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Post by Thin Lizzy Gulag Graduate on Feb 17, 2019 22:46:34 GMT -5
Yeah no doubt, I’m certainly not complaining. I’m just not sure how this good fortune has befallen me.
So did you shit mid date or just white knuckle the stomach pain?
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Post by Ass Dan on Feb 17, 2019 23:29:55 GMT -5
WHite knuckle. I shit mid date once and that seemed way worse.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2019 23:44:02 GMT -5
What a doozy of a weekend. Had some late nights and hit the sauce a bit.
Long story short, couldn't care less about hooking up. Woke up every morning to realize I miss the girl I've been seeing.
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Post by ITID on Feb 17, 2019 23:53:30 GMT -5
What a doozy of a weekend. Had some late nights and hit the sauce a bit. Long story short, couldn't care less about hooking up. Woke up every morning to realize I miss the girl I've been seeing. I thought it was "girls?"
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Post by Deleted on Feb 18, 2019 8:42:46 GMT -5
What a doozy of a weekend. Had some late nights and hit the sauce a bit. Long story short, couldn't care less about hooking up. Woke up every morning to realize I miss the girl I've been seeing. I thought it was "girls?" I think it was indecision... Nah, that lasted for a bit and was a logistical nightmare. We still hang out though.
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Post by not Worship on Feb 18, 2019 10:03:26 GMT -5
never say Yday again
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Post by Yung Nick on Feb 18, 2019 10:15:48 GMT -5
I am on bumble and tinder because why the fuck not i got nothing better to do. I started talking to a girl on there and she's not really my type but she kinda wont stop talking to me and she's being super sweet and all but i dont know if im feeling it. I am way too fuckin nice, it breaks my heart thinking about having to tell someone i dont think theyre my type. Don't wanna ghost them, though. I'm sure I'll find it in me to tell them, be pretty shitty if i didnt.
I did though, match with a beauty and we followed eachother on instagram and have been talking a bit. I am bad at conversation especially with girls and im even worse at making it seem like im interested, im too respectful and i dont like to get up in people's business unless i know for sure they want me to.
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Post by Yung Nick on Feb 18, 2019 11:28:22 GMT -5
If you saying that means there will be more uses of "Yday", Worship, please do the deed and filter it.
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Post by 𝕄𝔼👁𝕎𝔽𝕌ℕℂ𝕋𝕀👁ℕ on Feb 18, 2019 11:29:50 GMT -5
Finna turn all yesterdays into Ydays
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Post by Yung Nick on Feb 18, 2019 11:33:10 GMT -5
dont do this
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Post by area51 on Feb 18, 2019 13:09:11 GMT -5
Been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months now. Matched on tinder when I returned from Korea and chatted on and off for 3 months before meeting. Memes and cat videos mostly. Finally met up and hit it off. She made me not want to fuck around with anyone else so there is that.
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Post by area51 on Feb 18, 2019 13:10:17 GMT -5
I am on bumble and tinder because why the fuck not i got nothing better to do. I started talking to a girl on there and she's not really my type but she kinda wont stop talking to me and she's being super sweet and all but i dont know if im feeling it. I am way too fuckin nice, it breaks my heart thinking about having to tell someone i dont think theyre my type. Don't wanna ghost them, though. I'm sure I'll find it in me to tell them, be pretty shitty if i didnt. I did though, match with a beauty and we followed eachother on instagram and have been talking a bit. I am bad at conversation especially with girls and im even worse at making it seem like im interested, im too respectful and i dont like to get up in people's business unless i know for sure they want me to. Go on a date before you rule them out completely, you never know what you’ll click with despite her not being your type.
