chaospouch
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Post by chaospouch on Feb 28, 2019 10:10:42 GMT -5
Freight, I feel you on wanting to have a s/o that has hobbies and interests. I just got out of a four year relationship, and one of the things we argued the most about was this. We were both super career driven, but I saw that as a means to enjoy the things I love to do, not what I am. My ex’s self professed hobbies were going out to eat and drinking wine, that’s about it. On off days she’d sleep till 2:00 or so and get mad pissed when I’d wake up at 9:00 to go hiking, climbing or whatever it was I wanted to do. We never really did anything fun or exciting and I became super resentful and felt like my partner was holding me back which ultimately led to us breaking up. Gotta find that balance, but I’d beware if you’re the kind the kind of dude who has a lot of interests and hobbies that make you happy
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Post by Thin Lizzy Gulag Graduate on Feb 28, 2019 10:35:09 GMT -5
That’s exactly it - If I won the lottery yesterday I’d never even make a dent in all the things I want to do and see and get involved with before I die. Forget it with having to work. I don’t care if we share the same interests, she could be into collecting fucking baseball cards. if that’s the shit that really gets her heartbeat going I can get into it. If we’re out to dinner or relaxing at home and all she’s got is how her day wen't, what bar she wants to go to, and her next vacation...it’s not gonna work.
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not Worship
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Post by not Worship on Feb 28, 2019 10:38:20 GMT -5
Hey man
Maybe chill out a bit
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Post by Thin Lizzy Gulag Graduate on Feb 28, 2019 10:42:49 GMT -5
Hey man Maybe chill out a bit Are we in love?
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Post by Brah-lie on Feb 28, 2019 11:22:27 GMT -5
Plot twist.
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Feb 28, 2019 11:36:28 GMT -5
You guys sound like those dudes we (women) date in our early twen'ties who think they can’t find someone who’s as “intellectual” as them. Spoiler alert theyre all actually idiots. I mean, maybe that's applicable to some of the posters in here but that's... not even remotely close to what I'm talking about.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2019 12:29:21 GMT -5
Me on a date: so what are your hobbies?
99% of men - “I like watching sports and playing video games”
I’m just saying if you want a girl with hobbies just make sure you also have hobbies that aren’t like... couch hobbies. 🤟🏻
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ass eyes
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Post by ass eyes on Feb 28, 2019 12:44:01 GMT -5
My hobby is slapping my flaccid penis against my palm and asking if you're ready for this heat.
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Feb 28, 2019 12:44:35 GMT -5
It doesn't really seem like anyone in this thread said anything about couch hobbies. I get that's been your own personal dating experience, but...
My last few girlfriends have been in their early twen'ties/late thirties, never worked anything but retail, never been to college (or dropped out of a JC after 1-2 semesters) and think taking a camping trip once a year somewhere 2 hours away is some huge expedition. I'm not saying you've got to be some hyper-motivated go-getter with political aspirations and a 401k, but it would be nice to date someone who at least have loftier ambitions beyond working in an online retailer warehouse and hanging out in bars well into their 40s. Although I do suppose the blame's on me for getting involved with these girls in the first place.
Plus video games are lame.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2019 12:53:39 GMT -5
Minus the camping part (camping sux) you just described me lol
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Post by koreangirls on Feb 28, 2019 13:04:05 GMT -5
Me on a date: so what are your hobbies? 99% of men - “I like watching sports and playing video games” I’m just saying if you want a girl with hobbies just make sure you also have hobbies that aren’t like... couch hobbies. 🤟🏻 Why? What's wrong with being heavily into sports and video games?
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not Worship
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Post by not Worship on Feb 28, 2019 13:08:04 GMT -5
Means youre uninteresting and are heavily invested in things that are meaningless
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Post by koreangirls on Feb 28, 2019 13:09:29 GMT -5
Means youre uninteresting and are heavily invested in things that are meaningless Yeah, but what isn't meaningless? What are cool hobbies then?
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Feb 28, 2019 13:12:05 GMT -5
The interests of the last 3-4 girls I've seriously dated: Watching Netflix, watching Hulu, taking Instagram selfies, getting tipsy off two drinks and complaining about their quality of life/lack of money/roommates while putting in zero effort to change their situation for the better.
I dated a girl briefly in the fall who really liked to bake and actually wen't to school for it, which was cool. But she was also super into video games and would watch Twitch streams all the time, so that was bizarre. My last serious girlfriend claimed to love "nature" and "hiking" but only wen't "hiking in nature" in the forested area behind her apartment complex twice a year for Instagram selfie opportunities.
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Post by Ass Dan on Feb 28, 2019 13:20:42 GMT -5
Yo girls that love to hangout at bars sound way more interested than all the wanna be REI models I’m surrounded by. Wanna stay out all night drinking and chain smoking? Cool with me.
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Post by ass eyes on Feb 28, 2019 13:31:35 GMT -5
Watching Netflix, watching Hulu, taking Instagram selfies, getting tipsy off two drinks and complaining about their quality of life/lack of money/roommates while putting in zero effort to change their situation for the better. This sounds like 95% of the people where I live. That’s why I have like 5 friends.
