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Post by fuzzyslippers on Dec 17, 2023 12:12:18 GMT -5
Chalie for real though are you on the apps at all Famously a place to find emotionally available individuals! No denying that but I have to imagine it bears more success than pining for someone else’s girlfriend, for months on end |
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Post by jeanxseberg on Dec 17, 2023 12:12:46 GMT -5
Chalie for real though are you on the apps at all Never did the apps personally. My friend Claire is on bumble and tells me the horror stories. Proud of you sincerely |
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Post by jeanxseberg on Dec 17, 2023 12:18:03 GMT -5
Famously a place to find emotionally available individuals! No denying that but I have to imagine it bears more success than pining for someone else’s girlfriend, for months on end I could write another essay about why I'm critical of the idea but in short I think at this point it's a lot like porn where it destroys male self-esteem, coerces them into paying real money, makes them increasingly more and more picky and shallow through looking at hundreds of women per hour, etc. Being on Tinder in like 2017 vs 2023 is absolutely not the same experience. Even Hinge kind of sucks now. It's fine if you're a hot girl but for a regular dude it seems like it's just pay for play and being ignored and ghosted all day. Which seems to be like Chalies kink so terrible idea |
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Post by floorpunchchalie on Dec 17, 2023 12:19:15 GMT -5
Plus I’m good enough where I can make in person connections. It didn’t happen this weekend at the bouncing souls. I saw a cutie with a descendents shirt so I struck up conversation with her before sets. It was friendly but in my head I thought “there’s no way this one is here by herself.” Five minutes later a fine gentleman with a beanie, a well oiled beard, and a drug church shirt came with two jack and cokes. He was the boyfriend, and a nice dude! It made sense they were together.
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Post by tandoori jones on Dec 17, 2023 12:19:59 GMT -5
No denying that but I have to imagine it bears more success than pining for someone else’s girlfriend, for months on end I could write another essay about why I'm critical of the idea but in short I think at this point it's a lot like porn where it destroys male self-esteem, coerces them into paying real money, makes them increasingly more and more picky and shallow through looking at hundreds of women per hour, etc. Being on Tinder in like 2017 vs 2023 is absolutely not the same experience. Even Hinge kind of sucks now. It's fine if you're a hot girl but for a regular dude it seems like it's just pay for play and being ignored and ghosted all day. Which seems to be like Chalies kink so terrible idea i guess everyone’s experiences are different and depends on the area and other variables but when i was on the dating apps i had tons of matches wen't on tons of dates etc until i eventually met my wife |
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Post by floorpunchchalie on Dec 17, 2023 12:20:52 GMT -5
No denying that but I have to imagine it bears more success than pining for someone else’s girlfriend, for months on end I could write another essay about why I'm critical of the idea but in short I think at this point it's a lot like porn where it destroys male self-esteem, coerces them into paying real money, makes them increasingly more and more picky and shallow through looking at hundreds of women per hour, etc. Being on Tinder in like 2017 vs 2023 is absolutely not the same experience. Even Hinge kind of sucks now. It's fine if you're a hot girl but for a regular dude it seems like it's just pay for play and being ignored and ghosted all day. Which seems to be like Chalies kink so terrible idea My kink is throwing small women throw a wall and absolutely manhandling them. |
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Post by tandoori jones on Dec 17, 2023 12:21:03 GMT -5
i mean if you’re ugly and swiping left on anything less than a 10, you’re gonna have a bad time regardless of gender
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Post by jeanxseberg on Dec 17, 2023 12:21:26 GMT -5
I usually like to ask the boyfriend to wait at least a solid 15 minutes before finding me so that I can make contacts with as many new options for the bench as possible.