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Post by Yung Nick on Feb 18, 2019 13:14:03 GMT -5
I am on bumble and tinder because why the fuck not i got nothing better to do. I started talking to a girl on there and she's not really my type but she kinda wont stop talking to me and she's being super sweet and all but i dont know if im feeling it. I am way too fuckin nice, it breaks my heart thinking about having to tell someone i dont think theyre my type. Don't wanna ghost them, though. I'm sure I'll find it in me to tell them, be pretty shitty if i didnt. I did though, match with a beauty and we followed eachother on instagram and have been talking a bit. I am bad at conversation especially with girls and im even worse at making it seem like im interested, im too respectful and i dont like to get up in people's business unless i know for sure they want me to. Go on a date before you rule them out completely, you never know what you’ll click with despite her not being your type. My brother was saying the same thing. He was like dude just meet her for drinks or something and if you think it's lame just come back home. But, I see it like, if I wen't out and the person was like yeah well ill see you later! it kinda sets the mood that im not interested. But, im not sure. I haven't answered her yet today, i might when im outta work. She lives like 45 mins away, so I may pull the ole' "i cant even drive to see you my car sucks so bad" card, haha. I'm kinda leaning towards at least meeting her once. Like you said, you never know. Especially my dumbass!
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Post by area51 on Feb 18, 2019 13:18:00 GMT -5
Go on a date before you rule them out completely, you never know what you’ll click with despite her not being your type. My brother was saying the same thing. He was like dude just meet her for drinks or something and if you think it's lame just come back home. But, I see it like, if I wen't out and the person was like yeah well ill see you later! it kinda sets the mood that im not interested. But, im not sure. I haven't answered her yet today, i might when im outta work. She lives like 45 mins away, so I may pull the ole' "i cant even drive to see you my car sucks so bad" card, haha. I'm kinda leaning towards at least meeting her once. Like you said, you never know. Especially my dumbass! I’d still say do it. Worst case it gets you out of the house, you get to meet someone new. Maybe talk about some shit you normally wouldn’t and who knows. Ive gone on a ton of dates with girls I have nothing in common except mutual attraction and they’ve all wen't great. You can always find common ground and have fun.
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Post by twocripplesdancing on Feb 20, 2019 12:18:44 GMT -5
My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday. It was a little bit out of the blue but I can't say I'm totally surprised since we'd become a little bit distant lately. Whenever we'd meet up it'd only be for a short period of time, and I neglected to put in some proper time with her as of late, but I thought that she was just busy with her studies.
That said, the reason she called it was that she didn't feel there was enough to continue seeing her romantically, which I can't say I disagree with. We'd have a great time together, and she was really sweet to me, but the honeymoon period ended pretty quickly. After that, it was kind of obvious that there was no deeper connection. It's a real shame as she was a great girl and in the early going she made me feel really good about myself in a way I hadn't felt in a while.
BiL, help me out. How do I get past this? Pretty anxious person most of the time, so I'm feeling pretty low right now. Seeing a friend tonight for a beer which I'm looking forward to, but I can tell the next few weeks'll be tough.
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Post by Top Rope Swanton on Feb 20, 2019 12:44:32 GMT -5
My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday. It was a little bit out of the blue but I can't say I'm totally surprised since we'd become a little bit distant lately. Whenever we'd meet up it'd only be for a short period of time, and I neglected to put in some proper time with her as of late, but I thought that she was just busy with her studies. That said, the reason she called it was that she didn't feel there was enough to continue seeing her romantically, which I can't say I disagree with. We'd have a great time together, and she was really sweet to me, but the honeymoon period ended pretty quickly. After that, it was kind of obvious that there was no deeper connection. It's a real shame as she was a great girl and in the early going she made me feel really good about myself in a way I hadn't felt in a while. BiL, help me out. How do I get past this? Pretty anxious person most of the time, so I'm feeling pretty low right now. Seeing a friend tonight for a beer which I'm looking forward to, but I can tell the next few weeks'll be tough. Yeah, the next few weeks may be rough. Find something you enjoy to fill your time. Get out to some shows, check out some new music, learn a new skill or hobby. Exercise is also great if you enjoy it. And never lose sight of all of the great things about yourself. I feel like I say this often in these “self-help” type threads, but create something readily available to you such as a compact zine or note on your phone of everything awesome about yourself. It works wonders when you’re feeling anxious or depressed, because it cuts through the irrational and deluded self-talk and returns you to healthy levels of self-esteem and confidence again. Once you learn to identify those negative thoughts it gets so much easier to kick them away over time and remember that you’re a fucking rad, worthwhile dude. And in time you’ll find someone else who will be even better and you’ll be ready when they come along and impress the shit out of them.
