Love life (ITT: Chalie Danger Sex Play)

[codync]

haha all women are beautiful you fuckin idiots

[yosupbro]

Everyone is ugly (especially me)

[concealer]

AWAB

[vague form]

I can’t tell are my standards too high?
No kids never married diminutive male seeking beauteous wrathful warrior goddess to hunt me in forest and take back to layer. Strong prefer layer w walls to throw me thru when ur so angry

[floorpunchchalie]

I was hoping to hear a couple hot takes here and there when I made my original post but I am just catching up with this thread and good Lord it took off. It's intriguing to see other people's perspective on things and while sometimes I get bummed out reading the comments especially the dying alone one I know everything is all just apinions so I take it with a grain of salt.

[Magnum P.P.]

take it with a grain of salt (condiment)

[floorpunchchalie]

Dec 16, 2023 8:54:26 GMT -5 jeanxseberg said:

Dec 13, 2023 21:29:50 GMT -5 floorpunchchalie said:

I stopped talking to someone for a couple months after I found out she has a boyfriend. The attractive ones always have boyfriends and are never not single so that's nothing new. However, I saw it was her birthday so I reached out to wish her a happy birthday. She is very attractive so think of this like Frodo carrying the ring to Mordor. What I mean by that comparison is she weighs heavy on my mind at times and it's hard to cast the ring into the fire. Wishing her a happy birthday got me 12 days of long paragraph texts with lots of questions directed my way and I reflected that energy back to her because the conversation is always good! I genuinely enjoy talking to this person. I was recommended  some bands by her and she has very solid taste in music. I feel like we're always going back and forth in our texts and everything is always responded to which is very considerate.  However, every time we do see each other in person I can't really talk to her without shouting over a loud PA system waiting for a band to come on. It's strange she never ever ever mentions her boyfriend to me when we chat. I will talk to other women and I'll wait for "Oh my boyfriend loves etc etc" but it's hard to tell if she actually likes me or if I'm just someone to fill the attention that she might be seeking because she likes it or maybe she's one of those girls that once they start talking they don't stop and this could be you're my pal kinda thing.

I tried to lock down plans to get ice cream before a show before but got hit with "Oh I already ate". I had one chance early on when she asked me after a show to come out to grab something to eat on a Sunday night after midnight (I had work at 6 am the next morning) so had to pass. I just can't do it when I got to be up at 6 on a Monday morning.

I did see the boyfriend in person and I'm not trying to be mean but my first thought was "I feel like you can do better". Idk it's weird cause I feel like we both have a connection and can talk for hours but are we even friends when we can't even get together and hang out to talk in person? This kinda plays into the theme of my love life though which has always been the ones I am not attractive to are always SUPER into me and the ones I am SUPER attractive to are either with someone or unavailable.

Alright it's my first red bull of the morning. So a lot of attractive women do this thing where they're perpetually let down and lose respect for their man but also can't bear being alone, so they have a man that they're still loyal to sexually and then a roster of a couple of male platonic friends who are all in love with her and basically comfort her whenever the main man pisses her off. If she's into any dude hobbies or sperg shit (like the kind of music you probably like) you can triple the certainty of that because being into that shit means most of your friends are male. Sometimes they get picked to be next in line or for a rebound if the current relationship goes to shit. Most of the time they don't because even if she's not into super dominant dudes, she doesn't fully respect the fact that they sat there waiting in the wings quietly suffering and not standing up for themselves.

That's why it doesn't really matter if the boyfriend isn't as hot as her or as interesting or what have you because the ideal boyfriend role is essentially being collectively filled by a reverse harem of dudes. Dudes get into this situation because they're scared of rejection if they are assertive about their intentions and women get into this situation because they're too cowardly to learn to be single for once in their life and have male friends that don't offer their undivided attention at their own expense. It's cowardice from both directions. It doesn't matter if there's a connection because it's ultimately a connection of convenience; it's easier for both parties to settle for this dynamic than to risk the fear of rejection from someone they actually want or stretches of loneliness while looking for it.

Alright I now had my iced caramel latte from Dunkin so I am ready to converse. Being alone is an absolutely real thing that people fear so they are in a relationship whether they are happy or not to make that feeling irrelevant. I had countless people tell me they don't know how to function if they aren't in a relationship with someone because it makes them feel something. Research shows that women feel as lonely as men, more specifically some studies show that women are lonelier, others show that men are lonelier and, finally, most studies show no difference. This is a 2019 meta-analysis pure.manchester.ac.uk/ws/portalfiles/portal/135977571/EJP_Gender_Postprint_AAM.pdf about the topic, there's a comprehensive review of the literature inside. Yes, studies also show that women report having more friends than men but clearly these friends don't make women feel less lonely than us.

