Depeche Mode
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Post by Depeche Mode on Dec 5, 2023 13:49:35 GMT -5
my experience with open relationships: every criticism or hesitation i had about them were proven correct. never again. i don't want someone to break out the excel sheet for dating.
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heathers
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Post by heathers on Dec 5, 2023 13:59:06 GMT -5
Kody from Sister Wives had four 'wives' at one point and is now down to only one. The emotional toll it has taken on him is outwardly visible. Good luck to those who wish to travel in Kody's shoes!! …and recently revealed he’s only ever loved the newest one. he’s such a shitbag.
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sarahohio
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Post by sarahohio on Dec 5, 2023 14:34:57 GMT -5
If I wanted to fuck multiple people I made sure I was single. A strong connection with one person and having friends is enough for me. I have hobbies and shit. I can’t use all my time and energy giving my undivided attention to multiple boos.
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tandoori jones
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Post by tandoori jones on Dec 5, 2023 15:01:58 GMT -5
Narc nostalgic for the old days 🧐 he misses me being at his house on random days when his dad was out of town. and what you miss is the brotherhood you shared with the other 10 guys you took turns with
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JDS
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a kid got his ear punched off
I’m something all you parents hate to see but don’t worry, it’s just me, Jeremy!
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Post by JDS on Dec 5, 2023 15:32:06 GMT -5
What if the real polyamory was the friends we fucked along the way?
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Perm’d by God
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Post by Perm’d by God on Dec 5, 2023 15:32:09 GMT -5
I get along well with women and I think I could do well with like three or four of em just hangin around.
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JDS
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a kid got his ear punched off
I’m something all you parents hate to see but don’t worry, it’s just me, Jeremy!
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Post by JDS on Dec 5, 2023 15:33:19 GMT -5
I get along well with women and I think I could do well with like three or four of em just hangin around. Then boy do I have a religion for you!
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Perm’d by God
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Post by Perm’d by God on Dec 5, 2023 15:34:12 GMT -5
We could coordinate outfits
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accidentalcharm
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Post by accidentalcharm on Dec 5, 2023 15:42:22 GMT -5
Could be wrong, but I get the sense that Narc’s “I get along well with women” is along the same lines as Treebeard’s “I have to leave the bar early because of all the zoomers hitting on me”
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BadScene
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Post by BadScene on Dec 5, 2023 16:28:12 GMT -5
Feeling really tempted to have the opening up the relationship conversation. Spoilering in case people don't want to read my personal bullshit. Things are not going well with the missus -- I feel like we keep beating around the bush of an eventual divorce. Which is heartbreaking because I feel like we actually get along 80-90% of the time. It seems like the only way we can exist in the home without breaking down is to essentially detach to the point where we act like roommates/co-workers. Separating is near impossible because I have zero family/friends in the area to stay with, the rent situation is insane, and I need to around to support the kids every day. Part of me wants to renovate the basement into my own apartment, but I feel like that level of weirdness is going to fuck up our kids (more than an amicable loveless marriage would).
I'm incredibly lonely (it's been years since we've had any meaningful connection), but I worry that opening the relationship will put that final nail in the coffin of the relationship and introduce an overwhelmingly negative vibe in the home.
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tandoori jones
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lake dues
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Post by tandoori jones on Dec 5, 2023 16:46:13 GMT -5
have you guys tried therapy or anything
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sarahohio
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Post by sarahohio on Dec 5, 2023 16:47:25 GMT -5
Feeling really tempted to have the opening up the relationship conversation. Spoilering in case people don't want to read my personal bullshit. Things are not going well with the missus -- I feel like we keep beating around the bush of an eventual divorce. Which is heartbreaking because I feel like we actually get along 80-90% of the time. It seems like the only way we can exist in the home without breaking down is to essentially detach to the point where we act like roommates/co-workers. Separating is near impossible because I have zero family/friends in the area to stay with, the rent situation is insane, and I need to around to support the kids every day. Part of me wants to renovate the basement into my own apartment, but I feel like that level of weirdness is going to fuck up our kids (more than an amicable loveless marriage would).
I'm incredibly lonely (it's been years since we've had any meaningful connection), but I worry that opening the relationship will put that final nail in the coffin of the relationship and introduce an overwhelmingly negative vibe in the home. I would say if you are having issues, opening the relationship is definitely not the way to go. Anytime a friend of mine did this one of them would end up connecting with the new person(people). Grass is greener. Then leave their original person. Seems like something to do when you both feel great and open.
