Mr. Dingle Foot
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Post by Mr. Dingle Foot on May 30, 2024 13:22:33 GMT -5
It's SO hard to know when to go in! At least for me it was like IS THIS IT? IS THIS EVEN A CONTRACTION? SHOULD I GO? I DONT WANT TO BE SENT HOME THOUGH! (I ended up being induced with both because im old af, but there was the HOPE that I would go naturally up until the induction). she was happy to read this (she is also older). Our midwife said when theyre ~1min and spaced 5 apart, it is time to go.
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Post by concealer on Jun 2, 2024 15:39:47 GMT -5
Camping wen't great! Hung out in a lil camping chair we got her, hiked around, wen't kayaking on Saturday (she did not like, likely due to the life vest being constricting), ate a bunch of snacks, hung out.
Sleeping in the tent was a slight thinker. She’s 2 naps a day currently and her second nap, the tent was 100-degrees when we wen't to put her down which was way too much obviously. So for that nap I opted to just carry her in her front carrier for a body nap and walk around the camp for an hour and a half, she sleeps so good in it.
Putting her down for bed was tricky bc it was like 88 in the tent at put down but dropped to like low 50’s overnight. Had to balance her outfits for that. First portion of night wen't down in a heavier sack with longsleeve pjs and socks, she sleeps great when a little hot so was fine at first. She woke a few times which isn’t unusual for her so we just took the opportunity to change her diaper, feed a bit, and increase her layering, eventually ended up with longsleeve pjs, sweater on top, heavy fuzzy booties, blanket wrapped around lower half, thin sleep sack, heavy sleep sack, and socks on hands as gloves. And night two had to add an additional blanket to her bottom half tucked under her feet for the 4am-7am stretch.
Woke up happy and comfy each morning and overall had a great time - camping was a success
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theonefreeman
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Post by theonefreeman on Jun 2, 2024 16:15:40 GMT -5
Just sprayed some unprotected ovaries with a batch that had been building up for a week. They don't stand a chance.
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Mr. Dingle Foot
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Post by Mr. Dingle Foot on Jun 6, 2024 12:36:24 GMT -5
First couple of days at home have been... humbling.
The birth did not go smoothly and my wife is still recovering, so a lot is falling on me (baby+dog, plus shopping and multiple trips to the pharmacy). I am trying to stay upbeat and ok for my wife, and we are using our limited friend network, i am fucking exhausted. Not having a family around is rough and the baby is only sleeping about 2.5hrs between meals, so I am usually holding/swaddling until he falls asleep and then delivering to my wife so she can get some actual rest.
This will get somewhat better, right?
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Post by amplifiedohms on Jun 6, 2024 12:43:36 GMT -5
First couple of days at home have been... humbling. The birth did not go smoothly and my wife is still recovering, so a lot is falling on me (baby+dog, plus shopping and multiple trips to the pharmacy). I am trying to stay upbeat and ok for my wife, and we are using our limited friend network, i am fucking exhausted. Not having a family around is rough and the baby is only sleeping about 2.5hrs between meals, so I am usually holding/swaddling until he falls asleep and then delivering to my wife so she can get some actual rest. This will get somewhat better, right? It's brutal for about the first 3 months, but it will definitely get better. For our first we kept the bassinet next to the bed so we could try to put her down for a little while. The others just slept in the bed with my wife (this goes against nearly every recommendation from a certified health care professional but it worked great for us)
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Post by Mr. Dingle Foot on Jun 6, 2024 12:46:42 GMT -5
We have a co-sleeper and will use that but we arent even sleeping in the same room right now (he is a noisy sleeper). Last night, I swaddled for the first time and let him fall asleep on my lap and then laid him in the co-sleeper. During the day, Ive been wearing him in a wrap and he sleeps great for 3 hours but i cant lay down - does allow me to do some chores though.
We will also allow him to sleep in bed with us (i just re-read this debate from a few pages ago, we dont need to reepat it).
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Post by concealer on Jun 6, 2024 12:52:36 GMT -5
First couple months are for sure tough but once your wife is back to a more functional level it’ll help a lot having two full sets of hands. Any friends who wanna offer help - make them run errands for you or clean your house etc.
