Love life (ITT: Chalie Danger Sex Play)

[floorpunchchalie]

Also I would never change who I am because someone didn't like it, that's just doing a disservice to myself.  I know you guys make fun of me for my funko pops but those little plastic dolls make me happy and that's why I collect them to display. 

[jeanxseberg]

I'm gonna try to stop playing life coach and be more on topic for once; this is the second time in a row I've had a pretty compelling connection with a man (and it's always a man when this happens) who was excited about me at first and pulled out all the stops to show romantic interest and then just basically trailed away and disappeared even though nothing in particular happened. It's always the kind of dude that writes all this shit about about how "interesting" and "compelling" of a person I am, which I get is kind of just code for weird bitch, or maybe crazy but I'm not the clingy submissive of crazy at all I'm just kind of really direct about everything I guess and I wonder if it maybe like emasculates some guys or something. Or maybe they just always wanted to fuck me a few times as a novelty and then move on.

A lot of my straight woman friends have advised me to change my strategy and never pay for a man's meal, let them feel like they want sex more than me, take longer to respond to texts and have sex for the first time etc but I will just forever hate that shit and find it to be beneath me. It's literally just bad Cosmo magazine advice and I always advise against people who suggest it unless you're just like trying to cast the widest net and want a way to appeal to the lowest common denominator for maximum success. I'd like to just act however I want if it doesn't harm anyone and for someone to just actually like me for it beyond finding it to be a novelty. Or maybe I'm just a lousy lay, or they got to fuck me a few times and then moved on, or my personality sucks. I don't really know. But I'm super direct and forthright about exactly what I want and how I like to do things, and I'd assume that'd scare the flighty type of people away from the get go, but it's like a certain type of dude will swear up and down he is all in and finds it to be so cool and tell all his friends about me until it's just a million apologies for being "busy" and then he just disappears off the face of the earth. It's such a coward move like what is the point of hurting my feelings when a direct rejection I can seriously take well.

Also my aforementioned ex who destroyed my life is sending gifts and food to my door so I'm eating sashimi rn and wondering why I am cursed to only be appealing to probably the craziest man I have ever long-term dated in my life

[jeanxseberg]

Chalie is not allowed to interact with that post.

[anointed]

i've definitely been the kinda guy to go from progressively seeing someone less and less, responding to messages less and less, to straight up just ghosting them. i'm obviously well aware that it's an awful trait to have but in my dumb male brain i feel like by doing that it somehow softens the blow. besides from my experiences of dumping girls face to face, seeing them cry legit hurts my heart.

[jeanxseberg]

Dec 17, 2023 17:17:31 GMT -5 anointed said:

i've definitely been the kinda guy to go from progressively seeing someone less and less, responding to messages less and less, to straight up just ghosting them. i'm obviously well aware that it's an awful trait to have but in my dumb male brain i feel like by doing that it somehow softens the blow. besides from my experiences of dumping girls face to face, seeing them cry legit hurts my heart.

I've dumped people in person several times before and there's always a small part of you where it feels kind of awesome. Like of course I empathize fully and I am hurting too, and want to do everything I can so it hurts less for them but there's a small part of me where it always feels pretty cool deep down. I guess I wish more people were just more ruthless. It's irrational maybe, but it's paradoxically that cryptic behavior that makes me feel like maybe I just meant so little to them that I wasn't even worthy of a real goodbye.

[tandoori jones]

Dec 17, 2023 17:02:41 GMT -5 jeanxseberg said:

I'm gonna try to stop playing life coach and be more on topic for once; this is the second time in a row I've had a pretty compelling connection with a man (and it's always a man when this happens) who was excited about me at first and pulled out all the stops to show romantic interest and then just basically trailed away and disappeared even though nothing in particular happened. It's always the kind of dude that writes all this shit about about how "interesting" and "compelling" of a person I am, which I get is kind of just code for weird bitch, or maybe crazy but I'm not the clingy submissive of crazy at all I'm just kind of really direct about everything I guess and I wonder if it maybe like emasculates some guys or something. Or maybe they just always wanted to fuck me a few times as a novelty and then move on.

