Love life (ITT: Chalie Danger Sex Play)

[MMST3K]

Aug 16, 2018 13:00:11 GMT -5 quit_everything said:

Aug 15, 2018 14:05:02 GMT -5 Percussionist Foster Grant said:

I wish I could think in those terms because, instead, I'm kinda left questioning what I did wrong. Like, "were those three arguments really THAT bad? Were we not having enough sex? Did I show I cared so much that I eventually smothered her?" I'm not used to someone telling me there's issues with chemistry. I've honestly never struggled to create that spark or build some rapport with women I'm interested in. For awhile I thought maybe she could have cheated, or wanted her ex back or something. I think she's legitimately wrecked over that break up with her ex, because the guy forced her to move two hours from the only world she's known since birth and then broke up with her a month later. She had to move back here with her tail between her legs, get a new job and move in with her family. I'm sure that had a significant impact on her self-worth, hence why I tried so hard to build her back up.

I just don't think she's got her head on straight. It's easier for a person to surround themselves with other people who didn't go to college, don't have any sort of career or long-term ambitions and generally act like adult children because it makes them feel like less of a full-fledged fuck-up at 31 years old.

things would of worked out if you had farted in front of her

Now you've done it everyone duck and cover quick!

[Percussionist Foster Grant]

Aug 16, 2018 13:00:11 GMT -5 quit_everything said:

Aug 15, 2018 14:05:02 GMT -5 Percussionist Foster Grant said:

I wish I could think in those terms because, instead, I'm kinda left questioning what I did wrong. Like, "were those three arguments really THAT bad? Were we not having enough sex? Did I show I cared so much that I eventually smothered her?" I'm not used to someone telling me there's issues with chemistry. I've honestly never struggled to create that spark or build some rapport with women I'm interested in. For awhile I thought maybe she could have cheated, or wanted her ex back or something. I think she's legitimately wrecked over that break up with her ex, because the guy forced her to move two hours from the only world she's known since birth and then broke up with her a month later. She had to move back here with her tail between her legs, get a new job and move in with her family. I'm sure that had a significant impact on her self-worth, hence why I tried so hard to build her back up.

I just don't think she's got her head on straight. It's easier for a person to surround themselves with other people who didn't go to college, don't have any sort of career or long-term ambitions and generally act like adult children because it makes them feel like less of a full-fledged fuck-up at 31 years old.

things would of worked out if you had farted in front of her

Funny stuff, man.

[MMST3K]

I'm sensing some sexual tension between us worship don't worry I know how to relieve it.

[not Worship]

[MMST3K]

Aug 16, 2018 15:05:40 GMT -5 not Worship said:

Wow the 2 f words hold ya roll son

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Aug 16, 2018 1:08:51 GMT -5 majormilfunction said:

I’m getting married in 25 days :)

She’s fucking someone else

[Brah-lie]

Dating in 2018 should come with an instruction manual- shit definitely wasn’t this complicated 10 years ago.

[majormilfunction]

Aug 16, 2018 20:08:09 GMT -5 @machoinsecurity said:

Aug 16, 2018 1:08:51 GMT -5 majormilfunction said:

I’m getting married in 25 days :)

She’s fucking someone else

Time to cue up that one Type O Negative song

[Deleted]

been thinking about my ex a lot lately. we had an odd breakup to say the least & it doesn't help that she started seeing someone new a month or two after.

i know that doesn't mean anything. i also know that i'm definitely not ready for another relationship but i guess i miss the feeling of being wanted.

[Top Rope Swanton]

I don't know what's worse, when I do things wrong in a relationship and can learn from it, or when I do everything right and she's just not sure "in her heart" that it's the "right relationship for her". I guess part of it could be that I don't want kids (right now, at least) and she did. I dunno.

[/venting]

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Aug 18, 2018 10:22:19 GMT -5 @dogmeat said:

been thinking about my ex a lot lately. we had an odd breakup to say the least & it doesn't help that she started seeing someone new a month or two after.

i know that doesn't mean anything. i also know that i'm definitely not ready for another relationship but i guess i miss the feeling of being wanted.

She’s rebounding with someone and it won’t last. You need to focus on yourself. Don’t bother yourself with what she’s doing.

[beckybreach]

I've been kicking around the idea of asking my ex to lunch so we can catch up. It's probably a terrible idea but despite all the bullshit I still care about and miss talking with her.

