rowdiedondown
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Post by rowdiedondown on Oct 13, 2018 23:52:31 GMT -5
I Hate Dating ;(....
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2018 0:17:21 GMT -5
Love is fucking stupid. Blah blah romance blah blah you make me feel special. Get that shit the fuck away from me.
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Post by screamingsilence on Oct 14, 2018 12:23:00 GMT -5
A lot of you said it. It's just not worth it knowing how I feels in the end. I just got out of the worst time and relationship I've ever been in because I took a chance on love. I quit my job, moved far away making it harder on my personal life, didn't have a car so I had to walk everywhere or just not do it, plus deal with the sleaziness of get and her guy problems in the middle of the night and her purposely played head games. I still have dreams. It's been three months.
I quit all social media because I didn't look for her on IG, she liked from a new o-count with a bunch of pics of her with weird hashtags about being single aka thirsty one of my pics. I didn't bother messing back, I knew it would just go on forever but this shits just not worth it. Girls in their 30s are just that. Girls. I'd expect low shit from someone younger, but that's how it is today when everything is online.
This girl lived on the internet.
I'm doing ok now. Pumping iron, could work on my diet buying t-shirts, switching jobs, got a new car. Definitely a lot better off without her, but think I took a lot away from this both positive and negative
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Post by crawlingcosmichorror on Oct 14, 2018 12:35:07 GMT -5
That was the shit I wen't through with that chick last year. She was 12 years younger than me and things got so toxic. But at the end of things, I did learn a lot about myself and consider it to be worth it despite the fact that some of it literally made my beard grey. The dumbest thing you can do is give up on things dude. Even at my darkest, giving up on the idea of romance seems like overkill. That's like not putting spice on your food because you got really bad gas. Just give yourself some time and get happy with who you are and then get back out there.
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Post by screamingsilence on Oct 14, 2018 12:56:30 GMT -5
That was the shit I wen't through with that chick last year. She was 12 years younger than me and things got so toxic. But at the end of things, I did learn a lot about myself and consider it to be worth it despite the fact that some of it literally made my beard grey. The dumbest thing you can do is give up on things dude. Even at my darkest, giving up on the idea of romance seems like overkill. That's like not putting spice on your food because you got really bad gas. Just give yourself some time and get happy with who you are and then get back out there. that sucks man. Me and this one were both 32 and she was still like that. Some never change. Might sound weird but I got a few American nightmare tattoos out of it. The only words that I can relate to. I'm not even really into hardcore any more, but the words are just timeless Now I don't fuck with the online dating shit. It's a car wreck waiting to happen. Too many options and I trust that they keep them on back burner from my experience.
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Percussionist Foster Grant
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Oct 14, 2018 13:09:03 GMT -5
Online dating/Tinder/all that shit is garbage and an avenue I refuse to truly pursue. I had a PoF profile for like... two weeks after my most recent break-up and it's the only flirtation I've had with online dating. I met one girl off there who was nice and we wen't out like, 4-5 times, but it wasn't a great fit. She was also divorced and seemed eager to get back into a relationship, I think. Just suuuuper rushing shit like, four hours into the first date.
I'm of the mind that you don't push it and just let meeting people happen. I've had good luck just meeting women organically, although I think that's likely my main problem. Around here it's almost always the absolute worst type of women gravitating toward the recreational shit I do on weekends (go to shows, see live music, etc) so the likelihood of meeting somebody decent is rare. Then you get the girls who all they can talk about is beer and 'going on adventures' when, in reality, they go absolutely nowhere and do absolutely nothing.