A lot of my straight woman friends have advised me to change my strategy and never pay for a man's meal, let them feel like they want sex more than me, take longer to respond to texts and have sex for the first time etc but I will just forever hate that shit and find it to be beneath me. It's literally just bad Cosmo magazine advice and I always advise against people who suggest it unless you're just like trying to cast the widest net and want a way to appeal to the lowest common denominator for maximum success. I'd like to just act however I want if it doesn't harm anyone and for someone to just actually like me for it beyond finding it to be a novelty. Or maybe I'm just a lousy lay, or they got to fuck me a few times and then moved on, or my personality sucks. I don't really know. But I'm super direct and forthright about exactly what I want and how I like to do things, and I'd assume that'd scare the flighty type of people away from the get go, but it's like a certain type of dude will swear up and down he is all in and finds it to be so cool and tell all his friends about me until it's just a million apologies for being "busy" and then he just disappears off the face of the earth. It's such a coward move like what is the point of hurting my feelings when a direct rejection I can seriously take well.

Also my aforementioned ex who destroyed my life is sending gifts and food to my door so I'm eating sashimi rn and wondering why I am cursed to only be appealing to probably the craziest man I have ever long-term dated in my life

paying for dudes meals is nuts. when i was going on dates i usually wen't dutch, first date was usually coffee or ice cream etc to make sure the girl wasn’t just milking a free meal outta me cause as a dude you’ve gotta worry about that more, but i was never letting or asking a girl to pay for me. if a dude does that’s probably a red flag off the bat

[anointed]

Dec 17, 2023 17:25:11 GMT -5 jeanxseberg said:

Dec 17, 2023 17:17:31 GMT -5 anointed said:

i've definitely been the kinda guy to go from progressively seeing someone less and less, responding to messages less and less, to straight up just ghosting them. i'm obviously well aware that it's an awful trait to have but in my dumb male brain i feel like by doing that it somehow softens the blow. besides from my experiences of dumping girls face to face, seeing them cry legit hurts my heart.

I've dumped people in person several times before and there's always a small part of you where it feels kind of awesome. Like of course I empathize fully and I am hurting too, and want to do everything I can so it hurts less for them but there's a small part of me where it always feels pretty cool deep down. I guess I wish more people were just more ruthless. It's irrational maybe, but it's paradoxically that cryptic behavior that makes me feel like I meant so little to them that I'm not even worthy of a real goodbye.

i never felt that way when doing the breaking up. i do, however, move on rather quickly. so maybe that's why i don't feel "cool" or good about it, because i've always planned my escape route in advance. i see the signs that the relationship isn't going to work and i get to strategizing. for me there's always a brief recollection, on both good and bad about the relationship, followed by a sorta indifference to it. from all of my relationships, be it long or short term, i don't think any of them ever meant little to me (as you put it), even if some of course were better than others. the ones where i straight up ghosted the girls was more out of self-preservation than anything else; i didn't want to see them crying or feel guilty about it. i guess i always hope they get the message when i start seeing them less and less. it's completely selfish and maybe that's just where the guys you've dealt with are at as well.

[jeanxseberg]

Dec 17, 2023 17:27:18 GMT -5 tandoori jones said:

Dec 17, 2023 17:02:41 GMT -5 jeanxseberg said:

I'm gonna try to stop playing life coach and be more on topic for once; this is the second time in a row I've had a pretty compelling connection with a man (and it's always a man when this happens) who was excited about me at first and pulled out all the stops to show romantic interest and then just basically trailed away and disappeared even though nothing in particular happened. It's always the kind of dude that writes all this shit about about how "interesting" and "compelling" of a person I am, which I get is kind of just code for weird bitch, or maybe crazy but I'm not the clingy submissive of crazy at all I'm just kind of really direct about everything I guess and I wonder if it maybe like emasculates some guys or something. Or maybe they just always wanted to fuck me a few times as a novelty and then move on.