[itii]

Aug 18, 2018 13:14:23 GMT -5 beckybreach said:

I've been kicking around the idea of asking my ex to lunch so we can catch up. It's probably a terrible idea but despite all the bullshit I still care about and miss talking with her.

[crawlingcosmichorror]

I've just been staying busy. I miss what I had with her so much. Fuck that stupid In Your Eyes song.

[itii]

Aug 20, 2018 20:05:00 GMT -5 Reverend Bïtch said:

i wen't on a date yesterday with a guy i met at a goth dance night but i'm not feeling it simply because he's not into the same kind of music i am. he's super into rap and hip hop and i'm definitely not, even though i can appreciate it. he's a really nice guy but i can't see myself with someone whose only idea of punk is nofx and green day. i feel like that makes me snobby but i don't do much other than listen to music and it's so important to me, and i feel like i might miss out on great people because i'm sort of stuck in my own head about it.

I'm pretty much in the opposite space. I'd be fine with someone who thought I listened to sum41 and thought sportsball was trash, as long as they were interesting. So many boring ass people out there.

And there's plenty of nice guys out there, it doesn't mean they're all worth dating. 

[198d]

Aug 15, 2018 12:22:09 GMT -5 Percussionist Foster Grant said:

I'm single. I had been dating a girl up until mid-April who I ended up really falling for, even though I wasn't sure she was ready to be with someone again until she convinced me she was. I'm a couple years older and (for the most part) have my life sorted out, but she's still sort of... figuring everything out. I'll put a spoiler on the next part, since I'm sure most people don't care.

SPOILER: Click to show

She has a nowhere job, fulfilling orders in a warehouse for an online retailer. She lives with a roommate - who happens to be her brother's baby mama's sister - because she can't afford to live on her own, which is saying something because living costs aren't even extreme here. 95% of her best friends are her current coworkers, the majority of which are unreliable, functioning alcoholics who no call/no show constantly and make her job even more difficult. Her friends who are girls are terrible influences - one is unemployed, living in a house she inherited from dead grandparents. The other, who was actually a friend of mine up until our breakup, has recently been in and out of psychiatric care facilities for depression/suicidle ideation. Her roommate is a drunk who cheats on her boyfriend with guys she meets on Tinder, gets blackout drunk and recently fleed the scene when she crashed her car into a creek while drunk driving. Her friends that are guys are overweight druggies and drunks who likely keep her around because she's a cute girl who they hope eventually lower her standards and sleeps with them.

It's upsetting because, when I met her, it felt like she'd truly had enough and was ready to turn everything around. I bent over backwards for her, attempting to be everything her ex's weren't. I'm talking expensive nights out every weekend, planning trips together, sending flowers to her work when she'd get promoted, cooking dinners for us, concert/show tickets, trying to get to know her friends/family and give them a chance because I know how much they meant to her. I'd even let her do her laundry at my house because her mother flat out told her she couldn't use their washer/dryer anymore. I used to give her the keys to my place so she could hang out there while I was out of town, in case she wanted to get away from her roommate. Basically whatever this girl needed, I was there: Work problems, stress over her abysmal living situation, lack of money, depression/anxiety... I was there. Even after the break-up, I still let her sleep over when she needed to get away from her sketchy roommate, or call at 1:30 AM when something bad happened at work and she was suffering from an anxiety attack.

I'm not sure why I've struggled with this break up so much. She said she wasn't sure about our chemistry, that she still wasn't over her last break-up (the guy she was with for 6+ years who broke up with her just under a year earlier) and that she thought she wanted a relationship but doesn't feel that way now. We got into three arguments over the span of our entire relationship, all of which stemmed from us drinking too much and getting into silly disputes... I'm talking stuff most people would let roll off their back the following morning. I just don't understand why someone would continue picking a life full of bottom feeding, lowest common denominator friends, alcohol, dead end jobs, zero education and no career prospects over a shot at something tangible with a person who's clearly willing to give you the sort of support, stability and encouragement you've lacked most of your life.

Since April, my "love life" has been an abject failure. Within 36 hours of the break up, I got drunk and fooled around with a waitress from my friends restaurant who I eventually discovered was legitimately nuts and has spent time in jail for assaulting an ex, drunk in public, breaking and entering, probation violations, etc. I kept that going for about a month and a half before I finally had to cut her crazy out of my life.

