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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2019 11:55:48 GMT -5
Gal pal's birthday is on Thursday and have some stuff planned for her. I noticed something though as we had Christmas, my birthday and Valentines while we were together, she waits last minute, never wraps anything and is always late, like almost a week late hah. She does this for everyone though...
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Mar 18, 2019 12:20:38 GMT -5
For my birthday my most recent girlfriend got me a throw blanket at the last minute. In the span of our relationship I'd got her a bottle of her favorite wine, sent away for her favorite makeup, had flowers sent to her work congratulating her when she got a new job, got her flowers after our first serious argument and had flowers waiting for her at dinner on Valentine's Day. In retrospect, I probably should have seen that as a harbinger of things to come.
Not saying it's a competition between who can get the other person more stuff, that's not the case. But I did that stuff because I wanted her to feel special and appreciated, meanwhile she's just like, "yo, here's a throw blanket."
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Post by ITID on Mar 18, 2019 12:25:53 GMT -5
Counterpoint: you got her consumables and flowers. You could be using the shit out of that blanket for years to come. She gives better gifts.
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Mar 18, 2019 12:28:03 GMT -5
I mean, if she had any tangible interests and/or need for non-consumables you might have had a point, but she spends $200 on horse hair extensions, so that's moot.
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Post by twocripplesdancing on Mar 18, 2019 12:29:42 GMT -5
The whole concept is that we all feel loved in different ways so your partner may feel loved when you do their laundry/help them with a project etc but you personally may feel loved when you spend quality time together eg grocery shopping, cooking dinner together etc. So if you’re just showing your partner love in the way that YOU like to be shown love there could be this disconnect!! And then neither of you feel valued/appreciated!! Dang, this post makes me realise I haven't allowed myself to feel loved without constantly re-thinking and re-framing stuff in a long ass time. Anxiety and relationships don't work well for me.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2019 12:29:43 GMT -5
I don't really care about gifts but I think it kinda shows a lack of thoughtfulness that usually shows up in to other ways.
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Mar 18, 2019 12:35:10 GMT -5
I don't really care about gifts but I think it kinda shows a lack of thoughtfulness that usually shows up in to other ways. <iframe style="position: absolute; width: 27.940000000000055px; height: 2.9200000000000017px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none;left: 15px; top: -5px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_80043354" scrolling="no" width="27.940000000000055" height="2.9200000000000017"></iframe> <iframe style="position: absolute; width: 27.94px; height: 2.92px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none; left: 1333px; top: -5px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_98778318" scrolling="no" width="27.940000000000055" height="2.9200000000000017"></iframe> <iframe style="position: absolute; width: 27.94px; height: 2.92px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none; left: 15px; top: 87px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_96033229" scrolling="no" width="27.940000000000055" height="2.9200000000000017"></iframe> <iframe style="position: absolute; width: 27.94px; height: 2.92px; z-index: -9999; border-style: none; left: 1333px; top: 87px;" id="MoatPxIOPT0_93327964" scrolling="no" width="27.940000000000055" height="2.9200000000000017"></iframe> Maybe for some people. I did the necessary relationship stuff, having her stay at my place while I was out of town because she constantly had roommate trouble, letting her bring laundry over and use my washer/dryer, waking up to answer the phone at 1:30 AM when she's having a panic attack at her new job even though I've got work in 5 hours, cooking for her when she drank too much or was hungry, etc. The gift thing is just a small slice of a larger pie when it comes to the inequality of that particular relationship.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2019 12:46:04 GMT -5
I hear that. I crash at her place like 5-6 nights a week so naturally just do stuff in their interest, affirmations, help out around the house, all that. I think the gift thing extends into other areas because I've dated people like this.
There's a lot of great stuff about her and enjoy being with her but the stuff adding up makes me think she's got some insecurity and selfishness there. She's sweet and always touchy when we're together but...
There will be times I ask how her day was and she'll never ask in return but branch off to something else. She feels left out and gets jealous when we're with my friends, especially women. She constantly talks about her ex. She fibs to her roommates and breaks plans a lot. She wen't home for the holidays and said she was meeting up with an old friend to go to a museum, one day we were all hanging with her roommate and her roomie brought up hanging out with him and she said they got high, I asked how the museum wen't and she didn't know what I was talking about? I had to remind her it was her bestfriends/roommates birthday.
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Post by tandoori jones on Mar 19, 2019 16:34:48 GMT -5
There will be times I ask how her day was and she'll never ask in return but branch off to something else. She feels left out and gets jealous when we're with my friends, especially women. this is like 7/10 women honestly
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Post by Deleted on Mar 20, 2019 0:40:59 GMT -5
There will be times I ask how her day was and she'll never ask in return but branch off to something else. She feels left out and gets jealous when we're with my friends, especially women. this is like 7/10 women honestly Yeah, women are terrible.
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Post by killthekool on Mar 20, 2019 0:55:54 GMT -5
I like someone who's a satanist but i dont really know her and she lives across the country. Id be into giving her black roses and magic potions for sure. what should i do board?