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Post by jeanxseberg on Dec 17, 2023 12:22:03 GMT -5
I could write another essay about why I'm critical of the idea but in short I think at this point it's a lot like porn where it destroys male self-esteem, coerces them into paying real money, makes them increasingly more and more picky and shallow through looking at hundreds of women per hour, etc. Being on Tinder in like 2017 vs 2023 is absolutely not the same experience. Even Hinge kind of sucks now. It's fine if you're a hot girl but for a regular dude it seems like it's just pay for play and being ignored and ghosted all day. Which seems to be like Chalies kink so terrible idea My kink is throwing small women throw a wall and absolutely manhandling them. I am formally cutting ties as your therapist. Thanks and best of luck to you. |
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Post by tandoori jones on Dec 17, 2023 12:28:55 GMT -5
My kink is throwing small women throw a wall and absolutely manhandling them. I am formally cutting ties as your therapist. Thanks and best of luck to you. you must’ve missed when he previously talked about this. as well as only eating pussy twice in his 38 year life and sucking boobs so hard he leaves bruises. makes you wonder why women aren’t lining up for this |
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Post by Osama Vinladen Jiménez López🎅🎄 on Dec 17, 2023 12:30:00 GMT -5
I could write another essay about why I'm critical of the idea but in short I think at this point it's a lot like porn where it destroys male self-esteem, coerces them into paying real money, makes them increasingly more and more picky and shallow through looking at hundreds of women per hour, etc. Being on Tinder in like 2017 vs 2023 is absolutely not the same experience. Even Hinge kind of sucks now. It's fine if you're a hot girl but for a regular dude it seems like it's just pay for play and being ignored and ghosted all day. Which seems to be like Chalies kink so terrible idea My kink is throwing small women throw a wall and absolutely manhandling them. I’m reading this post currently as a little spoon. God is punishing you |
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Post by meatballmaniac on Dec 17, 2023 12:30:09 GMT -5
My kink is throwing small women throw a wall and absolutely manhandling them. I am formally cutting ties as your therapist. Thanks and best of luck to you. late poty entry |
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Post by floorpunchchalie on Dec 17, 2023 12:31:06 GMT -5
I am formally cutting ties as your therapist. Thanks and best of luck to you. you must’ve missed when he previously talked about this. as well as only eating pussy twice in his 38 year life and sucking boobs so hard he leaves bruises. makes you wonder why women aren’t lining up for this To be fair I only talk this way on board because its board. I wouldn’t say this in person or out in public. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 17, 2023 12:32:58 GMT -5
Her is the app
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Post by Cholo Molester on Dec 17, 2023 12:34:02 GMT -5
Chalie has a kink for small, petite women.
Chalie works with juvenile teens.
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Post by Osama Vinladen Jiménez López🎅🎄 on Dec 17, 2023 12:34:05 GMT -5
you must’ve missed when he previously talked about this. as well as only eating pussy twice in his 38 year life and sucking boobs so hard he leaves bruises. makes you wonder why women aren’t lining up for this To be fair I only talk this way on board because its board. I wouldn’t say this in person or out in public. In some fucked up way, that’s the problem. I talk like this irl. I call my gf a hard-rocker and talk nonstop about Jared and nastyy's band and how both genders are guilty. Embrace it |
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Post by floorpunchchalie on Dec 17, 2023 12:34:12 GMT -5
Is that app for lesbians? |
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Post by floorpunchchalie on Dec 17, 2023 12:34:59 GMT -5
Chalie has a kink for small, petite women. Chalie works with juvenile teens. 🧐 🚨‼️ Stop being a creep |
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Post by jeanxseberg on Dec 17, 2023 12:47:23 GMT -5
Her and Lex are by far the best apps I've been on. It makes more sense because if you go on a date with a lesbian you'll be invited to like ten different things so you actually can still meet lots of people indirectly through those apps. As far as straight guys go they're literally everywhere; if you can't find one you're just not going outside enough. |
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Post by Cholo Molester on Dec 17, 2023 12:49:32 GMT -5
Chalie has a kink for small, petite women. Chalie works with juvenile teens. 🧐 🚨‼️ Stop being a creep
In Freud’s drive theory, sublimation amounts to a drive finding a means to secure satisfaction (Befriedigung) in the face of “aim-inhibition” (i.e., a blockage of its prior path to an earlier aimed-at drive-object). But, as Lacan observes, Freud also oddly defines the aim (Ziel) of any and every drive as satisfaction. Therefore, how can a drive achieve satisfaction if its aim (defined as the achievement of satisfaction) is inhibited? Lacan’s response to this apparent Freudian contradiction is to put forward a distinction between the aim and “goal” of the drive as a metapsychological entity: While the aim of a drive can be and inevitably is inhibited, its (true) goal always is reached—and this because its goal is nothing other than enjoying the ceaseless movement of repetitively rotating around whatever blockages land on its path.
According to a certain widely accepted reading appealing to the immediately above (promoted by Slavoj Žižek and the Slovenian School of Lacanian theory), Lacan distinguishes between desire and drive. As seen (see 2.4.1 above), an essential characteristic of desire is its restlessness, its ongoing agitated searching and futile striving. No object it gets its hands on is ever quite “IT.” Whereas desire is stuck with its dissatisfied drifting from object to object and ever onward (in a structured movement akin to the “spurious/bad infinite” as per Hegel), drive derives a perverse enjoyment from this desire-fuelled libidinal circling around the vanishing point of the impossible-qua-unattainable. There where desire is frustrated, drive is gratified. Drive gains its satisfaction through vampirically feeding off of the dissatisfaction of desire.