Everyone told us from the start that each phase is better than the last - and so far at almost 8 months that has been true. Shes easier and more fun than she was 2 months ago, and then she was easier and more fun than 2 months prior etc. First couple months are mostly just getting by but it 100% does get better, you got it
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hayley
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Post by hayley on Jun 6, 2024 14:20:40 GMT -5
We have a co-sleeper and will use that but we arent even sleeping in the same room right now (he is a noisy sleeper). Last night, I swaddled for the first time and let him fall asleep on my lap and then laid him in the co-sleeper. During the day, Ive been wearing him in a wrap and he sleeps great for 3 hours but i cant lay down - does allow me to do some chores though. We will also allow him to sleep in bed with us (i just re-read this debate from a few pages ago, we dont need to reepat it). i know so many pro co-sleep parents. file that in the ‘you do you’ cabinet. the early days really are survival only. grab winks when you can, don’t have a heart attack when he hiccups (i basically did?) and for the love of god don’t stare at a video monitor. i had to get rid of that quickly. ppd and ppa are real. as if you don’t have enough to do, keep a close eye on mom and seek help asap if either strikes. let small shit go, accept any and all help (i had none, we did fine)
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Post by Jon Joseph in a golf cart. on Jun 6, 2024 14:23:39 GMT -5
Just cosigning what everyone else are saying. It gets easier for sure. You got this!
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Post by concealer on Jun 6, 2024 14:47:06 GMT -5
Also the house can be messy and the dishes can wait til tomorrow and the bathroom can get cleaned another week etc. Don’t stress about keeping up with chores in any way comparable to pre-baby. Fuck it
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crushoftheyear
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Post by crushoftheyear on Jun 6, 2024 15:15:49 GMT -5
our little dude still sleeps with us at 2.3. sometimes i get shitty sleep, but it's worth it for the cuddles.
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Mr. Dingle Foot
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Post by Mr. Dingle Foot on Jun 6, 2024 15:26:09 GMT -5
I keep telling myself that but my ocd + exhaustion makes me need to have it cleaned (relative) to feel able to sleep.
At least i rembered to floss and brush tonight.
Thanks for the words, board.
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Post by JDS~~~* on Jun 6, 2024 15:31:37 GMT -5
Daughter is starting high school next year and I'm really nervous. This year was a real test as she struggled to keep up with her academics, and it only ramps up from here. Hoping she takes it a little more seriously as we are in the big leagues now. Both of my daughters are going to be in middle school next year, one started this past year, and as a single dad, I am NOT ready for them to have to deal with the challenges of being teenagers. But, the dude abides.
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Post by crushoftheyear on Jun 6, 2024 15:51:25 GMT -5
I keep telling myself that but my ocd + exhaustion makes me need to have it cleaned (relative) to feel able to sleep. At least i rembered to floss and brush tonight. Thanks for the words, board. This aint for everyone... but I am the same way, so what I do is after my wife starts the bedtime routine, I go smoke a joint and then start cleaning up. I put some music or a podcast on in my headphones and then clean up. It's kind of relaxing, tbh. I do it every night before bed.
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Post by gold soundz on Jun 6, 2024 16:03:48 GMT -5
Daughter is starting high school next year and I'm really nervous. This year was a real test as she struggled to keep up with her academics, and it only ramps up from here. Hoping she takes it a little more seriously as we are in the big leagues now. My son also starts next year, I'm scared. We've had him in year round basketball for years just to keep him out of trouble (he's not being forced and claims he loves it) but he's not dedicated enough to play in HS and I worry about having so much free time. The hope was that dedication to sports would transfer to academics, but his engagement level in both is low and he's always been a very average student. I spend all of my free time helping him with basketball and school. Whether I try pushing a bit harder or going hands-off, same result. I don't know what else to do and I'm just tired, I hope he somehow just pulls it together next year but definitely not holding my breath.
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Post by oogracie👻 on Jun 8, 2024 11:38:02 GMT -5
At my 4yo pre-school graduation yesterday, she got up on stage and said “My name is Holly, i have a sister and when I grow up i want to be a police officer”…..WHAT THE FUCK. She will NOT be a police officer, punks only in this house #acab🐽 UGHHH!
We already moderate “cops are heroes” content, fml.