I will say this in terms of this particular woman. I NEVER once comforted or spoke about her boyfriend to her in any conversation we ever had. Sometimes the conversation goes deep into the late hours of 1 AM and 2 AM. My "normie" friends that are women that have husbands have a hard time wrapping their brain around that because they feel "Well why would someone spend all that time talking to someone that late at night if they weren't somewhat interested?". However, ultimately I think it's clear to see that I'm a nice good option if the relationship goes wrong and that sucks. Nobody wants that but that's how life works with some people.

That question plays into what I feel you touched up on and that is loneliness or having someone there to fill a want and or need when it is not there. Case in point last night I am once again hit up after 1 AM by said person. I like this person so I engage in conversation but have boundaries where I stop replying after a certain time and will reply tomorrow.

I often hear especially from women an interesting card that goes something like this "Wow I thought you wanted to be my friend but all you wanted was to fuck me". The guy has the losing narrative here because you shouldn't go into something with plans of having to have sex. That's wrong.

HOWEVER, it would be nice in a perfect world for two people to come together who are attractive and share numerous similar interests to build a relationship and fall in love. Does that happen? Sure, and those people eventually get married or if they don't believe in marriage and become life partners.

Has it happened to me? Absolutely not but hey at least I have board right? The one place where I can go where people tell me how much I suck!

I am truly surprised I am still alive at 37 I thought for sure I would be dead by now.

Anyways, thanks for reading and enjoy your weekend

[jimmyspudboy]

Respect her boundaries and yourself, stop talking to her.

[AL 🎄✨🦌]

If you just want to fuck someone, maybe don't pretend you're their friend for ten years? Makes sense to me.

[meatballmaniac]

I liked the enjoy your weekend part at the end
Cheers!

[concealer]

Meta analyses in the love life thread

[AL 🎄✨🦌]

Dec 16, 2023 15:39:43 GMT -5 concealer said:

Meta analyses in the love life thread

ive academically studied loneliness in women

[tandoori jones]

all that just for chalie to basically say he ain’t listening to anyone

[Ese Ese]

Dec 16, 2023 15:47:48 GMT -5 tandoori jones said:

all that just for chalie to basically say he ain’t listening to anyone

did you even look at the 2019 meta analysis pdf?

[anointed]

Dec 16, 2023 15:43:25 GMT -5 AL 🎄✨🦌 said:

Dec 16, 2023 15:39:43 GMT -5 concealer said:

Meta analyses in the love life thread

ive academically studied loneliness in women

while you were out having premarital sex i was studying the bench

[Jon Joseph in a golf cart.]

Got to be exhausting to treat every encounter with a girl as will we won’t we situation

[Osama Vinladen Jiménez López🎅🎄]

Dec 16, 2023 15:10:27 GMT -5 floorpunchchalie said:

Dec 16, 2023 8:54:26 GMT -5 jeanxseberg said:

Alright it's my first red bull of the morning. So a lot of attractive women do this thing where they're perpetually let down and lose respect for their man but also can't bear being alone, so they have a man that they're still loyal to sexually and then a roster of a couple of male platonic friends who are all in love with her and basically comfort her whenever the main man pisses her off. If she's into any dude hobbies or sperg shit (like the kind of music you probably like) you can triple the certainty of that because being into that shit means most of your friends are male. Sometimes they get picked to be next in line or for a rebound if the current relationship goes to shit. Most of the time they don't because even if she's not into super dominant dudes, she doesn't fully respect the fact that they sat there waiting in the wings quietly suffering and not standing up for themselves.

That's why it doesn't really matter if the boyfriend isn't as hot as her or as interesting or what have you because the ideal boyfriend role is essentially being collectively filled by a reverse harem of dudes. Dudes get into this situation because they're scared of rejection if they are assertive about their intentions and women get into this situation because they're too cowardly to learn to be single for once in their life and have male friends that don't offer their undivided attention at their own expense. It's cowardice from both directions. It doesn't matter if there's a connection because it's ultimately a connection of convenience; it's easier for both parties to settle for this dynamic than to risk the fear of rejection from someone they actually want or stretches of loneliness while looking for it.

Alright I now had my iced caramel latte from Dunkin so I am ready to converse. Being alone is an absolutely real thing that people fear so they are in a relationship whether they are happy or not to make that feeling irrelevant. I had countless people tell me they don't know how to function if they aren't in a relationship with someone because it makes them feel something. Research shows that women feel as lonely as men, more specifically some studies show that women are lonelier, others show that men are lonelier and, finally, most studies show no difference. This is a 2019 meta-analysis pure.manchester.ac.uk/ws/portalfiles/portal/135977571/EJP_Gender_Postprint_AAM.pdf about the topic, there's a comprehensive review of the literature inside. Yes, studies also show that women report having more friends than men but clearly these friends don't make women feel less lonely than us.