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Post by twocripplesdancing on Feb 20, 2019 12:58:13 GMT -5
Thanks man, I appreciate the hell out of that post.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 20, 2019 12:59:24 GMT -5
That was a top rope post.
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Post by Thin Lizzy Gulag Graduate on Feb 20, 2019 18:18:04 GMT -5
That should be stickied as the first post in all the applicable threads. For all our shenanigans we’ve really got some top shelf support threads and WE’RE the reason for it. that’s something we should all be proud of.
Breakups are always shitty man, but we’re always better for it even if all we gain is an appreciation for what’s been lost. Hang in there, you’ll be feeling better in no time and things really do have a funny way of working out for the best.
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Post by rowdiedondown on Feb 20, 2019 18:28:25 GMT -5
Shelf support, rec L brackets
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Post by troycockblow on Feb 21, 2019 21:02:30 GMT -5
I am on bumble and tinder because why the fuck not i got nothing better to do. I started talking to a girl on there and she's not really my type but she kinda wont stop talking to me and she's being super sweet and all but i dont know if im feeling it. I am way too fuckin nice, it breaks my heart thinking about having to tell someone i dont think theyre my type. Don't wanna ghost them, though. I'm sure I'll find it in me to tell them, be pretty shitty if i didnt. I did though, match with a beauty and we followed eachother on instagram and have been talking a bit. I am bad at conversation especially with girls and im even worse at making it seem like im interested, im too respectful and i dont like to get up in people's business unless i know for sure they want me to. I don't really think you are ghosting on anyone if you haven't even met them. Moreover, if you keep chatting with the girl in paragraph1, then you are sort of leading her on. I would just say something like, "Hey, I am not interested in a relationship or anything so if you are interested in chatting and being friends then that is cool." Then see where things go but there isn't much sense in pursuing it if you already aren't in it. Now, the gal in paragraph2 - you are clearly interested. Honestly, just be honest and tell her straight up that you are interested. I am not into game playing shit and the whole heteronormative game. If she is interested in meeting you, she will welcome it and say it. If she is interested in just fucking, then the same. If she isn't interested in any of that then she will tell you too - and that is good. It don't mean shit about you personally. She don't even know you, so just straight up say it. In my experiences on these dating sites you should just be blunt with the person. The whole point of the app is to cut through the heteronormative bullshit game.
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Post by stephanie on Feb 21, 2019 21:07:55 GMT -5
I blocked at least 5 people on grindr today that wanted me to smoke meth with them.
(I thought I was posting in "gay shit" but whatever this is a fitting place too)
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Post by troycockblow on Feb 21, 2019 21:09:25 GMT -5
My girlfriend broke up with me yesterday. It was a little bit out of the blue but I can't say I'm totally surprised since we'd become a little bit distant lately. Whenever we'd meet up it'd only be for a short period of time, and I neglected to put in some proper time with her as of late, but I thought that she was just busy with her studies. That said, the reason she called it was that she didn't feel there was enough to continue seeing her romantically, which I can't say I disagree with. We'd have a great time together, and she was really sweet to me, but the honeymoon period ended pretty quickly. After that, it was kind of obvious that there was no deeper connection. It's a real shame as she was a great girl and in the early going she made me feel really good about myself in a way I hadn't felt in a while. BiL, help me out. How do I get past this? Pretty anxious person most of the time, so I'm feeling pretty low right now. Seeing a friend tonight for a beer which I'm looking forward to, but I can tell the next few weeks'll be tough. You'll be chill dood. You even admitted it, you lacked a deeper connection and shit got pretty average after the honeymoon phase. It isn't worth anyone's time to stay in a relationship if there is no reason to be around post-honeymoon phase. You are better off just moving on to someone else with whom you can experience the thrill of the initial connection and/or finding someone with whom you can seriously build with. If you are in a relationship with someone and it is not under either of those circumstances, than you are kinda just stringing it along when you are best off alone and open to someone else with whom you can share a fulfilling experience, even if it is just fleeting. If there aint chemistry, then there aint chemistry. Keep ya head up and trust its for the good.
