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Post by livefromplanetdeath on Nov 26, 2018 1:26:09 GMT -5
This is a thread I can get into. Started dating a girl from LA, moved there for her, spent a year there and was into it and things got bad kinda. Moved back home to upstate NY last November, and have spent the last year working a bunch and putting out releases on the label I run. Ex and I became friends again recently, which is kind of cool, but exactly where it needs to stay. Just started seeing someone as of like two weeks ago, and it’s been kind of nice getting to know someone new/who likes almost nothing that I am into. Update on this. Been hanging with this girl a bit now and it’s pretty relaxed. Not weird. We kind of just watch tv and get food when we both have time off of work, which is usually like once or twice a week, at least that’s how the last like three hang outs have been. Into it. Hope it kinda becomes something. Definitely wouldn’t be opposed.
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Post by kwame on Nov 26, 2018 17:39:15 GMT -5
2018 is the year I got catfished. I'm having a great time
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Post by ass eyes on Nov 26, 2018 17:47:50 GMT -5
Backstory pleeeease
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Post by ITID on Nov 26, 2018 17:53:43 GMT -5
Go on...
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Post by djilo91 on Nov 26, 2018 18:03:26 GMT -5
Posting for the catfish story
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Post by stickybandit on Nov 26, 2018 18:46:24 GMT -5
just got out of a 2year relationship with a very toxic polyamorous hippie girl. i miss her alot she was my best friend, she rekindled my love of house music though so i got that going for me.
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Post by kwame on Nov 26, 2018 19:33:15 GMT -5
2018 is the year I got catfished. I'm having a great time WHO DO I NEED TO SLAP j/k i'm sorry bud. what a shitty feeling. what's funny is that you probably could I'm terrible at telling at stories so I'll try to keep this concise. broke up with the person who I (in part) moved cross country to be with. after feeling all sorts of bad for myself, I started posting to my IG story a lot more. you know, for attention. I notice someone I didn't know watching all my stories, and that they had liked some posts. this bugged me out because I only interact with people who I actually know in online spaces. saw we had a lot of mutual friends and slowly reached out to them to find out more about her. no one knew anything besides that she followed too. I see we've got mutual interested so I comment on one of her stories. she comments back and we start talking. she suggests we text nearly immediately. we talk a lot and it all seems too good to be true. like lining up in ways I've never with anyone before. and apparently never will. she sends racy pics early and I'm shook. before long, I ask her to come out so we can meet. she's cool to it, then something important comes up. okay, fine. talk some more, I ask her to video chat. something else comes up. weird but okay. I'm into her a lot, she's driving me up a wall. I talk to a few friends about it and they're immediately convinced of what's happening but I'm in denial a bit. part of what we have in common is being direct with conflict and communication. I come through her area on a tour, she's supposed to come to the show. tells me she'll be late but she's on her way. then she tells me she gets hit in her car on the way and has to be towed home. I confront her about it the next day, saying it's cool but she just needs to be honest. she tells me she's glad I brought it up and that she's legit. after all that I back off severely. we talk a bit more but it's still the same stuff. I stop talking to her, she says she misses our conversations. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Post by ITID on Nov 26, 2018 20:36:25 GMT -5
WHO DO I NEED TO SLAP j/k i'm sorry bud. what a shitty feeling. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Sorry, man. I dunno if it's any consolation but good on you for talking to your friends and confronting it in pretty quick order?
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Post by Deleted on Nov 26, 2018 22:27:00 GMT -5
single for almost a year. last break up was weird to say the least and made me pretty disinterested in women for a while. met my best friend's sister's best friend recently and this girl is so beautiful that i had an immediate panic attack. i'm back, baby. Figure I'd provide an update just to get this out of my head. Friends had a Halloween party, girl showed up. We talked a lot at the party but couldn't really get a feel if she was into me. Friends keep telling me otherwise. I think I'm just being a mook and afraid to make a move. Such is life.
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Post by stephanie on Nov 26, 2018 23:09:42 GMT -5
Just do it. What have you got to lose?
