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Post by Radiation on Mar 25, 2019 7:59:56 GMT -5
On a more stupid note I'm not trying to listen to Imagine Dragons the rest of my life mfers I mean, if I'm gunna subject my partner to electric wizard, I feel like I should prolly be open to a little imagine dragons time here and there... To each their own haha. There's no real rules to any of this!
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Radiation
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Post by Radiation on Mar 25, 2019 8:05:06 GMT -5
Things with my partner of 7 years just ended tonight. It's been a situation where neither of us have been happy for a very long time, but officially flipping that switch where a person who once loved you now hates you and thinks you're a dogshit person is really hard to deal with, and I may or may not be spending the night in a hotel by the Queensbridge projects for the night trying to hold it together. That sounds really tough I hope you're doing okay. Breaks up don't get any easier with age but I think most people at least gain some tools for dealing with heart break better. Feel free to talk more about this or shoot me a DM if you need to vent : )
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Post by killthekool on Mar 25, 2019 8:06:09 GMT -5
ill add that I'd like him to always text me back if ask a fucking question and also thinks my jokes are hilarious (they are) Basically this. Also, to the people going on about women being into men over 40- i dont see this at all. Men hit their peak in their 20s and 30s haha sorry dudes. Yeah well thanks I was just tryna make brahlife feel better. Now hes gonna park his little red miata in the garage and take the hose from the exhaust to his window. Turn the key to the ignition and turn up the sweet sweet tunes of REO Speedwagon- Im gonna keep on loving you while fading out... mostly due to your post but the brick thing also coulda been part of it
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Post by M on Mar 25, 2019 8:08:09 GMT -5
hahahaha DONT DO IT BRAH
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Post by Radiation on Mar 25, 2019 8:32:17 GMT -5
Idk I think there's all kinds of people out there haha... I've had some really pretty friends date some ancient men. I don't understand why but god bless
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Post by M on Mar 25, 2019 10:28:05 GMT -5
I cant imagine how weird it would be at my age to date someone in their 20s. Like, its a bit strange. Although its perfectly fine for men to do it.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2019 10:41:18 GMT -5
I've found it difficult or I at least question how someone could love me let alone choose to be with me in a relationship when everyone else makes me feel worthless. I push people away and it ain't fun.
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Post by twocripplesdancing on Mar 25, 2019 10:56:09 GMT -5
I've found it difficult or I at least question how someone could love me let alone choose to be with me in a relationship when everyone else makes me feel worthless. I push people away and it ain't fun. Yup, same here, bud.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2019 12:17:41 GMT -5
Idk I think there's all kinds of people out there haha... I've had some really pretty friends date some ancient men. I don't understand why but god bless $$$
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Post by Brah-lie on Mar 25, 2019 12:32:25 GMT -5
Idk I think there's all kinds of people out there haha... I've had some really pretty friends date some ancient men. I don't understand why but god bless $$$ Not only $$$ but we’re more settled in life, aren’t running around playing beer pong with our “brahs”, hit up art galleries and nice restaurants opposed to chipotle and a movie, etc.
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Post by Radiation on Mar 25, 2019 12:33:15 GMT -5
Idk I think there's all kinds of people out there haha... I've had some really pretty friends date some ancient men. I don't understand why but god bless $$$ Literally not even they've been like normal working class dudes with money problems haha
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Mar 25, 2019 12:35:48 GMT -5
Literally not even they've been like normal working class dudes with money problems haha Daddy issues it is, then.
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Post by ITID on Mar 25, 2019 13:01:06 GMT -5
I haven't gotten to 40 yet but it's probably confidence and knowing how to treat women as people.
I think most people in their 20s are a mess and that can extend well into your 30s. I also think most women are existentially tired of getting hit on and transactional interactions with guys trying to impress them. Just being a put together person, who seems to treat women like equals without expectations seems like it goes a long way.
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Post by Radiation on Mar 25, 2019 13:05:37 GMT -5
Literally not even they've been like normal working class dudes with money problems haha Daddy issues it is, then. Could be... Idk I feel like that is a male copout reasoning and it could be anything at all though. I wouldn't think all men have mommy issues just because they think Lisa Ann is hot ?