A tattoo artist girl I used to date who moved back from Florida this past spring began sleeping over and we've fooled around on/off, but she gets drunk and tries to start arguments all the time. Seriously constantly. I told her to delete my number this weekend.

I've been spending time with a new girl who's super pretty and nice, but she's a divorcee and seems eager to lock down another serious relationship. I'm not prepared for that sort of thing and it doesn't seem fair to continue spending time with her if we're both looking for entirely different things.

Don’t take this personally, man. But look at the language you use to describe the people in her life. You’re probably correct in your assessment, but in my experience with girls like this, they typically like their friends for who they are and don’t like dudes who they sense judgement from. Just a thought.

Most of my old friends from high school are drunks/junkies who don’t have cars, jobs, and live at home. I watched many girls in our social circle flock to them and ignore me even though I’m from a “stable” background. Maybe she thinks you’re too square, man? If so? That’s okay, there’s plenty of women out there who appreciate the things you offer.

[slander]

Aug 20, 2018 20:05:00 GMT -5 Reverend Bïtch said:

i wen't on a date yesterday with a guy i met at a goth dance night but i'm not feeling it simply because he's not into the same kind of music i am. he's super into rap and hip hop and i'm definitely not, even though i can appreciate it. he's a really nice guy but i can't see myself with someone whose only idea of punk is nofx and green day. i feel like that makes me snobby but i don't do much other than listen to music and it's so important to me, and i feel like i might miss out on great people because i'm sort of stuck in my own head about it.

I'm like this as well, don't think I've ever dated anyone who wasn't into some of the same music I like. Doesn't just have to be punk/metal, my girlfriend currently listens to heaps of hip hop which I dig because it's not stuff I'd deliberately seek out. Couldn't imagine going out with someone who had garbage taste though. That shit would drive me up the wall on a road trip.

[Percussionist Foster Grant]

Aug 20, 2018 20:22:55 GMT -5 198d said:

Aug 15, 2018 12:22:09 GMT -5 Percussionist Foster Grant said:

I'm single. I had been dating a girl up until mid-April who I ended up really falling for, even though I wasn't sure she was ready to be with someone again until she convinced me she was. I'm a couple years older and (for the most part) have my life sorted out, but she's still sort of... figuring everything out. I'll put a spoiler on the next part, since I'm sure most people don't care.

SPOILER: Click to show

She has a nowhere job, fulfilling orders in a warehouse for an online retailer. She lives with a roommate - who happens to be her brother's baby mama's sister - because she can't afford to live on her own, which is saying something because living costs aren't even extreme here. 95% of her best friends are her current coworkers, the majority of which are unreliable, functioning alcoholics who no call/no show constantly and make her job even more difficult. Her friends who are girls are terrible influences - one is unemployed, living in a house she inherited from dead grandparents. The other, who was actually a friend of mine up until our breakup, has recently been in and out of psychiatric care facilities for depression/suicidle ideation. Her roommate is a drunk who cheats on her boyfriend with guys she meets on Tinder, gets blackout drunk and recently fleed the scene when she crashed her car into a creek while drunk driving. Her friends that are guys are overweight druggies and drunks who likely keep her around because she's a cute girl who they hope eventually lower her standards and sleeps with them.

It's upsetting because, when I met her, it felt like she'd truly had enough and was ready to turn everything around. I bent over backwards for her, attempting to be everything her ex's weren't. I'm talking expensive nights out every weekend, planning trips together, sending flowers to her work when she'd get promoted, cooking dinners for us, concert/show tickets, trying to get to know her friends/family and give them a chance because I know how much they meant to her. I'd even let her do her laundry at my house because her mother flat out told her she couldn't use their washer/dryer anymore. I used to give her the keys to my place so she could hang out there while I was out of town, in case she wanted to get away from her roommate. Basically whatever this girl needed, I was there: Work problems, stress over her abysmal living situation, lack of money, depression/anxiety... I was there. Even after the break-up, I still let her sleep over when she needed to get away from her sketchy roommate, or call at 1:30 AM when something bad happened at work and she was suffering from an anxiety attack.

I'm not sure why I've struggled with this break up so much. She said she wasn't sure about our chemistry, that she still wasn't over her last break-up (the guy she was with for 6+ years who broke up with her just under a year earlier) and that she thought she wanted a relationship but doesn't feel that way now. We got into three arguments over the span of our entire relationship, all of which stemmed from us drinking too much and getting into silly disputes... I'm talking stuff most people would let roll off their back the following morning. I just don't understand why someone would continue picking a life full of bottom feeding, lowest common denominator friends, alcohol, dead end jobs, zero education and no career prospects over a shot at something tangible with a person who's clearly willing to give you the sort of support, stability and encouragement you've lacked most of your life.

