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Post by concealer on Jul 11, 2024 10:30:15 GMT -5
Going to abandoned coal mines in the woods with strange men the first time you meet them twu
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Post by Thin Lizzy Gulag Graduate on Jul 11, 2024 10:31:59 GMT -5
Yeah northeastern PA/southern NY is basically the end of Appalachia, generally speaking. I guess technically it runs up through Maine but culturally/socioeconomically it kinda stops at the pa/ny border region
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Post by Thin Lizzy Gulag Graduate on Jul 11, 2024 10:32:19 GMT -5
Going to abandoned coal mines in the woods with strange men the first time you meet them twu Let’s go on a date
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Post by NUKE THE INTERNET on Jul 11, 2024 10:34:10 GMT -5
Yeah northeastern PA/southern NY is basically the end of Appalachia, generally speaking. I guess technically it runs up through Maine but culturally/socioeconomically it kinda stops at the pa/ny border region Last spring and summer I spent a lot of time in Binghamton and the surrounding area for work. Can absolutely confirm.
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Post by youthofwhodey on Jul 11, 2024 10:55:00 GMT -5
Isnt there a decent grind and pv scene in Binghamton?
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Post by cfloyd3 on Jul 11, 2024 11:51:19 GMT -5
I met my GF on Tinder 5 years ago, our first date was like 4 miles into the national forest, where we explored around, picnicking on the river with no cell service, lots of windy twists and turns like thirty minutes from my house and hours away from hers. She hasn’t left since.
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Post by cfloyd3 on Jul 11, 2024 11:52:12 GMT -5
First date idea, we go explore tidal pools and convince you to swim in the rip current.
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Post by Marco Ducatti on Jul 11, 2024 12:06:58 GMT -5
ive never done a first date outside of a bar or coffee
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Post by floorpunchchalie on Jul 11, 2024 12:14:18 GMT -5
I heard coffee dates are the play for first dates
Don’t do what I do and take someone to a 4:05 pm baseball game. In my head I think it sounds fun but then you sit in the heat and yeah not so much.
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Post by Perm’d by God on Jul 11, 2024 12:21:40 GMT -5
gf and I hung out for five days, it was nice. That was da date. I don't think I've ever really had much of a first date with anyone tbh.
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Post by Insufferable and uncompromisin on Jul 11, 2024 12:28:45 GMT -5
Once I was taken to a play on a first date which obviously sucked because we didn’t get to talk whatsoever. Also it was an experimental play where it happens around the audience, but the chairs didn’t swivel so we were uncomfortably contorted the entire time
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Post by oatmeal on Jul 11, 2024 12:29:31 GMT -5
Isnt there a decent grind and pv scene in Binghamton? Ain’t shit else to do
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Post by ITID on Jul 11, 2024 12:59:54 GMT -5
Men are scary. Gf just told me a story of one of her best friends ex's caught his gf cheating and beat her in the head with a hammer, and she got a hold of her phone durring and called the guy she cheated with and he got the cops there and cop shot and killed him. She survived somehow, but I'm sure is physically and mentally fucked up long term. Lotta psycho dudes out there. Took me a long time to understand that all men exist as a threat of violence. Glad he's dead tho
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Post by JDS on Jul 11, 2024 13:07:37 GMT -5
I think people go into dating apps with the wrong mindset. Most people on the street you walk by you don't look at twice. Kind of like the apps. You have to sort through a lot of "trash" to find your "treasure" on dating apps just like all the people you walk by. Also, you shouldn't get discouraged if you shoot your shot and it doesn't work. Once again, in person most people wouldn't even bother shooting their shot out of nerves. At least you put yourself out there and tried. Get excited for dates, but don't look at the person like they hold the key to your future happiness. I think the big thing people forget is they need to impress you or keep your attention as well. Don't put all that pressure on yourself. If the date sucks or it doesn't work out, at least it can help you realize what you actually want in the future...and that should not be a person that doesn't want you. That being said, tinder and bumble both were a good enough time for me. Some disappointment along the way, but you just have to do some good self talk. Did some dating, some fucking, some long term, and at the very least if they were bad dates I had some good stories to tell my friends. Oh and I guess one date turned into marriage, so that was cool. PS. Would take someone that says they like to go on adventures any day over someone that leaves their profile completely blank. Like their hotness is supposed to just be enough for me or they just can't even be fucked to toss out a few convo starters? pass. I had no problem making the first move, but you gotta give me something to work with! About to go on a two week cross country adventure with the woman I've been dating since January. Stoked
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Post by youthofwhodey on Jul 11, 2024 13:16:02 GMT -5
My best friend hasnt been laid or dated anyone in 12 years. He's super depressed and on all the apps, but hes very not attractive and a giant nerd. He doesnt drink alcohol or coffee and is a super picky eater. His first date options are kind of limited because of that but also he's only been on like two in that time span. He always asks me and my gf for advice but its kind of impossible to give him advice because he is how he is. He's also super picky and only likes super skinny chicks. Its kind of draining to always hear him complain about being alone when he doesnt take any advice seriously.