A lot of my straight woman friends have advised me to change my strategy and never pay for a man's meal, let them feel like they want sex more than me, take longer to respond to texts and have sex for the first time etc but I will just forever hate that shit and find it to be beneath me. It's literally just bad Cosmo magazine advice and I always advise against people who suggest it unless you're just like trying to cast the widest net and want a way to appeal to the lowest common denominator for maximum success. I'd like to just act however I want if it doesn't harm anyone and for someone to just actually like me for it beyond finding it to be a novelty. Or maybe I'm just a lousy lay, or they got to fuck me a few times and then moved on, or my personality sucks. I don't really know. But I'm super direct and forthright about exactly what I want and how I like to do things, and I'd assume that'd scare the flighty type of people away from the get go, but it's like a certain type of dude will swear up and down he is all in and finds it to be so cool and tell all his friends about me until it's just a million apologies for being "busy" and then he just disappears off the face of the earth. It's such a coward move like what is the point of hurting my feelings when a direct rejection I can seriously take well.

Also my aforementioned ex who destroyed my life is sending gifts and food to my door so I'm eating sashimi rn and wondering why I am cursed to only be appealing to probably the craziest man I have ever long-term dated in my life

paying for dudes meals is nuts. when i was going on dates i usually wen't dutch, first date was usually coffee or ice cream etc to make sure the girl wasn’t just milking a free meal outta me cause as a dude you’ve gotta worry about that more, but i was never letting or asking a girl to pay for me. if a dude does that’s probably a red flag off the bat

But they don't let me, I just insist and will do it anyway if I feel like I really wanna do it I dunno. If a guy can't afford to pay for every meal then we should be something cheaper or take turns paying for meals. I can see why it's intimidating but I also don't see what exactly is more manly or chivalrous to guys about splitting meals. Going dutch is what you do when you have brunch with coworkers.

[jeanxseberg]

I just feel like most dudes are only into traditional values when it's convenient. Like they want to slap a girl around and fuck her face in private but then also want you to venmo them. If you really wanna be equal why not do it in the cooler way.

[jeanxseberg]

This was actually really good sashimi. Alright take care everyone it's been real

[MMST3K]

Perhaps the real board is life is the friends we made along the way.

[Deleted]

Dec 17, 2023 18:19:58 GMT -5 jeanxseberg said:

This was actually really good sashimi. Alright take care everyone it's been real

no dont go

[MMST3K]

I agree with Sean.

[Deleted]

nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

[Deleted]

good bye

[concealer]

Jean (real name?) is the rare new poster who also (even more rarely) is a good poster. Do not leave us alone with Chalz

[MMST3K]

I agree with Concealer

[𝖒𝖊𝖔𝖜𝖋𝖚𝖓𝖈𝖙𝖎𝖔𝖓]

Dec 17, 2023 18:33:31 GMT -5 concealer said:

Jean (real name?) is the rare new poster who also (even more rarely) is a good poster. Do not leave us alone with Chalz

its been a pretty decent year for new posters

[itii]

Dec 17, 2023 17:02:41 GMT -5 jeanxseberg said:

I'm gonna try to stop playing life coach and be more on topic for once; this is the second time in a row I've had a pretty compelling connection with a man (and it's always a man when this happens) who was excited about me at first and pulled out all the stops to show romantic interest and then just basically trailed away and disappeared even though nothing in particular happened. It's always the kind of dude that writes all this shit about about how "interesting" and "compelling" of a person I am, which I get is kind of just code for weird bitch, or maybe crazy but I'm not the clingy submissive of crazy at all I'm just kind of really direct about everything I guess and I wonder if it maybe like emasculates some guys or something. Or maybe they just always wanted to fuck me a few times as a novelty and then move on.

A lot of my straight woman friends have advised me to change my strategy and never pay for a man's meal, let them feel like they want sex more than me, take longer to respond to texts and have sex for the first time etc but I will just forever hate that shit and find it to be beneath me. It's literally just bad Cosmo magazine advice and I always advise against people who suggest it unless you're just like trying to cast the widest net and want a way to appeal to the lowest common denominator for maximum success. I'd like to just act however I want if it doesn't harm anyone and for someone to just actually like me for it beyond finding it to be a novelty. Or maybe I'm just a lousy lay, or they got to fuck me a few times and then moved on, or my personality sucks. I don't really know. But I'm super direct and forthright about exactly what I want and how I like to do things, and I'd assume that'd scare the flighty type of people away from the get go, but it's like a certain type of dude will swear up and down he is all in and finds it to be so cool and tell all his friends about me until it's just a million apologies for being "busy" and then he just disappears off the face of the earth. It's such a coward move like what is the point of hurting my feelings when a direct rejection I can seriously take well.

