Brah-lie
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Post by Brah-lie on Mar 22, 2019 6:42:06 GMT -5
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Post by twocripplesdancing on Mar 22, 2019 7:10:23 GMT -5
Ugh my girlfriend tells me out of the blue that she thinks we don't have enough things in common to last. We're not hanging out until Wednesday and then seeing what happens. This happened to me, dude. I could feel us both growing apart, and it was hard to argue with what she was saying. It sucks and I miss her, but I hope things can work out for the two of you. I think in a month or two's time, I'm gonna start using some dating apps once I've got my head straight. I've never used them so I don't know what to expect, but I've had two friends recommend Hinge lately, it looks like the best one for the kind of person I am. Any advice?
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detlefschrempf
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Post by detlefschrempf on Mar 22, 2019 7:50:11 GMT -5
im hanging (shows, fucking, cooking, chilling, etc.) with a girl here n there for like 2-3 months now and i was basically just waiting for her to ask me whats up us and what were are heading to relationshipwise... so earlier today that very text arrived. im totally happy with casual hanging (i wouldnt wanna call it dating) cause i broke up and moved out from my ex so i really dont want to jump into a new relationship right now.
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Post by twocripplesdancing on Mar 22, 2019 7:58:50 GMT -5
im hanging (shows, fucking, cooking, chilling, etc.) with a girl here n there for like 2-3 months now and i was basically just waiting for her to ask me whats up us and what were are heading to relationshipwise... so earlier today that very text arrived. im totally happy with casual hanging (i wouldnt wanna call it dating) cause i broke up and moved out from my ex so i really dont want to jump into a new relationship right now. Going through what I am now, I think this is something all couples should do, as lame as it sounds. Better to nip something in the bud than drag it out for longer than is necessary unfortunately.
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M
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Post by M on Mar 22, 2019 9:15:12 GMT -5
how Old are you and what is your age cut off for the person of interest 40- im going to go with 45 haha but i also wont date anyone thats under 30.
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Post by M on Mar 22, 2019 9:19:10 GMT -5
I'm just hoping that one day I meet someone who wants to actually wants to date me in the open like a human being instead of all these losers who just want to fuck in secret. That fucking sucks and I'm sorry. This made me so sad.
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M
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Post by M on Mar 22, 2019 9:25:57 GMT -5
What are all you single people looking for?
I tend to go back to that bit in "Singles" where Janet goes "i have narrowed it down. Someone that says gesundheit or bless you when i sneeze- although i prefer bless you.. its nicer".
I used to say someone with a steady job but its now more "someone im attracted to that has his shit together"
The first bit is the problem haha
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sarahohio
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Post by sarahohio on Mar 22, 2019 9:53:51 GMT -5
I think I am going to be single for awhile. I'd like a partner, but there just doesn't really seem to be anyone to date seriously around here.
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Top Rope Swanton
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Post by Top Rope Swanton on Mar 22, 2019 10:12:29 GMT -5
I think I am going to be single for awhile. I'd like a partner, but there just doesn't really seem to be anyone to date seriously around here. I relate to this. Small town dating is seemingly that people are pretty grounded and emotionally mature, but content with no culture or adventure. Metropolis dating is that everyone doesn't have their shit together and is just partying their life away, but they at least 'get it' culturally. I can't find the balance, but I'm stoked to get back to Philly and find someone even basic who has their shit together.
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ass eyes
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Post by ass eyes on Mar 22, 2019 10:15:31 GMT -5
I take "we don't have enough in common" as a nice way of saying you're boring. Your common interests are well established early on in dating, so the whole idea of not having enough in common well into an long term relationship is questionable. Unless there was a bit of deception on either of your parts.
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Top Rope Swanton
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Post by Top Rope Swanton on Mar 22, 2019 10:15:36 GMT -5
I'm just hoping that one day I meet someone who wants to actually wants to date me in the open like a human being instead of all these losers who just want to fuck in secret. Thankfully LGBTQ+ times are changing for the more progressive and accepting, and your lil hotass will find a boo sometime soon.
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Top Rope Swanton
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Post by Top Rope Swanton on Mar 22, 2019 10:17:28 GMT -5
I take "we don't have enough in common" as a nice way of saying you're boring. Your common interests are well established early on in dating, so the whole idea of not having enough in common well into an long term relationship is questionable. This. But I think also sometimes life values, small neuroses, or general roommate/partner compatibilities factor into that phrase as well.
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Percussionist Foster Grant
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Mar 22, 2019 10:21:40 GMT -5
What are all you single people looking for? I tend to go back to that bit in "Singles" where Janet goes "i have narrowed it down. Someone that says gesundheit or bless you when i sneeze- although i prefer bless you.. its nicer". I used to say someone with a steady job but its now more "someone im attracted to that has his shit together" The first bit is the problem haha I kinda got crapped on for this earlier in thread, but somebody who's semi-motivated and has it together a bit. Late twen'ties to late thirties. Some semblance of job security would be nice, or at least the desire to achieve some sort of job security. I like to travel a lot and do stuff out of town, so ideally I would like whoever I'm dating to have the kind of financial stability that would allow them to join me. If they have kids that's not necessarily a deal-breaker, but it certainly throws a wrench in the works of their overall flexibility. It's a bummer when people already feel resighned to working a dead-end job in their early thirties, don't want to go anywhere/do anything and aren't interested in learning or experiencing anything new. To each their own, obviously, but I think that's why it's so hard dating in your thirties: people run out of stories and shit to talk about because they quit actually doing anything 8-10 years earlier. Some sort of education is preferred but by no means a requirement. My last two girlfriends didn't even go to college and didn't have any plans to go. Common interests like music, movies, hobbies, etc is almost completely irrelevant. I wouldn't really want to date somebody who likes the exact same stuff anyways. I thought in my early twen'ties I could look past a lot of the non-compatible aspects of relationships and make it work. Now that I'm in my thirties, I realize I was just spinning my wheels while hoping I could overlook a bunch of stuff long-term with whoever I was dating. It would be nice to start on equal footing with someone with comparable aspirations, intellectual compatibility, life goals, etc. and build from there because honestly I've never even had THAT before.