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Post by screamingsilence on Oct 14, 2018 13:23:24 GMT -5
Online dating/Tinder/all that shit is garbage and an avenue I refuse to truly pursue. I had a PoF profile for like... two weeks after my most recent break-up and it's the only flirtation I've had with online dating. I met one girl off there who was nice and we wen't out like, 4-5 times, but it wasn't a great fit. She was also divorced and seemed eager to get back into a relationship, I think. Just suuuuper rushing shit like, four hours into the first date. I'm of the mind that you don't push it and just let meeting people happen. I've had good luck just meeting women organically, although I think that's likely my main problem. Around here it's almost always the absolute worst type of women gravitating toward the recreational shit I do on weekends (go to shows, see live music, etc) so the likelihood of meeting somebody decent is rare. Then you get the girls who all they can talk about is beer and 'going on adventures' when, in reality, they go absolutely nowhere and do absolutely nothing. yeah it's almost counter productive trying to meet someone on those apps. They are mostly damaged people with no social skills because they are just dorks or something. I've met several organically which lead to amazing sex and she was 21 with a smoking body. The hottest I've ever gotten with for sure. I'd rather take my chances on being rejected in person than being rejected by a fattie with a complex on an app, or any size female for that matter. They seem to get a everyone wants me complex and it never works out. It's like a day camp for losers to build confidence. They don't do anything. I've taken some girls hiking that in their profile were all about that life. They failed me like a striking distance tune. But they sure can chug an overpriced IPA while texting other dudes when you are out with them lol
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2018 13:28:01 GMT -5
Why do people continue to blame online dating as if human beings haven’t acted like assholes outside of an app environment?
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Post by ass eyes on Oct 14, 2018 13:31:03 GMT -5
Online dating/Tinder/all that shit is garbage and an avenue I refuse to truly pursue. I had a PoF profile for like... two weeks after my most recent break-up and it's the only flirtation I've had with online dating. I met one girl off there who was nice and we wen't out like, 4-5 times, but it wasn't a great fit. She was also divorced and seemed eager to get back into a relationship, I think. Just suuuuper rushing shit like, four hours into the first date. I'm of the mind that you don't push it and just let meeting people happen. I've had good luck just meeting women organically, although I think that's likely my main problem. Around here it's almost always the absolute worst type of women gravitating toward the recreational shit I do on weekends (go to shows, see live music, etc) so the likelihood of meeting somebody decent is rare. Then you get the girls who all they can talk about is beer and 'going on adventures' when, in reality, they go absolutely nowhere and do absolutely nothing. yeah it's almost counter productive trying to meet someone on those apps. They are mostly damaged people with no social skills because they are just dorks or something. I've met several organically which lead to amazing sex and she was 21 with a smoking body. The hottest I've ever gotten with for sure. I'd rather take my chances on being rejected in person than being rejected by a fattie with a complex on an app, or any size female for that matter. They seem to get a everyone wants me complex and it never works out. It's like a day camp for losers to build confidence. They don't do anything. I've taken some girls hiking that in their profile were all about that life. They failed me like a striking distance tune. But they sure can chug an overpriced IPA while texting other dudes when you are out with them lol Online dating in a fucking nutshell. Literally a community of poorly socially developed attention seekers probably just looking for dinner. Surprising if they look anything like their pictures anyway.
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ass eyes
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Post by ass eyes on Oct 14, 2018 13:33:25 GMT -5
Why do people continue to blame online dating as if human beings haven’t acted like assholes outside of an app environment? Because you’re not competing against an inbox of literal dicks for some sub-par persons attention. Guys outnumber women of dating sites like 3 to 1 anyway.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2018 13:35:33 GMT -5
Online dating/Tinder/all that shit is garbage and an avenue I refuse to truly pursue. I had a PoF profile for like... two weeks after my most recent break-up and it's the only flirtation I've had with online dating. I met one girl off there who was nice and we wen't out like, 4-5 times, but it wasn't a great fit. She was also divorced and seemed eager to get back into a relationship, I think. Just suuuuper rushing shit like, four hours into the first date. I'm of the mind that you don't push it and just let meeting people happen. I've had good luck just meeting women organically, although I think that's likely my main problem. Around here it's almost always the absolute worst type of women gravitating toward the recreational shit I do on weekends (go to shows, see live music, etc) so the likelihood of meeting somebody decent is rare. Then you get the girls who all they can talk about is beer and 'going on adventures' when, in reality, they go absolutely nowhere and do absolutely nothing. yeah it's almost counter productive trying to meet someone on those apps. They are mostly damaged people with no social skills because they are just dorks or something. I've met several organically which lead to amazing sex and she was 21 with a smoking body. The hottest I've ever gotten with for sure. I'd rather take my chances on being rejected in person than being rejected by a fattie with a complex on an app, or any size female for that matter. They seem to get a everyone wants me complex and it never works out. It's like a day camp for losers to build confidence. They don't do anything. I've taken some girls hiking that in their profile were all about that life. They failed me like a striking distance tune. But they sure can chug an overpriced IPA while texting other dudes when you are out with them lol Since we’re throwing judgments out there, you sound like a mess.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2018 13:36:52 GMT -5
Why do people continue to blame online dating as if human beings haven’t acted like assholes outside of an app environment? Because you’re not competing against an inbox of literal dicks for some sub-par persons attention. Guys outnumber women of dating sites like 3 to 1 anyway. How much time have you spent getting to know people on dating sites?