Like the register of the Real with which it is most closely associated, jouissance, a notion that comes to the fore at the end of the 1950s, is difficult to encapsulate in succinct defining formulas. By the end of Lacan’s itinerary at the start of the 1980s, this term had taken on a plethora of significations, dividing and sub-dividing into a wide array of distinct-but-related concepts. In English-language Lacanian scholarship, jouissance almost always is left untranslated, since its English equivalent, “enjoyment,” fails to capture the specifically sexual connotations of the original French word.
The best way to begin getting a sense of what Lacan means by jouissance is through reference to the Lacanian distinction between drive and desire (see 2.4.2 above) in conjunction with select stipulations by Freud regarding the infamous death drive (Todestrieb) of Freud’s later dual drive theory (first laid out in Beyond the Pleasure Principle (1920)). Like Freud’s Todestrieb, Lacan’s jouissance is “beyond the pleasure principle” (this being another reason why the English “enjoyment,” as synonymous with pleasure, is an inappropriate translation). The post-1920 Freud muses that all drives might be said to be death drives, meaning that each and every drive perhaps works, at least in certain respects at certain times, contrary to the pursuit of the pleasurable as balance, gratification, homeostasis, satisfaction, and so on. Along these same lines, the Lacanian drive extracts “enjoyment” from the thwartings and failures of desire; whereas the latter is oriented by the tantalizingly elusive telos of pleasure qua satisfaction, the former generates its jouissance-beyond-pleasure precisely through the inhibiting of desire itself. The many possible sadistic and masochistic implications of this side of the libidinal economy are not difficult to imagine.
One of several clinical phenomena pushing Freud into dethroning the pleasure principle in 1920 as the formerly hegemonic ruler of the psyche in its entirety is “repetition compulsion” (Wiederholungszwang)—specifically, the psyche’s perplexing, spontaneous compulsive repeating of that which is painful and/or traumatic (examples of this include post-traumatic disorders, so-called “negative therapeutic reaction,” and the recurrent types of self-defeats unconsciously arranged by neurotics for themselves). One of the theoretical functions of the death drive is to o-count for whatever disregards or disrupts the reign of the pleasure principle as a fundamental “law” of mental life. In Lacan’s conceptual apparatus, jouissance sometimes likewise refers to an overriding force/tendency compelling repetitions of experiences or events upsetting the calm, delicate equilibrium of psychical subjectivity’s Imaginary-Symbolic reality (hence the association of jouissance with the Real).
In the process of the neonate as a biological being acquiring both an ego and a speaking subjectivity—this involves the living organism being submitted to the mediating matrices of Imaginary-Symbolic realities—the human creature supposedly loses, through symbolic castration (see 2.4.1 above), access to an immediate, undiluted jouissance in its raw, unmitigated intensities (whether this is an actual, factual occurrence in linear, chronological ontogeny or an après-coup, retrospective fantasy is a complicated issue in Lacanian theory). The jouissance presumably lost to the speaking subject returns only in the guises of what might be labeled “limit experiences,” namely, encounters with that which is annihilating, inassimilable, overwhelming, traumatic, or unbearable. Similarly, jouissance, in this vein, is related to transgressive violations, the breaching of boundaries and breaking of barriers. It is difficult, if not impossible, for the parlêtre to accommodate, tolerate, and digest. The speaking being is forced to cohabitate uneasily with its always problematic jouissance.
2.4.3 Fantasy and Object a
In line with Freud’s discussions of fantasizing in psychical life, Lacan treats fantasies, particularly those functioning at the level of fundamental formations of the unconscious, as schematizations (in a quasi-Kantian respect) of desiring subjectivity. Put differently, the wants and wishes of a particular subject are shaped and governed by a peculiar skeletal template, an idiosyncratic and paradigmatic Ur-scene, in which this desiring subject is positioned in a specific manner vis-à-vis a specific object of its desire. This fundamental template/scene is an unconscious formation operating as a transcendental condition of possibility for the subject’s libidinal economy in all its crucial, symptomatic manifestations. Lacan’s matheme for the fantasy is $ ◊ a. The $ stands for the subject of desire brought into being by the barring/splitting consequences of Others’ mediating influences (see 2.3 and 2.4.1 above).