I will say this in terms of this particular woman. I NEVER once comforted or spoke about her boyfriend to her in any conversation we ever had. Sometimes the conversation goes deep into the late hours of 1 AM and 2 AM. My "normie" friends that are women that have husbands have a hard time wrapping their brain around that because they feel "Well why would someone spend all that time talking to someone that late at night if they weren't somewhat interested?". However, ultimately I think it's clear to see that I'm a nice good option if the relationship goes wrong and that sucks. Nobody wants that but that's how life works with some people.

That question plays into what I feel you touched up on and that is loneliness or having someone there to fill a want and or need when it is not there. Case in point last night I am once again hit up after 1 AM by said person. I like this person so I engage in conversation but have boundaries where I stop replying after a certain time and will reply tomorrow.

I often hear especially from women an interesting card that goes something like this "Wow I thought you wanted to be my friend but all you wanted was to fuck me". The guy has the losing narrative here because you shouldn't go into something with plans of having to have sex. That's wrong.

HOWEVER, it would be nice in a perfect world for two people to come together who are attractive and share numerous similar interests to build a relationship and fall in love. Does that happen? Sure, and those people eventually get married or if they don't believe in marriage and become life partners.

Has it happened to me? Absolutely not but hey at least I have board right? The one place where I can go where people tell me how much I suck!

I am truly surprised I am still alive at 37 I thought for sure I would be dead by now.

Anyways, thanks for reading and enjoy your weekend

Saving this

[jeanxseberg]

Dec 16, 2023 15:10:27 GMT -5 floorpunchchalie said:

Dec 16, 2023 8:54:26 GMT -5 jeanxseberg said:

Alright it's my first red bull of the morning. So a lot of attractive women do this thing where they're perpetually let down and lose respect for their man but also can't bear being alone, so they have a man that they're still loyal to sexually and then a roster of a couple of male platonic friends who are all in love with her and basically comfort her whenever the main man pisses her off. If she's into any dude hobbies or sperg shit (like the kind of music you probably like) you can triple the certainty of that because being into that shit means most of your friends are male. Sometimes they get picked to be next in line or for a rebound if the current relationship goes to shit. Most of the time they don't because even if she's not into super dominant dudes, she doesn't fully respect the fact that they sat there waiting in the wings quietly suffering and not standing up for themselves.

That's why it doesn't really matter if the boyfriend isn't as hot as her or as interesting or what have you because the ideal boyfriend role is essentially being collectively filled by a reverse harem of dudes. Dudes get into this situation because they're scared of rejection if they are assertive about their intentions and women get into this situation because they're too cowardly to learn to be single for once in their life and have male friends that don't offer their undivided attention at their own expense. It's cowardice from both directions. It doesn't matter if there's a connection because it's ultimately a connection of convenience; it's easier for both parties to settle for this dynamic than to risk the fear of rejection from someone they actually want or stretches of loneliness while looking for it.

Alright I now had my iced caramel latte from Dunkin so I am ready to converse. Being alone is an absolutely real thing that people fear so they are in a relationship whether they are happy or not to make that feeling irrelevant. I had countless people tell me they don't know how to function if they aren't in a relationship with someone because it makes them feel something. Research shows that women feel as lonely as men, more specifically some studies show that women are lonelier, others show that men are lonelier and, finally, most studies show no difference. This is a 2019 meta-analysis pure.manchester.ac.uk/ws/portalfiles/portal/135977571/EJP_Gender_Postprint_AAM.pdf about the topic, there's a comprehensive review of the literature inside. Yes, studies also show that women report having more friends than men but clearly these friends don't make women feel less lonely than us.

I will say this in terms of this particular woman. I NEVER once comforted or spoke about her boyfriend to her in any conversation we ever had. Sometimes the conversation goes deep into the late hours of 1 AM and 2 AM. My "normie" friends that are women that have husbands have a hard time wrapping their brain around that because they feel "Well why would someone spend all that time talking to someone that late at night if they weren't somewhat interested?". However, ultimately I think it's clear to see that I'm a nice good option if the relationship goes wrong and that sucks. Nobody wants that but that's how life works with some people.

That question plays into what I feel you touched up on and that is loneliness or having someone there to fill a want and or need when it is not there. Case in point last night I am once again hit up after 1 AM by said person. I like this person so I engage in conversation but have boundaries where I stop replying after a certain time and will reply tomorrow.

