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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2018 12:24:51 GMT -5
It’s been exactly one month since my girlfriend left me. The first two weeks were two of the toughest weeks I’ve ever had(especially the first). I was about to sign a lease for my own studio in Santa Monica but I decided to move back home to my parents house for a couple months, pay off my credit cards, save a couple month’s rent and move out by years end. I’ve been getting a surprising amount of attention from girls which has been a really nice confident boost. Keeping positive. Hanging out a ton with my best friends but also acquaintances I wouldn’t have previously gone out with. Making new friends in the process. A lot of innocent flirting. Most importantly: Dodgers in the playoffs. I know it was a topic in here a few pages ago and a couple of y’all even reached out to me, which was really cool. Guess I just wanted to drop in and let the thread know that everything is going real good rn. Yah man you’ll be good. You’re in LA, at least. Plenty of single women to go around. |
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Oct 2, 2018 12:39:08 GMT -5
That girl with the two kids texts me this morning asking if she can visit again this weekend. My family's also visiting on Saturday (I live 2.5 hours away from my sister and ninety minutes from my parents, so they use my city as a mid-way point; this time they're dropping off my sisters dogs because they've been watching them while my sister + her family go on vacation) so I'm not sure it's a great idea for her to come down. I also have a good friend visiting from the Bay Area and we're supposed to meet up with former coworkers for drinks. Bay Area girl is like, the closest thing to a non-blood relative I have and I'm not sure I'm ready to invite this 2 Kids Girl into some sorta hangout with old friends. We'll see. It could be fun, I suppose.
Regardless, we'll probably have to have a sit-down and explain how much I like hanging out with her but I'm not in any position to play a prominent role in her children's lives. Also I am NOT moving to where she lives.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2018 12:47:41 GMT -5
That girl with the two kids texts me this morning asking if she can visit again this weekend. My family's also visiting on Saturday (I live 2.5 hours away from my sister and ninety minutes from my parents, so they use my city as a mid-way point; this time they're dropping off my sisters dogs because they've been watching them while my sister + her family go on vacation) so I'm not sure it's a great idea for her to come down. I also have a good friend visiting from the Bay Area and we're supposed to meet up with former coworkers for drinks. Bay Area girl is like, the closest thing to a non-blood relative I have and I'm not sure I'm ready to invite this 2 Kids Girl into some sorta hangout with old friends. We'll see. It could be fun, I suppose. Regardless, we'll probably have to have a sit-down and explain how much I like hanging out with her but I'm not in any position to play a prominent role in her children's lives. Also I am NOT moving to where she lives. I personally think by continuing to hang out with her you’ll just keep inadvertently feeding her signals that you might be interested. I think having the sit down is wise, but I would just distance myself from someone in her position since she’s already confessed to have feelings for you. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2018 12:48:27 GMT -5
posting to see what a trainwreck that becomes
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Oct 2, 2018 13:01:22 GMT -5
That girl with the two kids texts me this morning asking if she can visit again this weekend. My family's also visiting on Saturday (I live 2.5 hours away from my sister and ninety minutes from my parents, so they use my city as a mid-way point; this time they're dropping off my sisters dogs because they've been watching them while my sister + her family go on vacation) so I'm not sure it's a great idea for her to come down. I also have a good friend visiting from the Bay Area and we're supposed to meet up with former coworkers for drinks. Bay Area girl is like, the closest thing to a non-blood relative I have and I'm not sure I'm ready to invite this 2 Kids Girl into some sorta hangout with old friends. We'll see. It could be fun, I suppose. Regardless, we'll probably have to have a sit-down and explain how much I like hanging out with her but I'm not in any position to play a prominent role in her children's lives. Also I am NOT moving to where she lives. I personally think by continuing to hang out with her you’ll just keep inadvertently feeding her signals that you might be interested. I think having the sit down is wise, but I would just distance myself from someone in her position since she’s already confessed to have feelings for you. That's probably an accurate assessment of the situation, although I'm not entirely convinced it's "feelings" she has as much as it's just a realization that "this might be the best I'm going to get at my age with two kids." That sounds kinda rude, but honestly I don't think there are a lot of guys willing to take on this kind of headache. Plus that pool of guys gets even smaller once you factor in she wants somebody responsible and stable. I don't think she's rubbing elbows with too many guys like that up where she lives. But yeah, I'll figure it out. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2018 13:09:43 GMT -5
Speaking as someone responsible and very stable at 32, I wouldn’t want to take on someone else’s kids. Then again I don’t really want little cuties of my own. Nothing wrong with kids, either. Just do not need that responsibility screwing with my perfect little world where I exist in my own reality.