Since April, my "love life" has been an abject failure. Within 36 hours of the break up, I got drunk and fooled around with a waitress from my friends restaurant who I eventually discovered was legitimately nuts and has spent time in jail for assaulting an ex, drunk in public, breaking and entering, probation violations, etc. I kept that going for about a month and a half before I finally had to cut her crazy out of my life.

A tattoo artist girl I used to date who moved back from Florida this past spring began sleeping over and we've fooled around on/off, but she gets drunk and tries to start arguments all the time. Seriously constantly. I told her to delete my number this weekend.

I've been spending time with a new girl who's super pretty and nice, but she's a divorcee and seems eager to lock down another serious relationship. I'm not prepared for that sort of thing and it doesn't seem fair to continue spending time with her if we're both looking for entirely different things.

Don’t take this personally, man. But look at the language you use to describe the people in her life. You’re probably correct in your assessment, but in my experience with girls like this, they typically like their friends for who they are and don’t like dudes who they sense judgement from. Just a thought.

Most of my old friends from high school are drunks/junkies who don’t have cars, jobs, and live at home. I watched many girls in our social circle flock to them and ignore me even though I’m from a “stable” background. Maybe she thinks you’re too square, man? If so? That’s okay, there’s plenty of women out there who appreciate the things you offer.

I didn't say I judged them or used that language when we were together. If anything I'm the one who attempted to set up situations where I could get to know them better, hang out with them, etc, because I knew they were important to her. It's only after our split that I started realizing she's prone to surrounding herself with deadbeats and losers. Believe me, I wasn't throwing this kind of judgement around when we were together. But, at the same time, I'm not seeing what's exactly wrong with reaching a point in your life where you take stock of the people you decide to give your time to. If all you're doing is surrounding yourself with miserable, aimless and counterproductive people who constantly let you down, what exactly does that say about you?

She's friends with them because that's all she's known for years. It's a security blanket. It's the same reason she stays at a miserable job she hates: Because it's the one she's worked for years and the one she quit for a few months only to eventually crawl back soon after. Because it's comfortable.

I juggle "stable guy" with "adult stuck in arrested development" rather well, so I'm certainly not square. I work a good job, make okay money, have a nice place and I wen't to college. I also pay out the ass for spontaneous trips (flying to Portland in two months, Japan in the fall, London for Christmas), get drunk and hurt myself stage diving at shows and generally act like the same dork hardcore kid I was when I started going to shows nearly twen'ty years ago.

I would argue being "square" is never wanting to leave the place you've lived your whole life, not trying to improve your conditions and generally being a drain on those around you, but hey... that's just me.

[jimmyjump]

Relevant to this discussion... last night I ended up at a fucking Jason Aldean concert, but honestly I'm glad I wen't. I wen't on a second date in the afternoon, and she invited me because a friend had an extra ticket for that night. I straight up would have ghosted this girl in the past, or just never had gone a first date to begin with, but as it turns out we get along really well. Just going to ride this one out and see where it goes.

[sarahohio]

this insanely hot, way out of my league, actually nice guy wants to go on a date with me. we haven't met in person and I'm nervous he is going to realize how average I am in person lol

[itii]

Aug 20, 2018 20:44:38 GMT -5 Reverend Bïtch said:

Aug 20, 2018 20:18:29 GMT -5 itii said:

I'm pretty much in the opposite space. I'd be fine with someone who thought I listened to sum41 and thought sportsball was trash, as long as they were interesting. So many boring ass people out there.

And there's plenty of nice guys out there, it doesn't mean they're all worth dating. 

I'm so fucking boring. All I really know is music. Maybe that's why I'm failing so often.

I can't tell you you're definitively not boring, but you've got a day job with continued education, the satanic stuff and distinct musical interest.  That's a head start on daydrinking brunch and "hanging with my friends."