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Post by Brah-lie on Mar 25, 2019 13:09:24 GMT -5
Ithinkitsindecision hit the nail on the head.
Also, contrary to what people think, most women still dig old fashioned romance. Doing small little gestures that show them you care and think they’re special go a long way.
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Mar 25, 2019 13:09:33 GMT -5
Yeah but Lisa Ann was actually only like, 35 at the peak of her "MILF" thing.
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Post by captainsunshine on Mar 25, 2019 14:00:43 GMT -5
I cant imagine how weird it would be at my age to date someone in their 20s. Like, its a bit strange. Although its perfectly fine for men to do it. I think it is interesting that you feel that it is ok for men (or are implying that society feels it is ok for men) but not women to date younger than themselves. my partner is ten years older than myself and outside of the obvious razzing we both got from friends and family in the beginning her and I have never found it to be an issue or found anyone act weirdly about it around ourselves. However, I have known many women in my life who have dated men ten or more years older than themselves and people will say that the women have daddy issues and that the men are creeps. I personally feel like, while it is more common to see relationships with women who are younger than the men, it seems that both the men and women in those particular age gapped relationships get judged more harshly than the other way around.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 25, 2019 19:00:25 GMT -5
Broke up with the girl I'm seeing. I should be working on myself and it wasn't gonna work out.
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Post by ITID on Mar 25, 2019 19:53:26 GMT -5
Broke up with the girl I'm seeing. I should be working on myself and it wasn't gonna work out. Being self aware of your needs is important but make sure you're actually doing it to work on yourself and not just pushing people away.
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Post by M on Mar 26, 2019 7:34:50 GMT -5
I cant imagine how weird it would be at my age to date someone in their 20s. Like, its a bit strange. Although its perfectly fine for men to do it. I think it is interesting that you feel that it is ok for men (or are implying that society feels it is ok for men) but not women to date younger than themselves. my partner is ten years older than myself and outside of the obvious razzing we both got from friends and family in the beginning her and I have never found it to be an issue or found anyone act weirdly about it around ourselves. However, I have known many women in my life who have dated men ten or more years older than themselves and people will say that the women have daddy issues and that the men are creeps. I personally feel like, while it is more common to see relationships with women who are younger than the men, it seems that both the men and women in those particular age gapped relationships get judged more harshly than the other way around. It was sort of posted tongue in cheek. Most of the men i have been involved in have been younger than me but sometimes jokes are made about it. I do think 20s is too young for me now but i think that is my personal choice.
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Post by Brah-lie on Mar 26, 2019 7:40:13 GMT -5
As long as both parties are above the age of consent, I don’t see a problem with it. Case in point, you could be talking to someone from your age group that isn’t mature or someone who is in their 20s that is very mature. Not to mention chemistry- if it’s there, it’s there. I’ll be 40 a week from tomorrow and don’t see a problem with dating a young woman in her early to mid20s if she’s mature and we vibe well together.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2019 11:18:47 GMT -5
This is the first time in a while I am genuinely angry regarding my ex. Because Instagram is the devil, she popped up on my explore feed wishing her new boyfriend a happy anniversary. Which is ironic since this time last year, she and I ended things about a week ago. Which is even more ironic because she started dating me a week after she left someone else.
I guess I'm angry because I'd had never really been manipulated emotionally like this before and am still getting over it. This shit is for the birds.
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Mar 26, 2019 11:38:27 GMT -5
This is the first time in a while I am genuinely angry regarding my ex. Because Instagram is the devil, she popped up on my explore feed wishing her new boyfriend a happy anniversary. Which is ironic since this time last year, she and I ended things about a week ago. Which is even more ironic because she started dating me a week after she left someone else. I guess I'm angry because I'd had never really been manipulated emotionally like this before and am still getting over it. This shit is for the birds. I feel you. I found out last month that my ex has been dating some piece of shit townie who Bic's his head because he's been completely losing his hair since his early twen'ties. They've probably been involved, by my estimates, at least 6 months. I'm assuming they have more in common than we did, in the sense that he's a directionless townie who goes to every gimmicky "theme night" held at local bars and gets dressed up for "new wave prom" shit that all the functioning alcoholic thirty and forty-somethings in this town seem to live for. It's comical because it hasn't even been a year yet she supposedly wasn't over her ex, thought she was ready to date again but "changed her mind", etc. It's started to weigh on me more and more that I was probably just a rebound situation for her, who'd take her out to nice dinners, plan weekends together, buy her drinks or give her somewhere to go when she was fighting with her roommate. It gets exacerbated by the fact that I'd had my eye on her for years and fell hard when we finally got together. Then she has the nerve to initiate a breakup via text and eventually ghost me after a month of wishy-washy "I don't know if I made the right choice" having sex and sleeping over bullshit. I'm sure it sounds petty but I truly wish the absolute worst for her... if not only because I'm a completely sour individual but because I'm convinced she'll never get her bullshit life together until she has one of those profound "oh my god, I'm wasting my life and I've been a truly terrible person" moments.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2019 11:48:03 GMT -5
I think we’ve all got an ex we wish nothing but the worst for!!!