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Post by killthekool on Mar 20, 2019 1:49:12 GMT -5
There will be times I ask how her day was and she'll never ask in return but branch off to something else. She feels left out and gets jealous when we're with my friends, especially women. She constantly talks about her ex. She fibs to her roommates and breaks plans a lot. She wen't home for the holidays and said she was meeting up with an old friend to go to a museum, one day we were all hanging with her roommate and her roomie brought up hanging out with him and she said they got high, I asked how the museum wen't and she didn't know what I was talking about? I had to remind her it was her bestfriends/roommates birthday.
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Post by Radiation on Mar 20, 2019 7:39:26 GMT -5
There will be times I ask how her day was and she'll never ask in return but branch off to something else. She feels left out and gets jealous when we're with my friends, especially women. this is like 7/10 women honestly Nah I feel like people only have done this to me if they didn't really like... care about me. Anyone who has genuinely liked me asks me how my day was pretty regularly. But also some people are just a little self-centered even if they do like you genuinely, maybe not in a malicious way but it is what it is.
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Post by not Worship on Mar 20, 2019 10:30:21 GMT -5
im starting to take learning Spanish more seriously as of today so my not-yet-gf and i can speak en espanol together :')
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Post by Deleted on Mar 20, 2019 10:31:57 GMT -5
im starting to take learning Spanish more seriously as of today so my not-yet-gf and i can speak en espanol together :') I did the same thing for a while. DuoLingo gang.
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Post by ass eyes on Mar 20, 2019 11:48:09 GMT -5
im starting to take learning Spanish more seriously as of today so my not-yet-gf and i can speak en espanol together :') Exactly why we need to build that wall.
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Post by killthekool on Mar 20, 2019 11:49:21 GMT -5
I like someone who's a satanist but i dont really know her and she lives across the country. Id be into giving her black roses and magic potions for sure. what should i do board? As the boards resident satanist I can say first find out if she’s atheist or theistic satanist. Flowers are a strong yes though. are you an atheist or theistic satanist?
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Post by killthekool on Mar 20, 2019 11:55:35 GMT -5
Im talking about you jesse
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Post by not Worship on Mar 20, 2019 12:04:01 GMT -5
im starting to take learning Spanish more seriously as of today so my not-yet-gf and i can speak en espanol together :') Exactly why we need to build that wall. No hagas esto
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Post by ITID on Mar 20, 2019 12:09:53 GMT -5
Fucking hell haha I’m old, I can’t pick up on that shit That's not how age works...
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Post by ITID on Mar 20, 2019 13:00:01 GMT -5
That's not how age works... No one fuckin hits on me! I’m an idiot tbf, I honestly can't imagine how hard it is to parse people's intentions as a woman. Shit seems rough.
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Post by timekiller on Mar 20, 2019 17:13:54 GMT -5
Is it possible to have a successful relationship with someone who is bipolar?
Serious answer: yes, as long as they're medicated, self aware about their symptoms and taking care of themselves.
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Post by lilmeatsauce on Mar 20, 2019 17:33:46 GMT -5
Im talking about you jesse this little sequence was adorable!
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Post by svejk on Mar 21, 2019 0:14:49 GMT -5
I like someone who's a satanist but i dont really know her and she lives across the country. Id be into giving her black roses and magic potions for sure. what should i do board? STAY AWHILE, AND LISTEN
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Post by killthekool on Mar 21, 2019 0:38:29 GMT -5
Im following rule #5 here. Notice me
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Post by M on Mar 21, 2019 7:33:35 GMT -5
No one fuckin hits on me! I’m an idiot tbf, I honestly can't imagine how hard it is to parse people's intentions as a woman. Shit seems rough. I basically think everyone is being friendly until someone actually says "oh hey. i like you". This rarely happens though and when my friends tell me someone is hitting on me, im like "noooope they arent".
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Post by escapedfromthevalley on Mar 21, 2019 10:13:29 GMT -5
That guy is the worst lol Also our black mass got shut down by the venue management so we couldn’t finish it. Hail Satan y’all Too many summoned demons? Blood orgy violated health codes? What happened??
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Mar 21, 2019 11:33:52 GMT -5
Bat shit tattoo artist from a few pages back, who said I've been "nothing but vile" to her and to quit texting her, woke me up from a dead sleep on Tuesday night by showing up on my porch at 2 AM, knocking on the door, pounding on the door, then trying the door knob. She finally gave up after a few minutes and walked home. I got up when I heard her walking down the steps and peeked out the blinds to make sure it was her.
I'm assuming she's been texting me and probably drunkenly texted saying she'd be stopping by. I still have her blocked, so obviously I'm not getting any of said texts.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 21, 2019 11:35:07 GMT -5
Bat shit tattoo artist from a few pages back, who said I've been "nothing but vile" to her and to quit texting her, woke me up from a dead sleep on Tuesday night by showing up on my porch at 2 AM, knocking on the door, pounding on the door, then trying the door knob. She finally gave up after a few minutes and walked home. I got up when I heard her walking down the steps and peeked out the blinds to make sure it was her. I'm assuming she's been texting me and probably drunkenly texted saying she'd be stopping by. I still have her blocked, so obviously I'm not getting any of said texts.
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Mar 21, 2019 11:35:48 GMT -5
Chick is dumb.
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