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Post by jeanxseberg on Dec 17, 2023 13:30:47 GMT -5
Her and Lex are by far the best apps I've been on. It makes more sense because if you go on a date with a lesbian you'll be invited to like ten different things so you actually can still meet lots of people indirectly through those apps. As far as straight guys go they're literally everywhere; if you can't find one you're just not going outside enough. you ever try Feeld? It had potential I'm kind of racist against polyamorous people so I figured that's what it's about, but I'll give it a fair shot anyway thank you |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 17, 2023 13:33:12 GMT -5
you ever try Feeld? It had potential I'm kind of racist against polyamorous people so I figured that's what it's about, but I'll give it a fair shot anyway thank you polyam really ainβt for me either, and there is a fair amount of that on there. But itβs generally just because the app attracts queer people. |
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Post by rowdiedondown on Dec 17, 2023 13:42:48 GMT -5
Her and Lex are by far the best apps I've been on. It makes more sense because if you go on a date with a lesbian you'll be invited to like ten different things so you actually can still meet lots of people indirectly through those apps. As far as straight guys go they're literally everywhere; if you can't find one you're just not going outside enough. you ever try Feeld? It had potential I had decent luck on this a few years ago. I think I slept with like 4 dudes off of this (0 good sex was had tho). Weird thing was, 3 of them were premed vegans. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 17, 2023 13:45:52 GMT -5
Feeld is for emotionally damaged gay adjacent shit. Bad sex is a guarantee
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Post by sarahohio on Dec 17, 2023 13:52:49 GMT -5
I could write another essay about why I'm critical of the idea but in short I think at this point it's a lot like porn where it destroys male self-esteem, coerces them into paying real money, makes them increasingly more and more picky and shallow through looking at hundreds of women per hour, etc. Being on Tinder in like 2017 vs 2023 is absolutely not the same experience. Even Hinge kind of sucks now. It's fine if you're a hot girl but for a regular dude it seems like it's just pay for play and being ignored and ghosted all day. Which seems to be like Chalies kink so terrible idea i guess everyoneβs experiences are different and depends on the area and other variables but when i was on the dating apps i had tons of matches wen't on tons of dates etc until i eventually met my wife also met my fiance on tinder (i was a bit shocked it was on there and not another app). Before him I met several people i stayed friends with, had good sex with, or just had sick dates with.
also, you really don't need to pay for any of the apps. swipe on who you like, if they like you back you can start freely talking.
For Chalie, it doesn't matter if you are good at meeting people in person. Apps gives you a chance to meet all sorts of people you may not encounter in the wild, but have a lot in common with. So many more options and chances to connect. Especially living in a big city like Philly. I truly think you would have more success with the apps than with how things have been going.
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Post by jeanxseberg on Dec 17, 2023 14:03:49 GMT -5
i guess everyoneβs experiences are different and depends on the area and other variables but when i was on the dating apps i had tons of matches wen't on tons of dates etc until i eventually met my wife also met my fiance on tinder (i was a bit shocked it was on there and not another app). Before him I met several people i stayed friends with, had good sex with, or just had sick dates with.
also, you really don't need to pay for any of the apps. swipe on who you like, if they like you back you can start freely talking. For Chalie, it doesn't matter if you are good at meeting people in person. Apps gives you a chance to meet all sorts of people you may not encounter in the wild, but have a lot in common with. So many more options and chances to connect. Especially living in a big city like Philly. I truly think you would have more success with the apps than with how things have been going.