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Post by amplifiedohms on Jun 8, 2024 11:59:12 GMT -5
At my 4yo pre-school graduation yesterday, she got up on stage and said “My name is Holly, i have a sister and when I grow up i want to be a police officer”…..WHAT THE FUCK. She will NOT be a police officer, punks only in this house #acab🐽 UGHHH! We already moderate “cops are heroes” content, fml. Maybe she's a little Serpico
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Post by oogracie👻 on Jun 8, 2024 12:02:37 GMT -5
I feel like that might be even worse lmao
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Mr. Dingle Foot
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Post by Mr. Dingle Foot on Jun 8, 2024 12:06:48 GMT -5
I keep telling myself that but my ocd + exhaustion makes me need to have it cleaned (relative) to feel able to sleep. At least i rembered to floss and brush tonight. Thanks for the words, board. This aint for everyone... but I am the same way, so what I do is after my wife starts the bedtime routine, I go smoke a joint and then start cleaning up. I put some music or a podcast on in my headphones and then clean up. It's kind of relaxing, tbh. I do it every night before bed. This has been what ive been doing too. My wife feeds him, while I cook dinner and then we put him down so we can eat. She finishes up the bedtime routine and I get into a zone and do a general house cleaning mode. It helps so much not waking up to a huge mess for me.
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Post by feelthedorkness on Jun 8, 2024 12:10:04 GMT -5
Just want to echo the sentiment that it gets easier. The first month in particular is total survival mode, but it gets easier before you know it. The first three weeks were the worst. Once my kid got back to his birth weight and could sleep for a few hours straight at night, it got marginally better. I know everyone’s situation is different, but take those daytime naps when you can. I wouldn’t have survived without them. Obviously the mom and baby’s health is most important, but you gotta make sure you are taking care of yourself as much ad you can manage. I’m currently 7.5 months in. I wouldn’t say it’s EASY, there have been constant ups and downs, but especially when teething began, but you get into a quasi feeling of normalcy
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Post by throwdemgunz on Jun 17, 2024 7:38:34 GMT -5
Just dropped my 2.5 year old off at her first day of school (technically the summer program before she "officially" starts pre school in the fall but whatever). I think we did a good job of prepping her for it and she seemed excited when we pulled up.
I said goodbye to her then waited until she was distracted looking at a fish tank and then slipped out at the teachers recommendation. I called my wife and told me I wasnt supposed to sneak out?! Got super bummed but she texted me back and apologized and thanked me for handling the morning. Shes like 33 weeks pregnant and is definitely a bit emotional these days.
Anyways, big milestone moment today that I hope I didnt screw up by causing serious abandonment issues.
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Post by thirdcoast on Jun 22, 2024 13:13:52 GMT -5
Kids are hard but incredibly rewarding. Starting a family was the best thing I ever did. My only regret is that we didn't have more. I would adopt but my wife is not in to that as she is pretty stretched thin while I am away at work, so I can't blame her. Oldest is 8 and youngest is 3 with another who is 6. Completely different personalities and I love them all to pieces.
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Post by theonefreeman on Jun 23, 2024 9:13:24 GMT -5
Just sprayed some unprotected ovaries with a batch that had been building up for a week. They don't stand a chance. Called my shot. Board knows before anyone else.
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Post by hayley on Jun 23, 2024 18:00:26 GMT -5
i consider this a major/minor parenting win. son (7) making youtube videos with a friend over the phone… friend chooses the music, son reviews it and says “wait, if my mommy hears the n-word again she will lose it and it will be, like, another 2-hour-lecture about how we all bleed RED. different song NOW.”
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Post by concealer on Jun 23, 2024 19:28:50 GMT -5
Successfully completed first solo parenting weekend while my wife was away for two nights for her work. First time either of us spent the night away from her (8 months), and she’s so FOMO right now. Had a cool daddy daughter weekend. Hung out at the mall, wen't bowling with a couple friends, wen't to the city, wen't to a punk record store with another friend then to his house, etc.
She also finally figured out how to pincer grasp cheerios from tray to mouth for the first time so she had a bunch of those. Every nap she wen't down for perfectly and every bedtime she wen't down without a peep and slept like a rock. Feel like king dad even though I know it’s just competent parenting, my wife has her everyday while I’m at work so she deals with way more.
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Post by concealer on Jun 23, 2024 19:46:48 GMT -5
Also just a hot tip: if you want some points with the other parent, get one of those digital frames and load it up with pics of your kid. We didn’t get it as a gift for each other or anything we just got it to get it, but we upload to it from the app in our phones all the time and it’s the best. Chills on the mantle next to the tv and is a constant source of joy. Better than the pics rotting away in your phone memory.
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