I don’t even have a dog, that’s how serious I am about not wanting to care for another life form. My parents get all the attention that remains.
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Post by RealVile on Oct 2, 2018 13:41:42 GMT -5
Got my heart broken big time at the age of 30 about 8 months ago, still not really over it. Now I'm fucked til I find someone better, is that how it works?
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Post by itii on Oct 2, 2018 13:43:24 GMT -5
That girl with the two kids texts me this morning asking if she can visit again this weekend. My family's also visiting on Saturday (I live 2.5 hours away from my sister and ninety minutes from my parents, so they use my city as a mid-way point; this time they're dropping off my sisters dogs because they've been watching them while my sister + her family go on vacation) so I'm not sure it's a great idea for her to come down. I also have a good friend visiting from the Bay Area and we're supposed to meet up with former coworkers for drinks. Bay Area girl is like, the closest thing to a non-blood relative I have and I'm not sure I'm ready to invite this 2 Kids Girl into some sorta hangout with old friends. We'll see. It could be fun, I suppose. Regardless, we'll probably have to have a sit-down and explain how much I like hanging out with her but I'm not in any position to play a prominent role in her children's lives. Also I am NOT moving to where she lives. I personally think by continuing to hang out with her you’ll just keep inadvertently feeding her signals that you might be interested. I think having the sit down is wise, but I would just distance myself from someone in her position since she’s already confessed to have feelings for you. I dunno if inadvertent is even the right word. You set this like the best case scenario is she might miss meeting your WHOLE family but still gets introduced to your longer time friends and social circle. That's not proper boundary management. You should defitinely let it happen and live blog it, though. |
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Oct 2, 2018 14:05:24 GMT -5
I'll Facebook live it for BiL approval.
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Post by not Worship on Oct 9, 2018 14:07:17 GMT -5
My boy just told me that he always swipes left as soon as he sees someones tinder pics taking too long to load because "thats not his problem". Things that are legit
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Post by not Worship on Oct 9, 2018 14:07:43 GMT -5
Also i def blew my chance at the pretty girl so now i have mopey dick
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Post by Thin Lizzy Gulag Graduate on Oct 9, 2018 15:10:39 GMT -5
I personally think by continuing to hang out with her you’ll just keep inadvertently feeding her signals that you might be interested. I think having the sit down is wise, but I would just distance myself from someone in her position since she’s already confessed to have feelings for you. That's probably an accurate assessment of the situation, although I'm not entirely convinced it's "feelings" she has as much as it's just a realization that "this might be the best I'm going to get at my age with two kids." That sounds kinda rude, but honestly I don't think there are a lot of guys willing to take on this kind of headache. Plus that pool of guys gets even smaller once you factor in she wants somebody responsible and stable. I don't think she's rubbing elbows with too many guys like that up where she lives. But yeah, I'll figure it out. This all sounds like a mess waiting to happen. How old are you that she’s still cracking “we’ll get married when there’s no one left” jokes? |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2018 17:12:20 GMT -5
My boy just told me that he always swipes left as soon as he sees someones tinder pics taking too long to load because "thats not his problem". Things that are legit I do the same. Ain’t got time for that shif |
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Oct 9, 2018 17:22:04 GMT -5
That's probably an accurate assessment of the situation, although I'm not entirely convinced it's "feelings" she has as much as it's just a realization that "this might be the best I'm going to get at my age with two kids." That sounds kinda rude, but honestly I don't think there are a lot of guys willing to take on this kind of headache. Plus that pool of guys gets even smaller once you factor in she wants somebody responsible and stable. I don't think she's rubbing elbows with too many guys like that up where she lives. But yeah, I'll figure it out. This all sounds like a mess waiting to happen. How old are you that she’s still cracking “we’ll get married when there’s no one left” jokes? She's 29, I'm 33. She wasn't being serious, it was said in jest. I didn't anticipate that being conveyed via text when discussing strangers with other strangers. Anyway, I bailed on the girl on Saturday and she didn't speak to me for two days afterwards. Not even mad about it. I also kissed my friends sister on Friday, who I used to date, but she's been seeing somebody on/off and now shit's weird. I would say I shouldn't leave my house anymore, but this happened in my own kitchen while everybody was on the porch. |