The a stands for objet petit a, that is, object a as the “object-cause of desire.” Lacan employs this latter phrase for object a because this “object” is a spectral, virtual construct of what would qualify as “IT” for the desiring subject (see 2.4.1 above), with this libidinal-transcendental schema of desire’s object (i.e., a) “causing” select given empirical objects in a person’s libidinal-amorous history and experience to be desired as stand-ins for “IT.” However, these substitutes are always and necessarily inadequate and unsatisfactory due to an insurmountable, ineliminable gap between the more-than-empirical fantasmatic objet a originating in the subject’s unconscious past and the empirical objects present and future incarnating it. These latter objects are situated in Imaginary-Symbolic reality, condemned partially and imperfectly to embody an interminably receding and elusive surplus (i.e., the impossible-qua-Real dimension of object a).
To refer back one last time to the matheme of fantasy ($ ◊ a), the diamond-shaped “lozenge” (poinçon) ◊ can be read as a condensation of four symbols: one, ∧ (the logical symbol for conjunction [“and”]); two, ∨ (the logical symbol for disjunction [“or”]); three, > (the mathematical symbol for “greater than”); and, four, < (the mathematical symbol for “less than”). As per Lacan’s matheme, the subject’s desires are scripted and orchestrated by an unconscious fundamental fantasy in which the desiring subject ($) is positioned in relation to its corresponding object-cause of desire (a). Hence, ∧, ∨, >, and < represent, in a deliberately loose and open fashion, possible variants of this positioning of $ vis-à-vis a. Singular subjects flesh out conjunction, disjunction, being “greater than,” and being “less than” in their own styles, namely, as their unique fantasies of merger or symbiosis (conjunction), scorn or refusal (disjunction), mastery or domination (“greater than”), slavery or submission (“less than”), and any number of other possible particularizations of these four basic categories of rapport.
In some of Lacan’s earlier presentations of the mirror stage, the a serves as an abbreviation for autre (other). More precisely, in this context, a refers primarily to the little-o-other as the Imaginary ego (see 2.2 and 2.3 above). The ego is an “other,” a not-me misrecognized as “me,” insofar as it is brought into existence through a combination of an object external to the (proto-)subject (i.e., the imago-Gestalt of the body image) and the interests of Symbolic and Real Others investing this object through words and behaviors. Within the framework of the mirror stage, a (usually as a’) also designates alter-egos as the Imaginary partners with which the ego itself is inextricably intertwined, invariably defining itself through reference to these partners.
Furthermore, there indeed is a thread of continuity between the a of the mirror stage and object a: Both ego (as a) and fantasy (with its a) unconsciously are the subject’s fateful answers to the questions, “What does the Other want?” and “How must I position myself with respect to the desire of the Other?” (see 2.3 above). Lacan’s a, like the rest of his mathemes, is deliberately handled as akin to an algebraic variable. It is a placeholder for any number of particular types of determinants: what an Other desires, what I must be so as to be the object of an Other’s desire, what would at last lay to rest my restless strivings and yearnings, what would do so for a significant Other to whom I remain attached, etc. But, in all cases, a reflects Lacan’s Hegelian-Kojèvian slogan having it that, “man’s desire is the desire of the Other.”
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Post by johnny two cool on Dec 17, 2023 12:58:23 GMT -5
Thanks to chalie, I understand Freud’s whole thing about the Irish being impervious to psychoanalysis
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Post by jeanxseberg on Dec 17, 2023 13:02:28 GMT -5
Chalie was your mother a particularly stoic or assertive woman growing up
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Post by floorpunchchalie on Dec 17, 2023 13:07:04 GMT -5
Chalie was your mother a particularly stoic or assertive woman growing up She was a server/waitress for 40+ years |
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Post by fuzzyslippers on Dec 17, 2023 13:10:14 GMT -5
That doesn’t answer the question? Do you think stoicism is a profession?
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Post by anointed on Dec 17, 2023 13:10:17 GMT -5
no one is asking anointed how his double date wen't… sup? i crashed at my date's place and i just got back from brunch. long story short we had a good time. |
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Post by floorpunchchalie on Dec 17, 2023 13:11:09 GMT -5
Crashing at said person’s place is a good sign!
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Post by floorpunchchalie on Dec 17, 2023 13:11:57 GMT -5
That doesn’t answer the question? Do you think stoicism is a profession? She was a hard working woman who had to put up with a lot of different personalities to put it nicely |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 17, 2023 13:26:24 GMT -5
Her and Lex are by far the best apps I've been on. It makes more sense because if you go on a date with a lesbian you'll be invited to like ten different things so you actually can still meet lots of people indirectly through those apps. As far as straight guys go they're literally everywhere; if you can't find one you're just not going outside enough. you ever try Feeld? It had potential |
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