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M
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Post by M on Mar 22, 2019 10:33:21 GMT -5
I hear you on ALL that.
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Post by Thin Lizzy Gulag Graduate on Mar 22, 2019 10:43:38 GMT -5
Remember to check for the Wikipedia tab count
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Post by M on Mar 22, 2019 10:47:12 GMT -5
Nah im with him. It goes back to the whole "we dont have anything in common". Its not that i would find anyone boring but I literally have the attention span of a fish and if i am not interested in what someone is talking to me about, my mind will wonder and will start thinking about things like my shopping list for the way home..
You need to have to be able to hold a conversation with someone and i feel like if you want to talk about more important things, some people arent into that.
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Post by twocripplesdancing on Mar 22, 2019 10:50:23 GMT -5
I take "we don't have enough in common" as a nice way of saying you're boring. Your common interests are well established early on in dating, so the whole idea of not having enough in common well into an long term relationship is questionable. This. But I think also sometimes life values, small neuroses, or general roommate/partner compatibilities factor into that phrase as well. I suppose it depends. I think it's a little harsh to say it's merely a thing of someone finding the other boring. My last relationship was 9 months, whereas my previous one before that was 10 years. The former was obviously a short-term relationship to me. I'm starting to see how little we had in common with regards to the 9-monther. I didn't find her boring, I had a blast with her, but once that initial attraction dies down, that's when the lack of commonalities - even so far as music, films, hobbies, etc - became a problem for us. I dunno, it started as a summer fling and it was utterly glorious. Once the weather turned shit and she started back at college, that was when the passion started to taper off. As for what I look for in a partner, I really don't know I guess. Someone who has their shit together, isn't a complete moron, is passionate about something, is empathetic and, I'll be honest, is attractive to me, all play a role.
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Percussionist Foster Grant
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Mar 22, 2019 10:54:38 GMT -5
My last girlfriend tried to cite the "things in common" thing as one reason for our split, which I thought was absolutely comical since she doesn't even have any interests to speak of. How do you have "something in common" with someone who spends 70% of their waking life taking selfies, getting their hair done or laying in bed watching Hulu on their days off?
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ass eyes
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Post by ass eyes on Mar 22, 2019 11:27:20 GMT -5
I don't buy the reason because it seems like a cop out. I understand how people grow apart, but how much effort did both parties actually put into sharing interests and exploring new hobbies together? It's absolutely understandable for teens and early 20-somethings because their personal belief system and hobbies change with the wind. But in your late 20's/early 30's, I expect you'd have the capability understand your needs, express said needs early, and not drag a relationship along knowing you weren't compatible. It makes it seem like there was always one foot out.
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Post by twocripplesdancing on Mar 22, 2019 11:34:19 GMT -5
Oh yeah, I get that big time. I don't think communication isn't a particularly valued thing. People only realise it is until it's too late in my experience.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 22, 2019 11:39:44 GMT -5
If anything, I'd rather us not have much in common. I don't think I'd like dating someone who knows E. Town Concrete lyrics.
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Percussionist Foster Grant
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Mar 22, 2019 11:39:49 GMT -5
My friend, who's older than I am, put it best recently when he said if you're in your thirties, you can stand having the person around and you take care of each other, that's all that should really matter. Shit like "hobbies" and "favorite type of music/movies" is teenage relationship criteria bullshit.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 22, 2019 11:41:24 GMT -5
My sister's now ex-boyfriend, who is in his early 30's, would try and tell her they should like all of the same things. Definite teenage romance bullshit but also potential serial killer bullshit.
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sarahohio
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Post by sarahohio on Mar 22, 2019 11:43:21 GMT -5
I like having things in common as well as different interests. I like when someone can show me knew things or get me to try something I haven't done before.
I am noticing a lot of single men my age aren't into sports...and honestly, that kind of sucks. Nothing worse than going to a game with someone who could give two shits about what is going on.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 22, 2019 11:44:44 GMT -5
I like having things in common as well as different interests. I like when someone can show me knew things or get me to try something I haven't done before. I am noticing a lot of single men my age aren't into sports...and honestly, that kind of sucks. Nothing worse than going to a game with someone who could give two shits about what is going on. I blame the liberal media.
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Post by not Worship on Mar 22, 2019 11:46:40 GMT -5
sports are gay and meaningless
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Post by sarahohio on Mar 22, 2019 11:50:01 GMT -5
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Yung Nick
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Post by Yung Nick on Mar 22, 2019 11:51:54 GMT -5
Go sox fuck the yankees and fuck the patriots you guys and your fans blow (love you dj)
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Post by Deleted on Mar 22, 2019 11:56:06 GMT -5
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Yung Nick
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I'm at da store what do u need???
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Post by Yung Nick on Mar 22, 2019 11:59:25 GMT -5
oof...
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