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Post by ITID on Nov 26, 2018 23:12:35 GMT -5
If you post here, you're prolly to old to be worried about embarrassing by asking a girl out. I'd also bet your friends know something.
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Post by Brah-lie on Nov 26, 2018 23:28:55 GMT -5
Tell you that you enjoyed her company and would like to take her out to eat/ get to know her better- worse case scenario, you gain a new friend to grab a bite with.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 27, 2018 0:05:53 GMT -5
If you post here, you're prolly to old to be worried about embarrassing by asking a girl out. I'd also bet your friends know something. 22 here but point taken & is correct. Think I'll say something next time the opportunity presents itself. Thanks y'all.
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Post by livefromplanetdeath on Nov 27, 2018 1:59:20 GMT -5
If you post here, you're prolly to old to be worried about embarrassing by asking a girl out. I'd also bet your friends know something. 22 here but point taken & is correct. Think I'll say something next time the opportunity presents itself. Thanks y'all. Pulling for you homie 💜💜
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Post by troycockblow on Nov 27, 2018 7:10:53 GMT -5
Been two years married and almost five together. She roolz: speaks 6 languages, really into powerlifting, getting a PhD, and very importantly, she is Chicana too.
We had a funk for a while tho and I started a Tinder o-count just to see what all this shit is about. I don't get the hold ups about going on this thing - it seemed like gold to me. I had like over 20 matches in a week, total babes and even some who were into having threesomes with me and my partner. We live in Rio, so maybe the universe of women out here isn't really representative of what Tinder is like back in the states. But, to me, I'd be all over this thing if I was single. Obviously you probably ain't gonna find your life partner here, but shit seems way easy to meet some cool people and get laid. Everyone happy, no?
Anyways, told my compa about it and she wasn't pumped on my behavior. Probably should have told her about it sooner instead of being sly and sketch, but I was never intending on pursuing anything and was just curious more than anything. We talked about it and will likely tap into the thing to find a third party in the near future when we get our own relationship back on track tho.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 27, 2018 11:10:23 GMT -5
Been two years married and almost five together. She roolz: speaks 6 languages, really into powerlifting, You gettin' pegged, bro?
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Post by not Worship on Nov 27, 2018 11:20:17 GMT -5
Im sure shes got a super interesting instagram
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Post by troycockblow on Nov 27, 2018 12:40:41 GMT -5
Been two years married and almost five together. She roolz: speaks 6 languages, really into powerlifting, You gettin' pegged, bro? duh, foo. millenial pink harness and all.
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Post by kwame on Nov 27, 2018 22:01:15 GMT -5
If you post here, you're prolly to old to be worried about embarrassing by asking a girl out. I'd also bet your friends know something. 22 here but point taken & is correct. Think I'll say something next time the opportunity presents itself. Thanks y'all. my son, you know you're blessed. go get em tiger
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Post by New Fury on Nov 29, 2018 18:43:26 GMT -5
OK so wordsplatter incoming, apologies.
I'm currently doing a long-distance relationship with a girl in another country. We see each other on average about once a month, and talk daily. We were fooling around a little before fully deciding to make an honest go of it in September. She spends about a week with me in France or Ireland and I'll usually get over to Germany for a long weekend. She's cute and is into hardcore and the skinhead aesthetic, and we have comparable long-term goals in terms of starting a family and settling down.
As may be predicted, there's a big BUT coming up and it's this. She's super into the relationship, and I think she's more invested in it than I am. So far so normal. There's always a moderate imbalance, but she told me she was in love with the idea of living with me just over a month ago, and I hadn't even thought about it yet. She was upset that I wasn't as wild about it as she is, and I had to bail on some social commitments to call her up and talk her through it all. I have a lot of stuff going on with my Dad back in Ireland being pretty sick, and I'm not really apportioning much mental space to planning for the future of my relationship. Which on some level is shitty and selfish but it's where I'm at. I have a worry as well about our ability to communicate emotionally, since we have some pretty big disagreements about politics and stuff that I have learned not to talk about. But she's still cute and creative and thoughtful and I dig her.