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Post by screamingsilence on Oct 14, 2018 13:38:01 GMT -5
yeah it's almost counter productive trying to meet someone on those apps. They are mostly damaged people with no social skills because they are just dorks or something. I've met several organically which lead to amazing sex and she was 21 with a smoking body. The hottest I've ever gotten with for sure. I'd rather take my chances on being rejected in person than being rejected by a fattie with a complex on an app, or any size female for that matter. They seem to get a everyone wants me complex and it never works out. It's like a day camp for losers to build confidence. They don't do anything. I've taken some girls hiking that in their profile were all about that life. They failed me like a striking distance tune. But they sure can chug an overpriced IPA while texting other dudes when you are out with them lol Since we’re throwing judgments out there, you sound like a mess. that would be because I am
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Post by ass eyes on Oct 14, 2018 13:40:12 GMT -5
Because you’re not competing against an inbox of literal dicks for some sub-par persons attention. Guys outnumber women of dating sites like 3 to 1 anyway. How much time have you spent getting to know people on dating sites? I’ve spent weeks on occasions. I usually avoid tender because you don’t get shit as far as information compared to something like okcupid and just seems like a fuck site. I’ve had some decent connections, but it’s usually a shit show.
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Post by koreangirls on Oct 14, 2018 13:48:02 GMT -5
Online dating/Tinder/all that shit is garbage and an avenue I refuse to truly pursue. I had a PoF profile for like... two weeks after my most recent break-up and it's the only flirtation I've had with online dating. I met one girl off there who was nice and we wen't out like, 4-5 times, but it wasn't a great fit. She was also divorced and seemed eager to get back into a relationship, I think. Just suuuuper rushing shit like, four hours into the first date. I'm of the mind that you don't push it and just let meeting people happen. I've had good luck just meeting women organically, although I think that's likely my main problem. Around here it's almost always the absolute worst type of women gravitating toward the recreational shit I do on weekends (go to shows, see live music, etc) so the likelihood of meeting somebody decent is rare. Then you get the girls who all they can talk about is beer and 'going on adventures' when, in reality, they go absolutely nowhere and do absolutely nothing. I don't know, might work for some, but I haven't met anyone organically in years. Not that I've had amazing experience with online dating, but it's better than nothing.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2018 13:49:21 GMT -5
I’ve met some cool guys on Okc/Tinder. Met tons of dickheads too but I’m not going to hold that against people I don’t know.
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Post by Sorley Boy on Oct 14, 2018 13:51:19 GMT -5
Meeting someone on a dating app took time and wasted dates but it's absolutely possible. Plenty of normal girls just don't like bars, or squaredancing or whatever you're supposed to do instead of bars.
For that screamingsilence dude, when you have dumb standards you meet dumb people.
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ass eyes
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Post by ass eyes on Oct 14, 2018 13:51:45 GMT -5
Just the cycle of dating a bunch of people is exhausting.
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Post by screamingsilence on Oct 14, 2018 13:56:32 GMT -5
Meeting someone on a dating app took time and wasted dates but it's absolutely possible. Plenty of normal girls just don't like bars, or squaredancing or whatever you're supposed to do instead of bars. For that screamingsilence dude, when you have dumb standards you meet dumb people. I really don't feel I have dumb standards. I just kiss a lot of frogs. Maybe the issue was having no standards
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2018 14:03:37 GMT -5
Meeting someone organically and developing chemistry, in my apinion, is amazing and something I can’t really find thru online dating. However I’m vastly less occupied in my day to day existence with avenues that would allow me to meet women organically like college, community organizations, partying, etc. those are all things I engaged in when I was like in my late teens-mid twen'ties when I lived in the same city I grew up in. I’m 32 now, I have a career which requires frequent travel, I’ve moved across North America twice for work related reasons, I don’t party much anymore, don’t go to shows often enough, sure as hell aren’t engaged in any sort of community involvement or church activity. I don’t have the energy like I used to.