Yes but you are a hot girl! It's like how clubs let women in for free. You would not be in a position to pay for swipes to begin with Not saying that as a diss against Chalie btw. Just saying from my experience that a lot of the financial model of dating apps have noticeably changed post-covid and the Silicon Valley money pool drying out. A lot of them were funded by vc money and now sustain themselves by all sorts of microtransactions, showing super attractive women to men and then paywalling the chance to respond to their profile, shit like that. It wasn't like that 5 years ago it's like a relatively recent development. Again my apinion is just that and not to be taken overly seriously but I met one of the longest and best relationships of my life through OkCupid years ago and wen't back this year and the entire website changed. They started to even paywall viewing all your messages even for women, and the whole UI of the site in general is a sort of Tinder clone now, which kind of fundamentally goes against what OkCupid was all about. It was always for the nerds who actually like writing long essays on the 'about me' section of a profile. To me it's a lot like how messageboards like this used to be common all over the internet and are now a dying breed. Platforms just change when they get increasingly more consolidated and profit driven. But that doesn't mean it's not impossible to find love! I have plenty of friends that have found someone in this year alone. I just think the experience now is not quite what it was when these apps were relatively more new and it feels noticeably more frustrating than before. |
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Post by jeanxseberg on Dec 17, 2023 14:17:18 GMT -5
you ever try Feeld? It had potential I had decent luck on this a few years ago. I think I slept with like 4 dudes off of this (0 good sex was had tho). Weird thing was, 3 of them were premed vegans. That's hilarious but I also think there's really an algorithmic aspect to it especially if they explicitly mention those attributes on their profile. When I was still on Hinge I matched with a guy who was 6'7" and then my feed just started being non-stop men who were exactly 6'7". I think I was talking to three of them at once at one point until I realized none of them quite have the game to pull off the fantasy that inspired me to match in the first place. Would've been hot though I'm like 5'2" so their loss! |
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Post by SUN HIT FACE on Dec 17, 2023 14:17:38 GMT -5
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Post by ππππππππππππ on Dec 17, 2023 14:18:12 GMT -5
DELETE YOUR HEIGHT BEFORE CHALIE SEES IT
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Post by SUN HIT FACE on Dec 17, 2023 14:21:29 GMT -5
Itβs all fun and games until you end up on Chalieβs βMount Rushmore of the women on hereβ
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Post by jeanxseberg on Dec 17, 2023 14:21:43 GMT -5
DELETE YOUR HEIGHT BEFORE CHALIE SEES IT Better yet I should just disappear again for another couple of weeks. It's been real everyone |
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Post by Jon Joseph in a golf cart. on Dec 17, 2023 14:28:46 GMT -5
DELETE YOUR HEIGHT BEFORE CHALIE SEES IT Better yet I should just disappear again for another couple of weeks. It's been real everyone I think you trying to coach Chalie to no avail (not your fault btw) has been fun. |
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Post by MMST3K on Dec 17, 2023 14:33:34 GMT -5
Itβs all fun and games until you end up on Chalieβs βMount Rushmore of the women on hereβ  |
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Post by fuzzyslippers on Dec 17, 2023 14:43:04 GMT -5
I met my last gf on OKCupid in 2015, and when I wen't back to it in 2019 it was borderline unrecognizable
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Post by floorpunchchalie on Dec 17, 2023 15:04:11 GMT -5
i guess everyoneβs experiences are different and depends on the area and other variables but when i was on the dating apps i had tons of matches wen't on tons of dates etc until i eventually met my wife also met my fiance on tinder (i was a bit shocked it was on there and not another app). Before him I met several people i stayed friends with, had good sex with, or just had sick dates with.
also, you really don't need to pay for any of the apps. swipe on who you like, if they like you back you can start freely talking.
For Chalie, it doesn't matter if you are good at meeting people in person. Apps gives you a chance to meet all sorts of people you may not encounter in the wild, but have a lot in common with. So many more options and chances to connect. Especially living in a big city like Philly. I truly think you would have more success with the apps than with how things have been going.
I ventured onto tumblr dot com for years and had lots of success there tbh. I flew out to Reno, Nevada where I ended up in Lake Tahoe (absolutely beautiful) and then parts in California with someone I met off there. She came out to Philly a few times and that was a good time for three years. I wen't back out there and ended up in Vegas. That was probably the ultimate of highs but then covid struck in 2020 and other dynamics played into that relationship dissolving. She is now married with her adopted son so that is nice to see! Another bout of meeting someone online I ventured out to Tampa, Florida recently which I think most people know the backstory there. You might be like Chalz, you're killing me what about Philly? Philly is a dead zone to me. It's strange but I never once connected with any woman from this city or state. I usually always meet women from New York or New Jersey and hit it off. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 17, 2023 15:07:44 GMT -5
DELETE YOUR HEIGHT BEFORE CHALIE SEES IT Better yet I should just disappear again for another couple of weeks. It's been real everyone stay and post w me |
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Post by jeanxseberg on Dec 17, 2023 15:44:29 GMT -5
It's not strange. People will always say that you can find the same kind of people anywhere but I disagree, that is definitely a real thing to an extent. Even if it's just placebo and you just happen to have a better outlook in a novel environment. I love New England. I really like the actual people in Los Angeles a lot, but for the most part I've never actually felt I fit in here at all. It would probably be way different if I had grown up in a less soulless part but growing up in the valley captures much of the monotony of living in a suburban shithole with all the cost and stress of living in a huge city.