[tyburn]

I tinder matched with a friend who used to live here, moved away, and just moved back and I'm trying to figure out if this is a date or a friend match and it's fucking with my mind.She invited me out tomorrow and I'm trying to figure out how to approach it so it don't fuck it up or make things weird,

[koreangirls]

Aug 20, 2018 20:05:00 GMT -5 Reverend Bïtch said:

i wen't on a date yesterday with a guy i met at a goth dance night but i'm not feeling it simply because he's not into the same kind of music i am. he's super into rap and hip hop and i'm definitely not, even though i can appreciate it. he's a really nice guy but i can't see myself with someone whose only idea of punk is nofx and green day. i feel like that makes me snobby but i don't do much other than listen to music and it's so important to me, and i feel like i might miss out on great people because i'm sort of stuck in my own head about it.

I gotta say I've never met anyone that listens to the same stuff I do on Tinder or Bumble (even in real life, I've never dated anyone from the "scene"). At best, there's some minor overlap since I'm into a bunch of different genres. And it'd definitely be cool to have that in common since I also listen to music all the time, but I think to me the more important part is that they're open to and not dismissive of what you're listening to. There was one girl that wen't to Leeway and Bracewar with me because she wanted to see a hardcore show, even though the only thing we had in common musically was Zola Jesus, if I remember correctly. On the other hand, I've definitely met girls that'll be like "ugh, that's just yelling" if I send them an example of what I listen to, all the while thinking they listen to quality music. So to me, there's a big difference between those two attitudes, and there's also a difference between being into generic crap, thinking it's the pinnacle of musical achievement, and being passionate about a genre that you yourself aren't.

So yeah, I feel like if that guy's idea of punk is NOFX and Green Day, and he's closed to learning more about it from you, it'd probably suck. But if he's open to it, then fuck it, it just means he hasn't been really exposed to the stuff before.

I don't know, I'm cool with girls listening to whatever as long as they don't act like know-it-alls and are being ignorant about the stuff I'm into.

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Aug 20, 2018 21:26:29 GMT -5 sarahohio said:

this insanely hot, way out of my league, actually nice guy wants to go on a date with me. we haven't met in person and I'm nervous he is going to realize how average I am in person lol

i get where you're coming from because i've had the same thoughts whenever people i felt were "out of my league" were into me but the truth is that there is no such thing as being out of someone's league. there are so many factors that go into why someone is attracted to somebody. 

i'm sure this dude wouldn't have asked you out if he wasn't already into you and i'm sure meeting up in person will make him more into you. that's usually what happens. and if that doesn't happen, fuck it. shit happens. his loss.

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Aug 20, 2018 23:18:09 GMT -5 tyburn said:

I tinder matched with a friend who used to live here, moved away, and just moved back and I'm trying to figure out if this is a date or a friend match and it's fucking with my mind.She invited me out tomorrow and I'm trying to figure out how to approach it so it don't fuck it up or make things weird,

she wants to squeeze that bubble butt

[crawlingcosmichorror]

I'm getting settled into my new place, and once I do I'm going to start seeing what's up on Tinder. My neighborhood has a ton of babes in it and I'm pretty sure I can get at least one to go out with me.

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Aug 21, 2018 9:17:41 GMT -5 crawlingcosmichorror said:

I'm getting settled into my new place, and once I do I'm going to start seeing what's up on Tinder. My neighborhood has a ton of babes in it and I'm pretty sure I can get at least one to go out with me.

I think you need to chill out and work on yourself first. I can't keep track of how many people you've talked about dating on these boards. 

[crawlingcosmichorror]

Aug 21, 2018 9:27:00 GMT -5 @geneweenondrugs said:

Aug 21, 2018 9:17:41 GMT -5 crawlingcosmichorror said:

I'm getting settled into my new place, and once I do I'm going to start seeing what's up on Tinder. My neighborhood has a ton of babes in it and I'm pretty sure I can get at least one to go out with me.

I think you need to chill out and work on yourself first. I can't keep track of how many people you've talked about dating on these boards. 

You're probably right actually.

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Aug 21, 2018 11:16:10 GMT -5 Reverend Bïtch said:

I can't hang with the Satanic singles crowd. I do not fit in as I do not play video games or table games, watch Japanimation, read comics or listen to ghost. I don't know if this is a relief or if I'm doing something very very wrong

def relief

[killthekool]

Aug 21, 2018 11:16:10 GMT -5 Reverend Bïtch said:

I can't hang with the Satanic singles crowd. I do not fit in as I do not play video games or table games, watch Japanimation, read comics or listen to ghost. I don't know if this is a relief or if I'm doing something very very wrong

you are fucking up. all the you have listed are things of prince's and if you cant hang well you should just try church