Online dating opens up a ton of doors to at least remain social. It’s not some cancerous growth. It’s a means of communication just like this fucking message board is. I can’t believe I have to explain that. You waste time and talk to people on here, do not think you are above Tinder and Bumble because you aren’t.
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Post by screamingsilence on Oct 14, 2018 14:04:58 GMT -5
Meeting someone organically and developing chemistry, in my apinion, is amazing and something I can’t really find thru online dating. However I’m vastly less occupied in my day to day existence with avenues that would allow me to meet women organically like college, community organizations, partying, etc. those are all things I engaged in when I was like in my late teens-mid twen'ties when I lived in the same city I grew up in. I’m 32 now, I have a career which requires frequent travel, I’ve moved across North America twice for work related reasons, I don’t party much anymore, don’t go to shows often enough, sure as hell aren’t engaged in any sort of community involvement or church activity. I don’t have the energy like I used to. Online dating opens up a ton of doors to at least remain social. It’s not some cancerous growth. It’s a means of communication just like this fucking message board is. I can’t believe I have to explain that. You waste time and talk to people on here, do not think you are above Tinder and Bumble because you aren’t. well said
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2018 14:05:54 GMT -5
Just the cycle of dating a bunch of people is exhausting. That’s life. Do you live in some type of 1950’s Pleasantville setting where your life is like a black and white movie?
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Post by ass eyes on Oct 14, 2018 14:10:27 GMT -5
Dating a bunch of people and having multiple partners is not my specific life. I’m just telling you why I avoid online dating.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2018 14:14:17 GMT -5
Dating a bunch of people and having multiple partners is not my specific life. I’m just telling you why I avoid online dating. I’m not understanding what you mean. Are you talking about dating multiple people at once? Like juggling 5 women over an app for like a few weeks? Unless you’re a sociopath, you likely aren’t truly dating them but rather keeping them in your back pocket. Which sucks, I agree, but if humans could do this organically they would. I mean, people cheat and then come crawling back to their SO’s. Maybe not the same thing, but that’s like having your cake and eating it too, no?
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Post by ass eyes on Oct 14, 2018 14:16:12 GMT -5
Maybe I just hate dating in general.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 14, 2018 14:20:50 GMT -5
Maybe you should carve a hole in a pumpkin and get weird with it.
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Percussionist Foster Grant
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Post by Percussionist Foster Grant on Oct 14, 2018 14:38:55 GMT -5
I'm glad to hear online stuff has worked for some people here... it's just never been for me, I guess. You should keep in mind I live in a college town with one of the highest binge drinking rates per capita, so "online dating sites and apps" is almost exclusively a polite euphemism for "places horny college kids go to hookup." I might change my tune if I lived somewhere that wasn't just a bunch of daddy issues dressed in rompers.
I took the weekend off from hanging out with folks after the ordeals of the last two weekends. Just kept myself busy at home, no drinks. I also made a point of telling my friend whose sister I kissed + his girlfriend that we should probably take a break from hanging for a bit. We'll get together for a few drinks and it'll turn into staying up until 3 AM trying to convince the DJ at a house party to play Return of the Mack. Not a great influence.
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Post by screamingsilence on Oct 14, 2018 14:46:13 GMT -5
Maybe you should carve a hole in a pumpkin and get weird with it. tis the season
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Post by jimmyjump on Oct 14, 2018 15:41:35 GMT -5
I met someone online that wants to take it slow, the app just served as means of introduction and the relationship has grown organically from there. I feel lucky because I met her pretty quickly, god I hope I don’t fuck this up.
edit: she's mad at me. Oops.
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Post by yourwhathurts on Oct 15, 2018 12:45:43 GMT -5
Definitely have the same probability of meeting horrible people online and off. Probably more associated with online dating since for a lot of people it’s way more volume, and they’re dealing with that whole “there will always be something better one swipe away” mindset.
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