Radiation
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Post by Radiation on Mar 26, 2019 12:13:52 GMT -5
I'm not sure what your background is with this person and seeing that would probably upset most people. I think it is a good practice usually to try and not villainize your exes for their shortcomings even when it's put in your face like that. It doesn't help us heal really and can perpetuate some negative emotions from that time in our lives. I think the goal for both people after a break up should be respect, even if you're not necessarily happy with how things played out. If they are genuinely a bad person that is a different story haha. I definitely agree with you and that's certainly been my approach!!!! I think it's just because at this time last year, I was in a very vulnerable place and I think she took advantage of that and kind of used me like an emotional support animal. I know she's not a bad person. I think we've all been there before I definitely feel that haha. Seems like you got a good outlook about it though and that'll get you where you need to be. You got this mfer
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2019 12:25:06 GMT -5
As long as both parties are above the age of consent, I don’t see a problem with it. Case in point, you could be talking to someone from your age group that isn’t mature or someone who is in their 20s that is very mature. Not to mention chemistry- if it’s there, it’s there. I’ll be 40 a week from tomorrow and don’t see a problem with dating a young woman in her early to mid20s if she’s mature and we vibe well together. Age can only define the number of gray pubes you have
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Post by captainsunshine on Mar 26, 2019 13:02:36 GMT -5
This is the first time in a while I am genuinely angry regarding my ex. Because Instagram is the devil, she popped up on my explore feed wishing her new boyfriend a happy anniversary. Which is ironic since this time last year, she and I ended things about a week ago. Which is even more ironic because she started dating me a week after she left someone else. I guess I'm angry because I'd had never really been manipulated emotionally like this before and am still getting over it. This shit is for the birds. I actually had something similar happen in my younger days! this girl I dated in hs/some of college essentially pushed me to break up with her because she didn't want to feel bad about doing it herself and I had recognized that she was doing this and so I ended it because what else could one do. literally a week later she was posting on myspace (to give a time frame of how long ago this was) pictures of her with this guy who lived on the other side of the country and said something like "happy one month anniversary babe!" at the time I was fuming but also recognized that obviously she was not someone who I should waste my time on. years later i look back now and laugh, we were just kids so I cant really hold her feet to the fire. as an adult now if a partner did that i would obviously be angry and devastated but at least would not be in a bad situation or in an unhealthy relationship
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Post by Brah-lie on Mar 26, 2019 13:06:16 GMT -5
As long as both parties are above the age of consent, I don’t see a problem with it. Case in point, you could be talking to someone from your age group that isn’t mature or someone who is in their 20s that is very mature. Not to mention chemistry- if it’s there, it’s there. I’ll be 40 a week from tomorrow and don’t see a problem with dating a young woman in her early to mid20s if she’s mature and we vibe well together. Age can only define the number of gray pubes you have I pluck mine out- nothing was more humbling than finding a grey pube the first time tho, truly a “wtf” moment.
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tandoori jones
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Post by tandoori jones on Mar 26, 2019 16:00:01 GMT -5
I think we’ve all got an ex we wish nothing but the worst for!!! I don't, because I'm not 13 years old
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Mar 26, 2019 16:01:42 GMT -5
I think we’ve all got an ex we wish nothing but the worst for!!! I don't, because I'm not 13 years old Our bad, mature guy.
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Post by tandoori jones on Mar 26, 2019 16:02:59 GMT -5
you're shitting on a guy cause he's balding. like thats somehow his fault or a way to judge someone's character or personality. like yeah, he must be a total piece of shit 🙄
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chaospouch
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Post by chaospouch on Mar 26, 2019 16:12:18 GMT -5
lol @ maturity
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Mar 26, 2019 16:13:55 GMT -5
you're shitting on a guy cause he's balding. like thats somehow his fault or a way to judge someone's character or personality. like yeah, he must be a total piece of shit 🙄 lol ok bud.