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BadScene
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Post by BadScene on Dec 5, 2023 17:03:52 GMT -5
I've wanted therapy or counseling for years, but she feels too overwhelmed to add anything else onto her plate. I keep telling her that this is only going to get worse, but I don't think she really cares. I get the sense that she's done with the relationship and prefers to be angry and point fingers rather than work on it and make it better. And I can't work on something that she's not also willing to work on.
It's like she wants me to be the person to pull the plug and peace out, but I have nowhere to go. Hence the basement apartment idea, so that at least we'd have our own space, still have the financial benefit of dual income, and we'd be there for the kids. Logistically, we need both of us around to handle the kids' schedules, but I also can't imagine a scenario where I don't get to see them every day. Again, we don't hate each other. Seeing one another on an everyday basis won't hurt us, it's just that we don't work well together.
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crobssssss
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Post by crobssssss on Dec 5, 2023 17:07:23 GMT -5
Kody from Sister Wives had four 'wives' at one point and is now down to only one. The emotional toll it has taken on him is outwardly visible. Good luck to those who wish to travel in Kody's shoes!! …and recently revealed he’s only ever loved the newest one. he’s such a shitbag. a true pos but I can't stop watching!
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JDS
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a kid got his ear punched off
I’m something all you parents hate to see but don’t worry, it’s just me, Jeremy!
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Post by JDS on Dec 5, 2023 17:37:43 GMT -5
I've wanted therapy or counseling for years, but she feels too overwhelmed to add anything else onto her plate. I keep telling her that this is only going to get worse, but I don't think she really cares. I get the sense that she's done with the relationship and prefers to be angry and point fingers rather than work on it and make it better. And I can't work on something that she's not also willing to work on. It's like she wants me to be the person to pull the plug and peace out, but I have nowhere to go. Hence the basement apartment idea, so that at least we'd have our own space, still have the financial benefit of dual income, and we'd be there for the kids. Logistically, we need both of us around to handle the kids' schedules, but I also can't imagine a scenario where I don't get to see them every day. Again, we don't hate each other. Seeing one another on an everyday basis won't hurt us, it's just that we don't work well together. Mountain Goats lyrics achievement unlocked.
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Perm’d by God
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Post by Perm’d by God on Dec 5, 2023 17:38:42 GMT -5
Could be wrong, but I get the sense that Narc’s “I get along well with women” is along the same lines as Treebeard’s “I have to leave the bar early because of all the zoomers hitting on me” I have receipts
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hAloween h2o fan
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Post by hAloween h2o fan on Dec 5, 2023 17:40:01 GMT -5
I kiss my wife every day and tell her that I love her
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hAloween h2o fan
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Post by hAloween h2o fan on Dec 5, 2023 17:41:05 GMT -5
That's all you idiots have to do
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Osama Vinladen Jiménez López
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Post by Osama Vinladen Jiménez López on Dec 5, 2023 17:43:38 GMT -5
I kiss my wife every day and tell her that I love her I choose gaslighting
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BadScene
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Post by BadScene on Dec 5, 2023 18:01:37 GMT -5
I've wanted therapy or counseling for years, but she feels too overwhelmed to add anything else onto her plate. I keep telling her that this is only going to get worse, but I don't think she really cares. I get the sense that she's done with the relationship and prefers to be angry and point fingers rather than work on it and make it better. And I can't work on something that she's not also willing to work on. It's like she wants me to be the person to pull the plug and peace out, but I have nowhere to go. Hence the basement apartment idea, so that at least we'd have our own space, still have the financial benefit of dual income, and we'd be there for the kids. Logistically, we need both of us around to handle the kids' schedules, but I also can't imagine a scenario where I don't get to see them every day. Again, we don't hate each other. Seeing one another on an everyday basis won't hurt us, it's just that we don't work well together. Mountain Goats lyrics achievement unlocked. Who's that emo kid that would just shout random monologues over shitty beats?
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accidentalcharm
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Post by accidentalcharm on Dec 5, 2023 18:03:08 GMT -5
Could be wrong, but I get the sense that Narc’s “I get along well with women” is along the same lines as Treebeard’s “I have to leave the bar early because of all the zoomers hitting on me” I have receipts from paying them?