I often hear especially from women an interesting card that goes something like this "Wow I thought you wanted to be my friend but all you wanted was to fuck me". The guy has the losing narrative here because you shouldn't go into something with plans of having to have sex. That's wrong.

HOWEVER, it would be nice in a perfect world for two people to come together who are attractive and share numerous similar interests to build a relationship and fall in love. Does that happen? Sure, and those people eventually get married or if they don't believe in marriage and become life partners.

Has it happened to me? Absolutely not but hey at least I have board right? The one place where I can go where people tell me how much I suck!

I am truly surprised I am still alive at 37 I thought for sure I would be dead by now.

Anyways, thanks for reading and enjoy your weekend

Lol at the research paper link. I don't think that happens because of a higher or lower amount of inherent loneliness I think it's just easier to end up in that role because men are just socialized to take on more of a pursuing role and aren't often in a role of having female suitors line up for them and shit.

I also don't think you have any way of really knowing these people who are either emotionally unavailable or with someone else, if they are actually more attractive to you. That's the thing, you can't see any of the flaws that make them less attractive because by the very nature of the dynamic you will never know enough about them to be able to see that and make an assessment. So you can fill in the blanks in your head with whatever attributes you want that you personally like the most. It's kind of like writing fanfiction in your head basically. There are less drawbacks with them than someone else because... well you will never see those drawbacks because then that would require emotional availability, wouldn't it?

Again, you can totally do that if you want, it's a free country. But I think even if this wen't somewhere (and I don't think it ever will, no offense) you would make it to the end of the finish line only to find out that what you liked most about this person is that you were never allowed the chance to see anything you didn't like. 

[jeanxseberg]

Chalie I think I can fix you (not like that). I think I'm the only other person here that is writing offensive evopsych shit and run-on sentences as long as yours so I think I have what it takes to eventually get through to you on a more fundamental level.

[Osama Vinladen Jiménez López🎅🎄]

I think if I post this enough 



it could fix him

[𝖒𝖊𝖔𝖜𝖋𝖚𝖓𝖈𝖙𝖎𝖔𝖓]

Dec 16, 2023 17:06:14 GMT -5 jeanxseberg said:

Chalie I think I can fix you (not like that). I think I'm the only other person here that is writing offensive evopsych shit and run-on sentences as long as yours so I think I have what it takes to eventually get through to you on a more fundamental level.

strapping in for this saga

do NOT let him see you tho

[jermojames]

chalz, tell her exactly how you feel and afterwards you either fuck her or fuck off

fucking hemming and hawing over here over what? every day you spend not knowing if someone wants to fuck w you is a day you could have spent finding someone who actually does.

[johnny two cool]

Dec 16, 2023 17:24:45 GMT -5 𝖒𝖊𝖔𝖜𝖋𝖚𝖓𝖈𝖙𝖎𝖔𝖓 said:

Dec 16, 2023 17:06:14 GMT -5 jeanxseberg said:

Chalie I think I can fix you (not like that). I think I'm the only other person here that is writing offensive evopsych shit and run-on sentences as long as yours so I think I have what it takes to eventually get through to you on a more fundamental level.

strapping in for this saga

do NOT let him see you tho

tactical lesbian haircut

[MMST3K]

Dec 16, 2023 17:05:07 GMT -5 jeanxseberg said:

Dec 16, 2023 15:10:27 GMT -5 floorpunchchalie said:

Alright I now had my iced caramel latte from Dunkin so I am ready to converse. Being alone is an absolutely real thing that people fear so they are in a relationship whether they are happy or not to make that feeling irrelevant. I had countless people tell me they don't know how to function if they aren't in a relationship with someone because it makes them feel something. Research shows that women feel as lonely as men, more specifically some studies show that women are lonelier, others show that men are lonelier and, finally, most studies show no difference. This is a 2019 meta-analysis pure.manchester.ac.uk/ws/portalfiles/portal/135977571/EJP_Gender_Postprint_AAM.pdf about the topic, there's a comprehensive review of the literature inside. Yes, studies also show that women report having more friends than men but clearly these friends don't make women feel less lonely than us.

I will say this in terms of this particular woman. I NEVER once comforted or spoke about her boyfriend to her in any conversation we ever had. Sometimes the conversation goes deep into the late hours of 1 AM and 2 AM. My "normie" friends that are women that have husbands have a hard time wrapping their brain around that because they feel "Well why would someone spend all that time talking to someone that late at night if they weren't somewhat interested?". However, ultimately I think it's clear to see that I'm a nice good option if the relationship goes wrong and that sucks. Nobody wants that but that's how life works with some people.