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Post by Brah-lie on Mar 26, 2019 16:16:25 GMT -5
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Post by not Worship on Mar 26, 2019 16:35:48 GMT -5
you're shitting on a guy cause he's balding. like thats somehow his fault or a way to judge someone's character or personality. like yeah, he must be a total piece of shit 🙄 Take solace in knowing everyone in here is painfully single
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Mar 26, 2019 16:38:59 GMT -5
I'm not painfully single, just an unhappy person. There's a difference.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 26, 2019 16:54:52 GMT -5
I think we’ve all got an ex we wish nothing but the worst for!!! I don't, because I'm not 13 years old Idk man I have a long list of reasons for my hatred!!! I’ll never stop hating!!!
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Post by Brah-lie on Mar 26, 2019 17:05:50 GMT -5
I don't, because I'm not 13 years old Idk man I have a long list of reasons for my hatred!!! I’ll never stop hating!!!
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Post by M on Mar 27, 2019 3:32:38 GMT -5
I think we’ve all got an ex we wish nothing but the worst for!!! I don't, because I'm not 13 years old I dont agree with this at all. Hating someone that has been particularly shit to you is not immature. i still hate one of my exs from when i was 21. I see him from time to time and at one point tried to be friends with him but i was only reminded how much of a terrible person he is. Then again, i have arab heritage and we are know for holding grudges forever and i am very much that sort of person. I dont forget anything bad that anyone has done to me, but in the same vein, i also never forget anything nice people have done for me sooo... (also i changed my name because if work see im posting here they may block it haha)
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Post by tandoori jones on Mar 27, 2019 4:25:14 GMT -5
I hope all of my exes are happy without me. even the ones who cheated on me. I just think I'm glad it ended however it ended cause it clearly wasn't meant to be, and they're someone else's problem now
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Post by M on Mar 27, 2019 5:06:16 GMT -5
You are a bigger person than me haha
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Post by novogue on Mar 27, 2019 5:32:50 GMT -5
If the thing about holding grudges is true, I guess I have to check my lineage for any arab blood...
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Post by Radiation on Mar 27, 2019 8:05:17 GMT -5
Any grudge I've ever held on to has just given me anxiety and sadness. Let that shit gooooooooooo baby (unless they were abusive or genuinely terrible)
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Post by M on Mar 27, 2019 8:08:26 GMT -5
Its not a grudge that i think about ever..
its a grudge that makes me never talk to someone / trust someone again.
I have forgiven many people for things but i never forget what they did.
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Post by ass eyes on Mar 27, 2019 13:35:23 GMT -5
I don't, because I'm not 13 years old I dont agree with this at all. Hating someone that has been particularly shit to you is not immature. i still hate one of my exs from when i was 21. I see him from time to time and at one point tried to be friends with him but i was only reminded how much of a terrible person he is. I've had hatred for two ex's in particular, but now it's boiled down to general apathy. Both relationships were at a weird stage in my life (very poor, student, home issues) and I was dumped in both of those relationships. One was due to lack of PDA but I later found out she literally ran through the whole crew, so she did her 3-month homie to homie tour. Second was a lot more serious but the communication was catastrophic to say the least. Nothing is more infuriating than being with someone who can't verbalize their feelings (needs, discontent, etc.) without going into full argument because their primary means of expressing said feelings are comparable to a lethargic dog. Anyway, I couldn't think of worse ways of spending your time than chasing an ex, especially one who left you, for closure/friendship. I've always felt they looked down on me somehow because I wasn't doing so well in life, therefore giving me the silent treatment. When confronted, there was the reasoning of why I've failed them without them even hinting at addressing their own issues. Even after the confrontation/closure, I would still reach out for a half-assed friendship. I don't wish bad things on people, but if they got hit by a truck, I'd probably smirk and on about my day.
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Post by Brah-lie on Mar 27, 2019 13:47:01 GMT -5
I never held ill will towards ex’s and flings that didn’t work out, even the ones that were shitty to me. Best revenge is to simply forget they exist and keep it moving- in most cases karma will catch up to them on a long enough time line.