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chaospouch
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Post by chaospouch on Dec 5, 2023 18:06:30 GMT -5
I kiss my wife every day and tell her that I love her It is really this easy but also having a huge penis helps immensely
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JDS
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a kid got his ear punched off
I’m something all you parents hate to see but don’t worry, it’s just me, Jeremy!
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Post by JDS on Dec 5, 2023 18:07:49 GMT -5
Mountain Goats lyrics achievement unlocked. Who's that emo kid that would just shout random monologues over shitty beats?
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BadScene
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Post by BadScene on Dec 5, 2023 18:55:57 GMT -5
Close, but he had Screech hair and a Narc-stache. (Sorry, Narc)
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jermojames
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Post by jermojames on Dec 5, 2023 18:56:34 GMT -5
Feeling really tempted to have the opening up the relationship conversation. Spoilering in case people don't want to read my personal bullshit. Things are not going well with the missus -- I feel like we keep beating around the bush of an eventual divorce. Which is heartbreaking because I feel like we actually get along 80-90% of the time. It seems like the only way we can exist in the home without breaking down is to essentially detach to the point where we act like roommates/co-workers. Separating is near impossible because I have zero family/friends in the area to stay with, the rent situation is insane, and I need to around to support the kids every day. Part of me wants to renovate the basement into my own apartment, but I feel like that level of weirdness is going to fuck up our kids (more than an amicable loveless marriage would).
I'm incredibly lonely (it's been years since we've had any meaningful connection), but I worry that opening the relationship will put that final nail in the coffin of the relationship and introduce an overwhelmingly negative vibe in the home. This is so deep. I would only recommend opening the relationship as a way to deescalate the relationship with the intent to split up. She sounds like she needs help and when this is over you will too. How much of this have you brought up to her? Do you think you guys have what it takes to make it work? Does she? Like forget that it isnt working right now, can you get back to where youre actually meeting eachother’s needs? What are those needs? Like… the biggest red flag for me is that she is against the idea of therapy. Put it all out there and say that it isnt working for you but you want it to and you believe that it can. Determine what your needs really are and let them come up eventually but for now just say where you’d like to be in one year’s time and see if she wants the same. It probably feels godawful, it sounds godawful, but I think the fact that youre willing to put the work in and be there for the kids will mean a lot. wishing you all the best
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hAloween h2o fan
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Post by hAloween h2o fan on Dec 5, 2023 18:58:18 GMT -5
I kiss my wife every day and tell her that I love her It is really this easy but also having a huge penis helps immensely you or your wife?
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jermojames
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Post by jermojames on Dec 5, 2023 18:59:18 GMT -5
just reread your other post.
i wish it were as easy as just getting the hell out of there.
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Pat
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Post by Pat on Dec 5, 2023 19:22:03 GMT -5
Feeling really tempted to have the opening up the relationship conversation. Spoilering in case people don't want to read my personal bullshit. Things are not going well with the missus -- I feel like we keep beating around the bush of an eventual divorce. Which is heartbreaking because I feel like we actually get along 80-90% of the time. It seems like the only way we can exist in the home without breaking down is to essentially detach to the point where we act like roommates/co-workers. Separating is near impossible because I have zero family/friends in the area to stay with, the rent situation is insane, and I need to around to support the kids every day. Part of me wants to renovate the basement into my own apartment, but I feel like that level of weirdness is going to fuck up our kids (more than an amicable loveless marriage would).
I'm incredibly lonely (it's been years since we've had any meaningful connection), but I worry that opening the relationship will put that final nail in the coffin of the relationship and introduce an overwhelmingly negative vibe in the home. This is like having another kid to save the marriage, mang
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BadScene
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Post by BadScene on Dec 5, 2023 19:39:17 GMT -5
It wasn’t really an attempt to save it so much as move on. That said, I’m now thinking the first step is finding our own space first. Whether that’s the basement solution or finding some cheap ass apartment nearby.
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deadbluehawk
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Post by deadbluehawk on Dec 5, 2023 20:29:59 GMT -5
It wasn’t really an attempt to save it so much as move on. That said, I’m now thinking the first step is finding our own space first. Whether that’s the basement solution or finding some cheap ass apartment nearby. I just wrapped up my divorce last week. Looking back with almost 1 year separated take the leap and move out. Get ready to welcome in a lot of sadness. It took a minute but I started to realize life was better. PMA wen't up and my relationship with the wife changed to a manageable working/friend status. The most worrisome issue for me was kid related. How is it going to affect our child, when can I see my daughter type stuff. All issues that are being worked out in time.
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