That question plays into what I feel you touched up on and that is loneliness or having someone there to fill a want and or need when it is not there. Case in point last night I am once again hit up after 1 AM by said person. I like this person so I engage in conversation but have boundaries where I stop replying after a certain time and will reply tomorrow.

I often hear especially from women an interesting card that goes something like this "Wow I thought you wanted to be my friend but all you wanted was to fuck me". The guy has the losing narrative here because you shouldn't go into something with plans of having to have sex. That's wrong.

HOWEVER, it would be nice in a perfect world for two people to come together who are attractive and share numerous similar interests to build a relationship and fall in love. Does that happen? Sure, and those people eventually get married or if they don't believe in marriage and become life partners.

Has it happened to me? Absolutely not but hey at least I have board right? The one place where I can go where people tell me how much I suck!

I am truly surprised I am still alive at 37 I thought for sure I would be dead by now.

Anyways, thanks for reading and enjoy your weekend

Lol at the research paper link. I don't think that happens because of a higher or lower amount of inherent loneliness I think it's just easier to end up in that role because men are just socialized to take on more of a pursuing role and aren't often in a role of having female suitors line up for them and shit.

I also don't think you have any way of really knowing these people who are either emotionally available or with someone else, if they are actually more attractive to you. That's the thing, you can't see any of the flaws that make them less attractive because by the very nature of the dynamic you will never know enough about them to be able to see that and make an assessment. So you can fill in the blanks in your head with whatever attributes you want that you personally like the most. It's kind of like writing fanfiction in your head basically. There are less drawbacks with them than someone else because... well you will never see those drawbacks because then that would require emotional availability, wouldn't it?

Again, you can totally do that if you want, it's a free country. But I think even if this wen't somewhere (and I don't think it ever will, no offense) you would make it to the end of the finish line only to find out that what you liked most about this person is that you were never allowed the chance to see anything you didn't like. 

[Deleted]

I have horrible news. I exchanged glances with a woman at the grocery store. We even smiled at one another. My hair was freshly conditioned. I did not say hello. What have I done?! I am useless!!!!!

[hayley]

Dec 16, 2023 17:34:35 GMT -5 MMST3K said:

Dec 16, 2023 17:05:07 GMT -5 jeanxseberg said:

Lol at the research paper link. I don't think that happens because of a higher or lower amount of inherent loneliness I think it's just easier to end up in that role because men are just socialized to take on more of a pursuing role and aren't often in a role of having female suitors line up for them and shit.

I also don't think you have any way of really knowing these people who are either emotionally available or with someone else, if they are actually more attractive to you. That's the thing, you can't see any of the flaws that make them less attractive because by the very nature of the dynamic you will never know enough about them to be able to see that and make an assessment. So you can fill in the blanks in your head with whatever attributes you want that you personally like the most. It's kind of like writing fanfiction in your head basically. There are less drawbacks with them than someone else because... well you will never see those drawbacks because then that would require emotional availability, wouldn't it?

Again, you can totally do that if you want, it's a free country. But I think even if this wen't somewhere (and I don't think it ever will, no offense) you would make it to the end of the finish line only to find out that what you liked most about this person is that you were never allowed the chance to see anything you didn't like. 

i’m a night owl. i talk to a variety of dudes at x, y, z am. oh and i conversate with way more on a predominately male message board and crap, hardcore is also predominately male… 

she’s a human who wants to talk to another human, she doesn’t wanna fuck ya and likely never will. it’s not her fault you’re interested in more and it’s not your fault either. just PROCEED if it bugs ya, or keep talking if it doesn’t. good god chalz. 

[Pat]

What boards are they posting on about not getting to hit that?

[tandoori jones]

Dec 16, 2023 18:09:56 GMT -5 hayley said:

Dec 16, 2023 17:34:35 GMT -5 MMST3K said:

i’m a night owl. i talk to a variety of dudes at x, y, z am. oh and i conversate with way more on a predominately male message board and crap, hardcore is also predominately male… 

she’s a human who wants to talk to another human, she doesn’t wanna fuck ya and likely never will. it’s not her fault you’re interested in more and it’s not your fault either. just PROCEED if it bugs ya, or keep talking if it doesn’t. good god chalz. 

i was gonna say, she’s probably just a night owl and her boyfriend goes to sleep much earlier. aka me and my wife. difference is she has her girl group chat that are also night owls and have the same autistic special interests as her

[not Worship]

Havent read any of these posts in like 10 pages 👍

[hayley]

Dec 16, 2023 18:49:12 GMT -5 not Worship said:

Havent read any of these posts in like 10 pages 👍

there are really NO developments