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Post by M on Mar 28, 2019 3:29:23 GMT -5
The only ex in my life that matters is my ex husband. My feelings have definitely evolved over time and I hope he’s doing well. I used to hate his guts but now it’s more of a big picture thing? If that makes sense. We’re both better off now even though sometimes bad memories creep in, but when that happens I just take a deep breath and think about something else. Being alone isn’t always fun but I don’t blame him for anything anymore. I dated my "awesome" ex (he knows i call him that) over a decade ago and he cared about me so much.. he's basically everything i would want in a boyfriend now.. treated me so kindly and, to be honest, i think he raised the bar for anyone else i ever dated because most of them treated me quite badly towards the end. We are still friends now and its nice.
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Post by M on Mar 28, 2019 3:33:22 GMT -5
I never held ill will towards ex’s and flings that didn’t work out, even the ones that were shitty to me. Best revenge is to simply forget they exist and keep it moving- in most cases karma will catch up to them on a long enough time line. Flings that didnt work out have never been a thing with me. Like, i dont hold ill will towards them at all. I am friends with a few people i have had flings with. When things have been actually pretty serious and they turned out to be dicks? Yeah, they can go fuck themselves. I have enough friends. I dont need to have these people as permanent fixtures in my life. They get ex communicated and sent to the same place that my friends who have done terribly shitty things to me go .. i just pretend they dont exist haha
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Post by sarahohio on Mar 28, 2019 6:51:23 GMT -5
The only ex in my life that matters is my ex husband. My feelings have definitely evolved over time and I hope he’s doing well. I used to hate his guts but now it’s more of a big picture thing? If that makes sense. We’re both better off now even though sometimes bad memories creep in, but when that happens I just take a deep breath and think about something else. Being alone isn’t always fun but I don’t blame him for anything anymore. This. I'm still struggling with my feelings about my ex husband, but I know as time goes on I will be able to let go of most of the resentment. I've never hated my ex, I certainly have a ton of emotions about the situation, but i'm looking forward to them not plaguing my thoughts as I learn move on.
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Post by stephanie on Mar 28, 2019 8:28:51 GMT -5
I don't really hate any of my exes, however I know a few of them definitely hate me.
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Post by animalnitrate on Mar 28, 2019 9:44:47 GMT -5
I don't really hate any of my exes, however I know a few of them definitely hate me. Same and same
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Post by twocripplesdancing on Mar 28, 2019 10:22:56 GMT -5
I'm in a position where I have to meet my ex and her new guy fairly soon. It's not an ideal situation, but I'm glad that she's been able to move on. I want her to be happy because I know staying in a relationship with her was stopping her from achieving that happiness. Friends have told me she feels the same way about me. It's gonna fucking hurt seeing her with someone else (which I have to again in a few months' time for a wedding too) but all you can do is move on. I wen't back to her in the past after breaking up, and it wasn't the right thing for either of us.
I really suck at relationships. Sometimes I think I'm not cut out for them, or it's just a case that I just haven't found the right person. I dunno, I've never been single for a great deal of time, and I'm not especially jazzed about the prospect. Give me reasons why I should be.
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Post by M on Mar 28, 2019 10:45:00 GMT -5
Reasons you should be single? If you havent been single for a great deal of time, that seems to me that you arent actually looking for someone, just anyone. If you suck at relationships, real talk, you shouldnt be in one till you can fix that. Its not really fair on the other person.
I like not having to think about anyone.. i can do what i want, when i want, on my own terms. I dont have to spend money on anyone or worry about someone else being happy. I am happy.. i have stuff planned coming up and i dont have to work around anyone else. All my free time is my free time and i dont have to hang out with people i wouldnt particularly hang out with because they are someone elses friends.
Yeah i get lonely sometimes but then i remember how shitty it felt when the last guy i was involved with was being a dick to me and made me feel terrible and im like "nooooope" and remember that im doing something cool tonight, or seeing a friend from another country tomorrow who is in town, or having my favourite burgers on the planet with some of my best friends next week and think "im good".
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Post by Deleted on Mar 28, 2019 11:12:14 GMT -5
I was trying to figure out how I got over my exes before this one and realized I listened to a lot of Coke Boys 2 & 3 post breakup so I'm doing that again.
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