself that you want to change? They’re useful if they inspire you to action. If not, develop tricks to distract yourself when they crop up and work on long term letting things go. Either way, accept that they’re just thoughts and they will pass.
I’m guessing you have a warped self-image and deeply worn, unhealthy thought patterns, compounded by stresses of life. Probably work on building your self esteem.
Psilocybin is decent for existential dread but not a solution for specific problems. Sure, a heroic dose might accidentally knock you back to default setting, but that’s sort of a cheap trick that has risks as well. I’d focus on long term improvement vs. quick fix, and that might mean working on relationships you have and building new ones with a better mindset. Better mindset can be achieved by doing things you love and giving love to others. I'll give ya the low-down. Basically the death of a sibling when I was young and the subsequent family dynamic that followed. I for sure bottled it up, and I guess it was a "trauma" I endured. Maybe I thought I'd get over it, or I wasn't equipped to deal with it being a child and all. I think my most issues I've dealt with stem from this. So it's like, now what? Being a person rocks |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 25, 2023 16:23:57 GMT -5
As the World's Best Poster, I actually have pretty good self-esteem.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 25, 2023 16:26:27 GMT -5
Watch downton abby and drink some chamomile tea
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Post by Deleted on Nov 25, 2023 16:27:30 GMT -5
Messageboards are for the freaks. Rise up!
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Post by AL on Nov 25, 2023 16:28:31 GMT -5
I’ll be armchair guy. Focus on what you can control. Do you find it difficult to open up with family and friends or do you not find the dialogue meaningful when it does happen? You may need to make new connections or work to develop the old ones to get what you need.
Finding companionship is difficult for everyone. Even harder if you don’t put yourself in social environments often, you’re closed off, or not happy with yourself.
Short of having memories blasted from your head via EMDR, which I imagine is expensive, just accept that you can’t change the past. Interrogate why those memories still haunt. What do they tell you about yourself that you want to change? They’re useful if they inspire you to action. If not, develop tricks to distract yourself when they crop up and work on long term letting things go. Either way, accept that they’re just thoughts and they will pass.
I’m guessing you have a warped self-image and deeply worn, unhealthy thought patterns, compounded by stresses of life. Probably work on building your self esteem.
Psilocybin is decent for existential dread but not a solution for specific problems. Sure, a heroic dose might accidentally knock you back to default setting, but that’s sort of a cheap trick that has risks as well. I’d focus on long term improvement vs. quick fix, and that might mean working on relationships you have and building new ones with a better mindset. Better mindset can be achieved by doing things you love and giving love to others. I'll give ya the low-down. Basically the death of a sibling when I was young and the subsequent family dynamic that followed. I for sure bottled it up, and I guess it was a "trauma" I endured. Maybe I thought I'd get over it, or I wasn't equipped to deal with it being a child and all. I think my most issues I've dealt with stem from this. Being a person rocks you can't just pinpoint moments from your life as the things that wen't wrong. it's more likely that you always have been the way you are, and those instances of trauma accelerated things. not to say that the grief you've felt since then isn't real, but you're not a problem to be fixed. there's no set formula for any of this but if you think of yourself in different terms then I promise it will be better. |
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Post by MMST3K on Nov 25, 2023 16:30:40 GMT -5
Get a deck of cards and then Google all the things you can do with a deck of cards. Won't solve your problems but it's something to do. Poker... I barely know her! |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 25, 2023 16:45:13 GMT -5
I'll give ya the low-down. Basically the death of a sibling when I was young and the subsequent family dynamic that followed. I for sure bottled it up, and I guess it was a "trauma" I endured. Maybe I thought I'd get over it, or I wasn't equipped to deal with it being a child and all. I think my most issues I've dealt with stem from this. Being a person rocks you can't just pinpoint moments from your life as the things that wen't wrong. it's more likely that you always have been the way you are, and those instances of trauma accelerated things. not to say that the grief you've felt since then isn't real, but you're not a problem to be fixed. there's no set formula for any of this but if you think of yourself in different terms then I promise it will be better. I don't know if I subscribe to much being inherent, so I do think trauma has real consequences, but also I like this idea that maybe it doesn't matter much in the end anyway. It's all fairly subjective and a mean's to an end if that makes sense. |
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Post by vague form on Nov 25, 2023 16:56:59 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Nov 25, 2023 16:58:43 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Nov 25, 2023 16:59:55 GMT -5
anyone else been dealt a...
ha ha
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Post by MMST3K on Nov 25, 2023 17:11:56 GMT -5
anyone else been dealt a...