Part of me wants to really invest and give the relationship a chance to grow organically until we're ready to make a big leap, but another part feels like I wanna cut and run.
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Post by eilers on Nov 29, 2018 19:09:15 GMT -5
OK so wordsplatter incoming, apologies. I'm currently doing a long-distance relationship with a girl in another country. We see each other on average about once a month, and talk daily. We were fooling around a little before fully deciding to make an honest go of it in September. She spends about a week with me in France or Ireland and I'll usually get over to Germany for a long weekend. She's cute and is into hardcore and the skinhead aesthetic, and we have comparable long-term goals in terms of starting a family and settling down. As may be predicted, there's a big BUT coming up and it's this. She's super into the relationship, and I think she's more invested in it than I am. So far so normal. There's always a moderate imbalance, but she told me she was in love with the idea of living with me just over a month ago, and I hadn't even thought about it yet. She was upset that I wasn't as wild about it as she is, and I had to bail on some social commitments to call her up and talk her through it all. I have a lot of stuff going on with my Dad back in Ireland being pretty sick, and I'm not really apportioning much mental space to planning for the future of my relationship. Which on some level is shitty and selfish but it's where I'm at. I have a worry as well about our ability to communicate emotionally, since we have some pretty big disagreements about politics and stuff that I have learned not to talk about. But she's still cute and creative and thoughtful and I dig her. Part of me wants to really invest and give the relationship a chance to grow organically until we're ready to make a big leap, but another part feels like I wanna cut and run. I'm currently living at my parents and potentially going through a break up after dating a girl for 8 years so my relationship advice might be horrid...take it for what it is. I always just look at worst case scenarios...if you like the girl and decide to really give it a go and move in together what's the worst that could happen? It doesn't work out and you go back to living on your own? I'm sure that would suck for a bit but that doesn't seem too terrible. If you cut and run worst case scenario would probably be that you two don't talk anymore and you wonder "what if?"
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Post by sarahohio on Nov 30, 2018 10:58:55 GMT -5
2018 is the year I got catfished. I'm having a great time I was catfished back in 2002 when it was pretty easy to do. Dude introduced me to hardcore. Basically changed the course of my life. Not sure if it was for the better lol
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Post by cfloyd3 on Dec 1, 2018 13:07:21 GMT -5
2018 is the year I got catfished. I'm having a great time I was catfished back in 2002 when it was pretty easy to do. Dude introduced me to hardcore. Basically changed the course of my life. Not sure if it was for the better lol Didn't you marry him???
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Post by jimmyjump on Dec 1, 2018 16:27:39 GMT -5
My divorce was finally finalized last week. Got a first date tonight with a rad girl. Dogmeat, shoot your fucking shot dude.
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Post by not Worship on Dec 1, 2018 18:03:47 GMT -5
Had a coffee date w my future wife today
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Post by sarahohio on Dec 2, 2018 9:02:32 GMT -5
I was catfished back in 2002 when it was pretty easy to do. Dude introduced me to hardcore. Basically changed the course of my life. Not sure if it was for the better lol Didn't you marry him??? um, No. I married Tim who used to post on the b9 board.
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Post by bravecaptain on Dec 2, 2018 16:45:10 GMT -5
xtimx?
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Post by ass eyes on Dec 2, 2018 19:57:01 GMT -5
Anyone experience an ex “orbiting” them on social media? They follow you out of the blue and lurk everything you do but never make any sort of actual contact with you? How did you confront them?
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Post by tandoori jones on Dec 2, 2018 20:00:52 GMT -5
Anyone experience an ex “orbiting” them on social media? They follow you out of the blue and lurk everything you do but never make any sort of actual contact with you? How did you confront them? I don't confront them. that's what they want.
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Post by Brah-lie on Dec 2, 2018 20:01:39 GMT -5
Anyone experience an ex “orbiting” them on social media? They follow you out of the blue and lurk everything you do but never make any sort of actual contact with you? How did you confront them? Pretty sure they’re doing it to be confronted- best thing to do would be to ignore them, I’d say.
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