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Post by M on Mar 26, 2019 11:49:30 GMT -5
This is the first time in a while I am genuinely angry regarding my ex. Because Instagram is the devil, she popped up on my explore feed wishing her new boyfriend a happy anniversary. Which is ironic since this time last year, she and I ended things about a week ago. Which is even more ironic because she started dating me a week after she left someone else. I guess I'm angry because I'd had never really been manipulated emotionally like this before and am still getting over it. This shit is for the birds. Im sorry Mike. That sucks. I have unfriended all of the people i have been somewhat seriously involved with bar one who im still friends with because he was the only decent person that ever gave a shit about me, so i know how shitty that must feel. Keep your head up.
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Mar 26, 2019 11:50:55 GMT -5
I'll fight your male ex's if one of the ladies here will fight my female ex.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2019 11:51:06 GMT -5
Thanks y'all!!!! I'm alright, just a bit caught off guard, is all.
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Post by ITID on Mar 26, 2019 11:52:20 GMT -5
This is the first time in a while I am genuinely angry regarding my ex. Because Instagram is the devil, she popped up on my explore feed wishing her new boyfriend a happy anniversary. Which is ironic since this time last year, she and I ended things about a week ago. Which is even more ironic because she started dating me a week after she left someone else. I guess I'm angry because I'd had never really been manipulated emotionally like this before and am still getting over it. This shit is for the birds. The good news is that, if I know anything about science, you're about go on an adventure vacation with a wacky friend and find a new romance with a lovely gal.
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Post by Radiation on Mar 26, 2019 11:55:23 GMT -5
This is the first time in a while I am genuinely angry regarding my ex. Because Instagram is the devil, she popped up on my explore feed wishing her new boyfriend a happy anniversary. Which is ironic since this time last year, she and I ended things about a week ago. Which is even more ironic because she started dating me a week after she left someone else. I guess I'm angry because I'd had never really been manipulated emotionally like this before and am still getting over it. This shit is for the birds. I'm not sure what your background is with this person and seeing that would probably upset most people. I think it is a good practice usually to try and not villainize your exes for their shortcomings even when it's put in your face like that. It doesn't help us heal really and can perpetuate some negative emotions from that time in our lives. I think the goal for both people after a break up should be respect, even if you're not necessarily happy with how things played out. If they are genuinely a bad person that is a different story haha.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2019 12:01:19 GMT -5
This is the first time in a while I am genuinely angry regarding my ex. Because Instagram is the devil, she popped up on my explore feed wishing her new boyfriend a happy anniversary. Which is ironic since this time last year, she and I ended things about a week ago. Which is even more ironic because she started dating me a week after she left someone else. I guess I'm angry because I'd had never really been manipulated emotionally like this before and am still getting over it. This shit is for the birds. I'm not sure what your background is with this person and seeing that would probably upset most people. I think it is a good practice usually to try and not villainize your exes for their shortcomings even when it's put in your face like that. It doesn't help us heal really and can perpetuate some negative emotions from that time in our lives. I think the goal for both people after a break up should be respect, even if you're not necessarily happy with how things played out. If they are genuinely a bad person that is a different story haha. I definitely agree with you and that's certainly been my approach!!!! I think it's just because at this time last year, I was in a very vulnerable place and I think she took advantage of that and kind of used me like an emotional support animal. I know she's not a bad person.
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