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Post by leftbeef on Nov 25, 2023 17:16:10 GMT -5
Like decades ago I, in passing, overheard a snippet of a conversation where a guy said something about "giving them the ol' Irish numchucks".
Whenever I start to get too down in my head I just try and think about what that term could mean and it distracts me for at least a good half hour or so.
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Post by anointed on Nov 25, 2023 17:17:07 GMT -5
anyone else been dealt a...
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Post by mistah like ur post on Nov 25, 2023 17:17:24 GMT -5
Like decades ago I, in passing, overheard a snippet of a conversation where a guy said something about "giving them the ol' Irish numchucks". Whenever I start to get too down in my head I just try and think about what that term could mean and it distracts me for at least a good half hour or so. This is also the origin of dog dick summer. |
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Post by vague form on Nov 25, 2023 17:19:32 GMT -5
I’m sorry, that sounds very painful. Grief dulls with time but there’s pain in the awareness of that too. It is a cruel hand but reckon with the meta hand you’re dealt: you make the choice to dwell in gloom or seek out joy. You know which is easier. You know which honors yourself and your past. It’s fucking boring to lay your cards down so early in the night
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Post by MMST3K on Nov 25, 2023 17:20:07 GMT -5
Like decades ago I, in passing, overheard a snippet of a conversation where a guy said something about "giving them the ol' Irish numchucks". Whenever I start to get too down in my head I just try and think about what that term could mean and it distracts me for at least a good half hour or so. This is also the origin of dog dick summer. I liked that name for you so much better. |
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Post by mistah like ur post on Nov 25, 2023 17:20:26 GMT -5
Have you been listening to enough old cumtown episodes?
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Post by AL on Nov 25, 2023 17:20:42 GMT -5
Like decades ago I, in passing, overheard a snippet of a conversation where a guy said something about "giving them the ol' Irish numchucks". Whenever I start to get too down in my head I just try and think about what that term could mean and it distracts me for at least a good half hour or so. |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 25, 2023 17:21:38 GMT -5
nice thread thanks everyone
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Post by Deleted on Nov 25, 2023 17:22:28 GMT -5
Have you been listening to enough old cumtown episodes? It certainly helps to make it feel like I'm hanging out in a room of cool guys |
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Post by mistah like ur post on Nov 25, 2023 17:25:52 GMT -5
Have you been listening to enough old cumtown episodes? It certainly helps to make it feel like I'm hanging out in a room of cool guys that's what our super secret dudes rock group chat is for! |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 25, 2023 17:26:49 GMT -5
It certainly helps to make it feel like I'm hanging out in a room of cool guys that's what our super secret dudes rock group chat is for! That's a fact  |
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Post by Deleted on Nov 25, 2023 17:27:42 GMT -5
I've been getting sucked (nice) into the phone in the worst way lately. Needa detox bad. It's been less Dude's Rock and more shitty Instagram
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Post by MMST3K on Nov 25, 2023 17:28:36 GMT -5
I don't think the pain of grief dulls it just becomes more distant from you. Like it's still a punch in the face but it's coming from long distance now. I try to ignore it but I'm guilty of letting it get the better of me and I punish those around me. Don't be me don't wallow in sadness and hatred because in the end that's all you'll have.
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Post by floorpunchchalie on Nov 25, 2023 17:29:21 GMT -5
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Post by AL on Nov 25, 2023 17:32:57 GMT -5
nice thread thanks everyone
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