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Post by Thin Lizzy Gulag Graduate on Oct 9, 2018 21:45:10 GMT -5
This all sounds like a mess waiting to happen. How old are you that she’s still cracking “we’ll get married when there’s no one left” jokes? She's 29, I'm 33. She wasn't being serious, it was said in jest. I didn't anticipate that being conveyed via text when discussing strangers with other strangers. Anyway, I bailed on the girl on Saturday and she didn't speak to me for two days afterwards. Not even mad about it. I also kissed my friends sister on Friday, who I used to date, but she's been seeing somebody on/off and now shit's weird. I would say I shouldn't leave my house anymore, but this happened in my own kitchen while everybody was on the porch. best relationship i ever had was with a friends sister. would do it again even knowing how crazy she is. |
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Post by crawlingcosmichorror on Oct 9, 2018 21:49:01 GMT -5
This all sounds like a mess waiting to happen. How old are you that she’s still cracking “we’ll get married when there’s no one left” jokes? She's 29, I'm 33. She wasn't being serious, it was said in jest. I didn't anticipate that being conveyed via text when discussing strangers with other strangers. Anyway, I bailed on the girl on Saturday and she didn't speak to me for two days afterwards. Not even mad about it. I also kissed my friends sister on Friday, who I used to date, but she's been seeing somebody on/off and now shit's weird. I would say I shouldn't leave my house anymore, but this happened in my own kitchen while everybody was on the porch. My sister actually married one of my friends and he's cool with her being nuts. She's actually really got some issues with depression so I'm not joking about that. |
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Post by yourwhathurts on Oct 9, 2018 21:52:07 GMT -5
Welcome to the wild world of self-improvement. Join a gym. Get a dog. Or at least that's how I get through it.
Getting dumped via text message day after my birthday after 9 months was a nice kick in the ass. Still not enough to get me swiping again.
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Post by killthekool on Oct 10, 2018 0:55:51 GMT -5
^are you my ex? sounds like something i did. pretty shitty thing of me to do.
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Post by yourwhathurts on Oct 10, 2018 1:48:40 GMT -5
^are you my ex? sounds like something i did. pretty shitty thing of me to do That would be a plot twist. But, highly unlikely. Board was mentioned, definitely never posted. |
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Post by ass eyes on Oct 10, 2018 8:00:37 GMT -5
Welcome to the wild world of self-improvement. Join a gym. Get a dog. Or at least that's how I get through it. Getting dumped via text message day after my birthday after 9 months was a nice kick in the ass. Still not enough to get me swiping again. You don't actively look for someone better. You're going to be comparing every new person that comes into your life to your ex (time depending on how long and how serious your relationship was). I get that you're broken, but you're probably never going to be able to completely get over it because that's fucking impossible. The sooner you come to terms with the inevitable, the better off you'll be moving forward. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 10, 2018 8:22:42 GMT -5
Welcome to the wild world of self-improvement. Join a gym. Get a dog. Or at least that's how I get through it. Getting dumped via text message day after my birthday after 9 months was a nice kick in the ass. Still not enough to get me swiping again. You don't actively look for someone better. You're going to be comparing every new person that comes into your life to your ex (time depending on how long and how serious your relationship was). I get that you're broken, but you're probably never going to be able to completely get over it because that's fucking impossible. The sooner you come to terms with the inevitable, the better off you'll be moving forward. What this guy said. I don't really believe anyone truly gets past an ex. You just figure out a way to move forward and hopefully meet someone better. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 10, 2018 9:53:40 GMT -5
This all sounds like a mess waiting to happen. How old are you that she’s still cracking “we’ll get married when there’s no one left” jokes? She's 29, I'm 33. She wasn't being serious, it was said in jest. I didn't anticipate that being conveyed via text when discussing strangers with other strangers. Anyway, I bailed on the girl on Saturday and she didn't speak to me for two days afterwards. Not even mad about it. I also kissed my friends sister on Friday, who I used to date, but she's been seeing somebody on/off and now shit's weird. I would say I shouldn't leave my house anymore, but this happened in my own kitchen while everybody was on the porch. Jesus, dude. Find some new gash to smash. Very rarely is a sequel better than the original. |
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Oct 10, 2018 10:06:11 GMT -5