I lived around Boston and then in upstate NY the past couple of years then I had a pretty debilitating breakup that kind of destroyed my entire life for a while, so out of paralysis I hauled all my shit across the country to move back home and now I already kind of want to move back. It's great to do stupid shit like that; I've definitely done all the clichΓ©s imaginable to change my outlook on the world. Sell all your shit constantly, move to a new place for no good reason, work odd jobs, shave your head, etc. Some people are the type to prefer to use romance as a catalyst for doing what they would otherwise tell themselves to be too irrational, because love just gets a pass for being irrational.
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Post by SUN HIT FACE on Dec 17, 2023 16:04:39 GMT -5
DELETE YOUR HEIGHT BEFORE CHALIE SEES IT Better yet I should just disappear again for another couple of weeks. It's been real everyone Very sad to read/hear if true⦠|
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Post by tandoori jones on Dec 17, 2023 16:06:12 GMT -5
Better yet I should just disappear again for another couple of weeks. It's been real everyone Very sad to read/hear if true⦠RIP you just never know what someone is going through |
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Post by AL πβ¨π¦ on Dec 17, 2023 16:11:01 GMT -5
I bet chalie would absolutely crush it in the Midwest
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Post by tandoori jones on Dec 17, 2023 16:11:50 GMT -5
I bet chalie would absolutely crush it in the Midwest heβs not blue collar enough |
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Post by AL πβ¨π¦ on Dec 17, 2023 16:15:59 GMT -5
I bet chalie would absolutely crush it in the Midwest heβs not blue collar enough nah he'd be getting pizza and ice cream with a big boob queen that loves sports and traditional values in no time |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 17, 2023 16:19:02 GMT -5
Chalie I have a crucial question for you - is the attention you're receiving ITT wanted or not?
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Post by tandoori jones on Dec 17, 2023 16:20:15 GMT -5
heβs not blue collar enough nah he'd be getting pizza and ice cream with a big boob queen that loves sports and traditional values in no time traditional values means heβs outside changing the ball joints on the farm truck on weekends not organizing his funko pops while listening to blink 182 |
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Post by jimmyspudboy on Dec 17, 2023 16:24:21 GMT -5
Attachment is the root of suffering, the only constant in life is change. Save yourself the emotional and mental stress and detach yourself from whatever notions you may have.
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Post by chaospouch on Dec 17, 2023 16:25:36 GMT -5
Attachment is the root of suffering, the only constant in life is change. Save yourself the emotional and mental stress and detach yourself from whatever notions you may have. Yeah right |
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Post by floorpunchchalie on Dec 17, 2023 16:28:33 GMT -5
Chalie I have a crucial question for you - is the attention you're receiving ITT wanted or not? Honestly I thought I get 2-3 replies then we carry on to someone else. I did not expect 8 pages. |
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Post by AL πβ¨π¦ on Dec 17, 2023 16:30:16 GMT -5
nah he'd be getting pizza and ice cream with a big boob queen that loves sports and traditional values in no time traditional values means heβs outside changing the ball joints on the farm truck on weekends not organizing his funko pops while listening to blink 182 so what you're saying is the women of Philadelphia aren't the problem here? |
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Post by Cholo Molester on Dec 17, 2023 16:34:36 GMT -5
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Post by floorpunchchalie on Dec 17, 2023 16:39:25 GMT -5
It's not strange. People will always say that you can find the same kind of people anywhere but I disagree, that is definitely a real thing to an extent. Even if it's just placebo and you just happen to have a better outlook in a novel environment. I love New England. I really like the actual people in Los Angeles a lot, but for the most part I've never actually felt I fit in here at all. It would probably be way different if I had grown up in a less soulless part but growing up in the valley captures much of the monotony of living in a suburban shithole with all the cost and stress of living in a huge city. I lived around Boston and then in upstate NY the past couple of years then I had a pretty debilitating breakup that kind of destroyed my entire life for a while, so out of paralysis I hauled all my shit across the country to move back home and now I already kind of want to move back. It's great to do stupid shit like that; I've definitely done all the clichΓ©s imaginable to change my outlook on the world. Sell all your shit constantly, move to a new place for no good reason, work odd jobs, shave your head, etc. Some people are the type to prefer to use romance as a catalyst for doing what they would otherwise tell themselves to be too irrational, because love just gets a pass for being irrational. It sounds like you been all over the place and I'm sure that break up was tough seeing that you said it destroyed your entire life for a while. At least you keep trying though and just don't completely give up. I respect that! I think it starts with self love and self worth first and foremost and then all the other stuff comes. Love is often irrational because love is a gamble. We might sometimes go all in but does it always work out? No. However when it does it's nice to know that I didn't leave with any regrets. |
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