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Post by cfloyd3 on Jul 11, 2024 13:21:25 GMT -5
Sounds like he needs to go on Queer Eye
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Post by Cholo Molester on Jul 11, 2024 13:22:44 GMT -5
I learned a long time ago that I can't get too involved in my homies' love life. Like that saying goes, you can lead a horse to water but you can't teach your friends how not to be infantilized slobs armed with weaponized incompetence and borderline racism/misogyny. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Post by youthofwhodey on Jul 11, 2024 13:25:01 GMT -5
Sounds like he needs to go on Queer Eye I legit said that if they ever come here I'm nominating him. He could use it bad. He did recently step up his style some and start wearing clothes that fit right, but his grooming and mentality is terrible, and he refuses to get his own place until he can buy a home. (He's been living with his dad since I moved in with my gf two years ago and left him solo)
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Post by JDS on Jul 11, 2024 13:26:23 GMT -5
My best friend hasnt been laid or dated anyone in 12 years. He's super depressed and on all the apps, but hes very not attractive and a giant nerd. He doesnt drink alcohol or coffee and is a super picky eater. His first date options are kind of limited because of that but also he's only been on like two in that time span. He always asks me and my gf for advice but its kind of impossible to give him advice because he is how he is. He's also super picky and only likes super skinny chicks. Its kind of draining to always hear him complain about being alone when he doesnt take any advice seriously. maybe he should visit some sex workers
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Post by cfloyd3 on Jul 11, 2024 13:27:06 GMT -5
How do people become such cave dwellers
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Post by concealer on Jul 11, 2024 13:27:36 GMT -5
I have a buddy who’s a lifelong incel type. I love him to death and he’s a good dude but he’s just got such a tough mix of unrequited girl pickiness and social anxiety and niche interests. He’s the type who decides he likes a girl and fixates only on her for a very long time, but making little to no attempts at anything but getting so hung up that months or years pass before he moves on.
I only see/talk to him a couple times a year since he lives a few hours away so I don’t feel it’s my place to pry or push because I don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable or like I’m picking at something he may be insecure about. He’ll come and stay a couple nights at my house once or twice a year (coming next week actually) and him, my wife and I will all just hang and watch movies or chat or whatever. I just want him to be happy, be it with himself or with another person. There may be a level of spectrum involved in it as well
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Post by ITID on Jul 11, 2024 13:29:06 GMT -5
My best friend hasnt been laid or dated anyone in 12 years. He's super depressed and on all the apps, but hes very not attractive and a giant nerd. He doesnt drink alcohol or coffee and is a super picky eater. His first date options are kind of limited because of that but also he's only been on like two in that time span. He always asks me and my gf for advice but its kind of impossible to give him advice because he is how he is. He's also super picky and only likes super skinny chicks. Its kind of draining to always hear him complain about being alone when he doesnt take any advice seriously. You have a come to Jesus meeting about expectations vs reality? There's a point where you need to assess the you issues and figure out where you can make compromises. I feel like 12 years might be well past that point
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Post by Insufferable and uncompromisin on Jul 11, 2024 13:30:08 GMT -5
I haven't been laid in 12 years. Help me
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Post by ITID on Jul 11, 2024 13:31:15 GMT -5
I haven't been laid in 12 years. Help me As a woman, that's a you issue
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Post by youthofwhodey on Jul 11, 2024 13:34:40 GMT -5
My best friend hasnt been laid or dated anyone in 12 years. He's super depressed and on all the apps, but hes very not attractive and a giant nerd. He doesnt drink alcohol or coffee and is a super picky eater. His first date options are kind of limited because of that but also he's only been on like two in that time span. He always asks me and my gf for advice but its kind of impossible to give him advice because he is how he is. He's also super picky and only likes super skinny chicks. Its kind of draining to always hear him complain about being alone when he doesnt take any advice seriously. maybe he should visit some sex workers Tried that and he's not willing. He wants love and a relationship not sex. I told him getting out and hooking up is a way to get into a relationship and get your confidence up but he really just cant do that either.
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Post by andross on Jul 11, 2024 13:35:31 GMT -5
I see a mail order bride in his future
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Post by Cholo Molester on Jul 11, 2024 13:36:09 GMT -5
gunna be wild when dudes like that get to the end of their life and they realize they could have been a regular at pound town if they didn't have these stupid high and unrealistic standards for women. Yeah bro, you're 5'6", broke, balding, on the spectrum, and overweight, its totally normal for you to save yourself for a 5'11" russian model on Instagram.
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Post by youthofwhodey on Jul 11, 2024 13:37:59 GMT -5
I have a buddy who’s a lifelong incel type. I love him to death and he’s a good dude but he’s just got such a tough mix of unrequited girl pickiness and social anxiety and niche interests. He’s the type who decides he likes a girl and fixates only on her for a very long time, but making little to no attempts at anything but getting so hung up that months or years pass before he moves on. I only see/talk to him a couple times a year since he lives a few hours away so I don’t feel it’s my place to pry or push because I don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable or like I’m picking at something he may be insecure about. He’ll come and stay a couple nights at my house once or twice a year (coming next week actually) and him, my wife and I will all just hang and watch movies or chat or whatever. I just want him to be happy, be it with himself or with another person. There may be a level of spectrum involved in it as well Sounds like our friends are the same person. He is always like "I'm trying to date so and so from high school" and by that he means replying to one girls stories on IG or making small talk with his ex from high school who only dated him then cause he had dense nuggs of fat buds. I'm always telling him he needs to alter his high standards and expectationsand just meet new people but also he's too akward to talk about anything other than anime, comics, sports or metal/hardcore.
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Post by Insufferable and uncompromisin on Jul 11, 2024 13:38:05 GMT -5
Sounds like a self-esteem issue. Go on dates without the expectation of fucking. Keep it low key. Don't think about it like you need to impress someone. Ask about their life and interests. Just see if you're compatible. If not, get outta there and on to the next.
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Post by youthofwhodey on Jul 11, 2024 13:40:39 GMT -5
I see a mail order bride in his future I've been really pushing this option to him lately cause he loves Philipino and Vietnamese chicks. He's not very open to it cause he's worried about contributing to trafficing. But I told him my dad's co worker is the biggest hick in the world and has a mail order bride from Philippines and shes somewhat attractive and loves him and her family loves him cause he bought them a fridge and tv and they go visit there all the time. Could be worse.
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