Also my aforementioned ex who destroyed my life is sending gifts and food to my door so I'm eating sashimi rn and wondering why I am cursed to only be appealing to probably the craziest man I have ever long-term dated in my life

I feel like that's most guys in their 20s and on down for males unprepared to progress into the long term partnership phase of their lives. Sexual conquest is a pretty easy way to feed one's self esteem, so a lot people go into situations thinking they want a relationship but what they really want is selfish fulfillment and checkout when they feel like the chase is over.

Generally if you're being earnest in the relationship, it's them and not you. A lot of people out there aren't honest with themselves about what they want or their willingness to put in long term. When confronted with phase 2 or 3 shit, they generally realize they're not about it but don't want to feel like the bad guy so they just keep literally backing out.

[sarahohio]

Dec 17, 2023 18:19:58 GMT -5 jeanxseberg said:

This was actually really good sashimi. Alright take care everyone it's been real

Don’t go. I was ready to bond with a fellow poster who also had their ex send them random gifts!

[tandoori jones]

Dec 17, 2023 18:04:01 GMT -5 jeanxseberg said:

Dec 17, 2023 17:27:18 GMT -5 tandoori jones said:

paying for dudes meals is nuts. when i was going on dates i usually wen't dutch, first date was usually coffee or ice cream etc to make sure the girl wasn’t just milking a free meal outta me cause as a dude you’ve gotta worry about that more, but i was never letting or asking a girl to pay for me. if a dude does that’s probably a red flag off the bat

But they don't let me, I just insist and will do it anyway if I feel like I really wanna do it I dunno. If a guy can't afford to pay for every meal then we should be something cheaper or take turns paying for meals. I can see why it's intimidating but I also don't see what exactly is more manly or chivalrous to guys about splitting meals. Going dutch is what you do when you have brunch with coworkers.

if you’re taking turns paying for meals, that’s a different story. if you’re always the one paying, that dude is definitely just using you. and if you’re the one insisting in paying for them then that’s some weird self esteem issue where you feel like you need to pay for their time? if it’s an equal partnership, and you value each others time no one should be paying for everything unless the wage gap is just that big

[jermojames]

at some point i learned to be gracious about when she wants to pay but splitting the bill with anyone at any time usually makes me wanna puke. i’d rather pay than be like “do you have change? is this enough tip?”

she wants to pay she can pay.

i mean she’ll probably expect me to put out after but that’s only fair

[tandoori jones]

i wen't out with girls who made like $200k a year and had that caveman mentality of “men should always pay” and i was like lol yeah okay

[itii]

If I have to pay for half the meal, they're only getting 69. Full price for the full expierence 😤

[jermojames]

Dec 17, 2023 19:07:24 GMT -5 tandoori jones said:

i wen't out with girls who made like $200k a year and had that caveman mentality of “men should always pay” and i was like lol yeah okay

nobody makes $200k/y without being a fucking idiot

(sorry to rich-ish boardspeople)

[floorpunchchalie]

Dec 17, 2023 18:33:31 GMT -5 concealer said:

Jean (real name?) is the rare new poster who also (even more rarely) is a good poster. Do not leave us alone with Chalz

I am thinking about taking a long extended break from here

[concealer]

Dec 17, 2023 19:48:00 GMT -5 floorpunchchalie said:

Dec 17, 2023 18:33:31 GMT -5 concealer said:

Jean (real name?) is the rare new poster who also (even more rarely) is a good poster. Do not leave us alone with Chalz

I am thinking about taking a long extended break from here

Do not leave us alone with Jean

[MMST3K]

Don't you fucking dare.

[johnny two cool]

Just want to say that a girl who was very nervous and had a crush on me bought me food and gave me rides to shows n shit multiple times. Never banged and I ended up dating someone else I wen't to school with (gave me brain damage). We are still chill, and I think her and my girlfriend are going to be friends.

Tl;dr buying meals for dudes is good and cool 👍

[Deleted]

I do not subscribe to any of these norms discussed on the past few pages. Do what feels right that's all there is to it have fun out there evreyone