She's 29, I'm 33. She wasn't being serious, it was said in jest. I didn't anticipate that being conveyed via text when discussing strangers with other strangers. Anyway, I bailed on the girl on Saturday and she didn't speak to me for two days afterwards. Not even mad about it. I also kissed my friends sister on Friday, who I used to date, but she's been seeing somebody on/off and now shit's weird. I would say I shouldn't leave my house anymore, but this happened in my own kitchen while everybody was on the porch. Jesus, dude. Find some new gash to smash. Very rarely is a sequel better than the original. I would if I could. Unfortunately the only "friends" I have in this town are the equivalent of glorified drinking buddies, one of which is this girls brother. She wanted to date last fall but she's got all sorts of mental health shit she's been working through, which I obviously don't hold against her, but I can't imagine trying to start a relationship with that stuff hanging overhead. Like, we'd hang out and then I wouldn't hear from her for months. This has been going on for at least four years to some degree: Super cool and fun to hang out/flirt with one-on-one and as soon as the night is over, she'd fall off the map for three months. No reply to texts, no nothing. I'm going back to grad school in the spring, so maybe I'll meet one or two decent people through that since the class sizes are small as shit. Ultimately I just need to start applying for jobs in the PNW and move back up there once my lease is up. It's tough to find people here who's primary interests aren't bar hopping, going to house parties or hanging out in fucking breweries all weekend long. |
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Post by fuzzyslippers on Oct 10, 2018 13:25:31 GMT -5
Girlfriend of about four years broke up with me a week and a half ago after being "on break" for like two weeks prior to that. The first couple days after were phenomenally shitty, but staying busy with work and a recent camping trip have been helpful. Living at home for a few months in order to pay off credit card debt/save up for a new place, and I'm feeling surprisingly ok. It's been nice to see old friends and get good support. It's helped that my ex and I are still amicable and friendly about everything. Idk man, life is weird
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Post by Deleted on Oct 10, 2018 13:50:54 GMT -5
Girlfriend of about four years broke up with me a week and a half ago after being "on break" for like two weeks prior to that. The first couple days after were phenomenally shitty, but staying busy with work and a recent camping trip have been helpful. Living at home for a few months in order to pay off credit card debt/save up for a new place, and I'm feeling surprisingly ok. It's been nice to see old friends and get good support. It's helped that my ex and I are still amicable and friendly about everything. Idk man, life is weird Hope you’re distancing yourself from her. Amicable can turn ugly quick when and if you find out she’s seeing other people. |
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Post by not Worship on Oct 10, 2018 13:52:28 GMT -5
was gonna say, high likelihood that itll turn sour; speaking from experience
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Post by fuzzyslippers on Oct 10, 2018 13:56:31 GMT -5
Girlfriend of about four years broke up with me a week and a half ago after being "on break" for like two weeks prior to that. The first couple days after were phenomenally shitty, but staying busy with work and a recent camping trip have been helpful. Living at home for a few months in order to pay off credit card debt/save up for a new place, and I'm feeling surprisingly ok. It's been nice to see old friends and get good support. It's helped that my ex and I are still amicable and friendly about everything. Idk man, life is weird Hope you’re distancing yourself from her. Amicable can turn ugly quick when and if you find out she’s seeing other people. We've only talked twice, pretty much about logistics about my moving out. She also offered to let me have our cat, which was nice. The dating is something I'm bracing for; it sucks but I'm not gonna like hold it against her y'know? She's got to live her life and so do I. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 10, 2018 13:58:34 GMT -5
Hope you’re distancing yourself from her. Amicable can turn ugly quick when and if you find out she’s seeing other people. We've only talked twice, pretty much about logistics about my moving out. She also offered to let me have our cat, which was nice. The dating is something I'm bracing for; it sucks but I'm not gonna like hold it against her y'know? She's got to live her life and so do I. Mature way to think about it. Continue to stay busy and do whatever you can to improve your life and move forward. |
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Oct 13, 2018 21:48:02 GMT -5
We should post what makes us eligible in here like it's Love Connection.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 13, 2018 22:25:03 GMT -5
Who’s the board most eligible bachelors/bachelorette? Me and it’s not even close, honey |
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