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Post by ITID on Feb 28, 2019 15:19:30 GMT -5
I’m too busy to date anyone. It’s lonely. You tried being less driven or accomplished? Maybe watch some obscure documentaries and collect baseball cards?
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2019 16:23:43 GMT -5
Me on a date: so what are your hobbies? 99% of men - “I like watching sports and playing video games” I’m just saying if you want a girl with hobbies just make sure you also have hobbies that aren’t like... couch hobbies. 🤟🏻 "I love travel let's go on and adventure" -average male tinder bio
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2019 16:26:26 GMT -5
I'm extremely single but I want to bang so I'm lowkey on tinder
Talking to three guys. I told all of em * nothing serious * and now they're tryna take me out on dates but jokes on them. I am NOT dating anyone.
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Post by Thin Lizzy Gulag Graduate on Feb 28, 2019 16:34:33 GMT -5
I’m too busy to date anyone. It’s lonely. You tried being less driven or accomplished? Maybe watch some obscure documentaries and collect baseball cards? Don’t forget to include how many Wikipedia tabs you have open.
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Feb 28, 2019 16:35:50 GMT -5
I've only messed with Tinder when I'm out of state or overseas. If I did it where I live I feel like I'd just stumble across a ton of girls I either know or dated and I'd just get bummed.
I met a cool Vietnamese girl on Tinder while I was in Tokyo a few months ago. We hung out a couple times, wen't to some weird light museum and we still talk pretty much weekly. I met a girl off of there who lived in Idaho while I working in Eastern Washington awhile back and ended up letting her keep one of my Bauhaus shirts.
Girls profiles were almost always some variation of "I'm only on here for the dog pics", something about being a cat mom or something about not knowing "why I'm even on this thing" and how they're "hardly ever on here."
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Post by Thin Lizzy Gulag Graduate on Feb 28, 2019 16:37:16 GMT -5
Can’t forget referencing the office.
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not Worship
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Post by not Worship on Feb 28, 2019 16:37:40 GMT -5
I'm extremely single but I want to bang so I'm lowkey on tinder Talking to three guys. I told all of em * nothing serious * and now they're tryna take me out on dates but jokes on them. I am NOT dating anyone. Gotta play to win. Dates lead to casual banging
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Post by Top Rope Swanton on Feb 28, 2019 16:38:44 GMT -5
I'm extremely single but I want to bang so I'm lowkey on tinder Talking to three guys. I told all of em * nothing serious * and now they're tryna take me out on dates but jokes on them. I am NOT dating anyone. the “date” is more of a way for you both to get fed, establish to each other that you’re not axe murderers, and then to determine whose place you’re going to escape to to rock the headboard. I’m sure he’s on the same page as you there.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2019 16:41:38 GMT -5
I'm extremely single but I want to bang so I'm lowkey on tinder Talking to three guys. I told all of em * nothing serious * and now they're tryna take me out on dates but jokes on them. I am NOT dating anyone. the “date” is more of a way for you both to get fed, establish to each other that you’re not axe murderers, and then to determine whose place you’re going to escape to to rock the headboard. I’m sure he’s on the same page as you there. yes I mean I'm going on the dates cos that's how you get the bang But I'm not looking to be "dating" anyone
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Post by jimmyjump on Feb 28, 2019 16:54:07 GMT -5
The girl I'm dating now is definitely on a different level than anyone else I've ever been with. For example, she loves hiking - so she did a thru hike on the Appalachian Trail. She likes yoga - so she wen't to India to get certified as a yoga teacher. I spent a solid decade smoking, drinking, and playing video games but I'm in a different place now and it's really awesome to have met somebody that pushes me each day.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2019 17:51:35 GMT -5
Sataning is the only cool hobby mentioned in this thread
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Post by tandoori jones on Feb 28, 2019 17:52:00 GMT -5
I'm extremely single but I want to bang so I'm lowkey on tinder Talking to three guys. I told all of em * nothing serious * and now they're tryna take me out on dates but jokes on them. I am NOT dating anyone. the “date” is more of a way for you both to get fed, establish to each other that you’re not axe murderers, and then to determine whose place you’re going to escape to to rock the headboard. I’m sure he’s on the same page as you there. bingo. I've had a few casual things with girls off dating apps and I still took them on dates
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Post by ITID on Feb 28, 2019 18:01:16 GMT -5
You tried being less driven or accomplished? Maybe watch some obscure documentaries and collect baseball cards? No but I’m IN a documentary so Shrug But with school, work, and sataning I barely have time to take a piss, never mind meet new people. It’s ok tho, 40 is fast approaching so I am getting used to being alone I hear everyone gets sent to carousel when they turn 40, so it's not like you'll be alone for forever. But considering everything in the first world is happening later in people's live, we can't really hold ourselves to our parents time lines. Plus, half of us look and dress ten years younger than we are, so you're basically only staring down the barrel of 30.
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Post by Brah-lie on Feb 28, 2019 18:32:09 GMT -5
Ditto on looking and acting young but having gone through some rough shit that definitely aged you years beyond your actual age. At least we look young tho- haha.
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