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Post by stephanie on Feb 21, 2019 21:11:00 GMT -5
Shelf support, rec L brackets Underrated post.
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Post by killthekool on Feb 24, 2019 4:51:25 GMT -5
I got bumble on a whim lastweek. matched up and chatted with this rlly rad Therapist chick. first time going on a date tonight since getting sober and it was a really good experience. I wasnt nervous at all which is surprising. She was really pretty and easy to talk to. We parted ways and it didnt feel amazing but it was a good experience. We only chatted for about an hour because we had other things going on but I get a message 30min after that said in a nice way that she wasnt interested in a second date. That she didnt feel a connection. I really appreciated that and it felt healthy. I asked if there was a particular reason or just not a feeling and she said " Not really? Couldnt tell ya, haha just not feeling a connection".... And so said fair enough! i thanked her for meeting up and the conversation and that was that... Dont get me wrong my EGO hurt for a few hours but it was actually a good thing. It still hurts actually because i just want a reason, like my nose is crooked or because my backstory is fucked up or something. not just because of an hour connection in a super well lit PIE cafe. Any insight board?
Also the more i think about it she didnt know what twin peaks was or any movies or entertainment or music and asked what MAGA was and brought up HOBO JOHNSON. It was probably for the best because i def overlook little things like that... She was super smart and pretty and those things can blur any sort of mutual interests we may or may not have and Id rather have some mutual interests tbh... Just kinda stream of consciousness. sorry folks
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Post by ass eyes on Feb 24, 2019 4:58:07 GMT -5
Not everyone is going to be romantically interested in you?
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Post by ass eyes on Feb 24, 2019 5:13:20 GMT -5
One woman I've known for the past two years left her fiance and has been sliding in my IG dm's recently. She's stepped up the ho pics tenfold and she's an absolute babe, but ya girl is swinging and missing. What the fuck is going on.
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Post by ITID on Feb 24, 2019 5:23:03 GMT -5
One woman I've known for the past two years left her fiance and has been sliding in my IG dm's recently. She's stepped up the ho pics tenfold and she's an absolute babe, but ya girl is swinging and missing. What the fuck is going on. She cute? I'm asking for proof.
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Post by ITID on Feb 24, 2019 5:27:15 GMT -5
I got bumble on a whim lastweek. matched up and chatted with this rlly rad Therapist chick. first time going on a date tonight since getting sober and it was a really good experience. I wasnt nervous at all which is surprising. She was really pretty and easy to talk to. We parted ways and it didnt feel amazing but it was a good experience. We only chatted for about an hour because we had other things going on but I get a message 30min after that said in a nice way that she wasnt interested in a second date. That she didnt feel a connection. I really appreciated that and it felt healthy. I asked if there was a particular reason or just not a feeling and she said " Not really? Couldnt tell ya, haha just not feeling a connection".... And so said fair enough! i thanked her for meeting up and the conversation and that was that... Dont get me wrong my EGO hurt for a few hours but it was actually a good thing. It still hurts actually because i just want a reason, like my nose is crooked or because my backstory is fucked up or something. not just because of an hour connection in a super well lit PIE cafe. Any insight board? Also the more i think about it she didnt know what twin peaks was or any movies or entertainment or music and asked what MAGA was and brought up HOBO JOHNSON. It was probably for the best because i def overlook little things like that... She was super smart and pretty and those things can blur any sort of mutual interests we may or may not have and Id rather have some mutual interests tbh... Just kinda stream of consciousness. sorry folks Also, sorry. But yeah, the number of people that aren't into you(or me) is way fucking bigger than the people that are. Honestly, good on you if you were actually big enough to thank her for her time. You'd actually be surprised how often that will be a boon.
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Post by ass eyes on Feb 24, 2019 5:41:47 GMT -5
One woman I've known for the past two years left her fiance and has been sliding in my IG dm's recently. She's stepped up the ho pics tenfold and she's an absolute babe, but ya girl is swinging and missing. What the fuck is going on. She cute? I'm asking for proof. I'm on the bottom right in the last one.
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