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Post by headxtrauma on Aug 1, 2024 15:36:18 GMT -5
Emrakul (unofficial middle name) the Aeons Torn. Wife was surprisingly very on board with the suggestion from jump so I had to run with it. We're wanting a second and I've selfishly been trying to push Kozilek / Ulamog but of course she isn't going to go for it lol. Your kid's middle name is literally Emrakul? TMDWU. shit I worded that wrong, his first name is Emrakul.
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Post by Mr. Dingle Foot on Aug 1, 2024 23:40:37 GMT -5
Re: screen time for kids.
Did you all make any of your own habit changes to your phone/tv/computer uses?
I feel pretty addicted to my phone, especially when I am sort of just sitting and trying to help him sleep and I fear he is recognizing that already.
Any tips/experiences appreciated
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Post by meatballmaniac on Aug 2, 2024 0:10:26 GMT -5
Re: screen time for kids. Did you all make any of your own habit changes to your phone/tv/computer uses? I feel pretty addicted to my phone, especially when I am sort of just sitting and trying to help him sleep and I fear he is recognizing that already. Any tips/experiences appreciated I’m famously near internet-free, having deleted my social media accounts several years ago, and limiting my idle scrolling to Board. Just doing that will cut down significantly on the urge to pick up the phone and scroll. However, regarding that particular scenario you mentioned, my first son was born before smartphone ubiquity, and I spent countless agonizing hours next to his crib trying to get him to go to sleep. Those were the times I was most likely to lose my temper, get frustrated, or do something that would reset the process. Having something to stare at in the dark really made those times bearable with the second baby a few years later. So I guess my advice is, try to cut back when you can, but don’t feel like you have to be perfect or never be on your phone around the kid. It’s going to happen; just try to set a good example for reasonable use and give yourself some grace.
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Post by immortalrites on Aug 2, 2024 0:35:04 GMT -5
Re: screen time for kids. Did you all make any of your own habit changes to your phone/tv/computer uses? I feel pretty addicted to my phone, especially when I am sort of just sitting and trying to help him sleep and I fear he is recognizing that already. Any tips/experiences appreciated Forgive me if I'm wrong but isn't your child very young? My son is almost nine and asks me when he can get a phone and I always say "Not soon." or "Never, stop asking!!!" He was in 3rd grade last year and a bunch of his classmates have smartphones with group chats and all sorts of other shit, it's insane. Some of them would show me what they were up to on their phone when I was picking him up from school and it seems very unhealthy to me but it's kind of the new normal. My son has a nintendo switch and of course TV/movies but other than that my goal is to keep him off of YouTube, social media, and really anything else as long as I possibly can without it being weird. Eventually I'm gonna have to give in because that's just what kids do now whether I like it or not. All this to say, using devices and the dreaded ScReEn TiMe is unfortunately a normal part of life now and while kids are growing up way too fast and getting into all sorts of things I don't think they should, if you're even thinking about it at all you're lapping a ton of other parents out there and doing a great job. Don't beat yourself up.
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Post by 𝕄𝔼👁𝕎𝔽𝕌ℕℂ𝕋𝕀👁ℕ on Aug 2, 2024 0:42:55 GMT -5
still checking this thread out of habit 🙄 but i knew a couple who had no screens on one floor of their house and had their kid completely unaware of them and i thought it was a chill idea
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Post by gold soundz on Aug 2, 2024 0:46:14 GMT -5
I sometimes feel like I’m the only weirdo committed to raising a kid who’s not permanently attached to a screen so I’m glad to hear some of you seem to give a shit too. Screen time/cell phone use has been a never ending battle in our house for years and I ain’t giving up anytime soon.
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Post by Mr. Dingle Foot on Aug 2, 2024 1:13:26 GMT -5
Yeah, he is just over 8 weeks.
What prompted it was the memory of my wife's brother's daughter grabbing their phone and wanting to play games at the age of like 3. While we will not allpw that I feel like a bad parents for being on mine a lot.
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Post by 𝕄𝔼👁𝕎𝔽𝕌ℕℂ𝕋𝕀👁ℕ on Aug 2, 2024 1:17:33 GMT -5
nah man he's like barely functional at that point. refresh board while he's trying to sleep nbd its fine
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Post by 𝕄𝔼👁𝕎𝔽𝕌ℕℂ𝕋𝕀👁ℕ on Aug 2, 2024 1:17:47 GMT -5
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Post by morte on Aug 2, 2024 1:43:45 GMT -5
We tried to avoid it, but sometimes we just give in. My oldest is 6yo. If we go out to a restaurant, we always have some notebook and color pencils for here to paint or draw. Sometimes I draw something and she paints it. We also buy some small game books for kids, so she is entertained. But of course sometimes its not enough, so last resort we hand over the smartphone and she plays a game or watches youtube. Once in a while I don't see the issue.
At home most of the times she is playing with our youngest (1,5 yo), but othertimes she likes to watch tv. Or she watches cartoons that are on cable tv channels, or watches some shows/movies from Netflix/Disney+.
During weekends we go out a lot, but once in a while we stay home and like to chill, if we want to see a movie without it beeing the Disney ones, we let here play with the tablet. She has games (like painting nails, or painting stuff), Netflix, Disney+, other times she is watching youtube. I hate when she watches youtube so we are extra vigilante, and we have already talked on deleting this, but on the other hand its were we put music on that she likes to listen.
Its not every weekend, only once in a while, when she is getting board, because the first option is always to play, dolls, games, lego, other activities. Tablet is really last case.
But yes, we know that most of her classmates are always with the smartphone and seeing tiktok, I just don't understand at their age how can they let em watch that shit.
Our youngest has asked for the phone, but to see pictures of our family, so for now we are OK.
When our oldest was younger there was a time that she would only eat if we had the smartphone on with musicvideos for kids. But we eventually were able to cut that. It only takes once, when you are hopeless, and have tried everything, it was a shitty time, we knew we shouldn't allow it, but she only até with it, gave some work to cut it off but we did it.
I think the best is to be moderate and not totally extreme about it, sometimes it is even worse when the kids start to have access to these technologies when parents are completely extrem about it. Of course each case is different.
Just do what you think is best and don't drag yourself down because of it.
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Post by theonefreeman on Aug 2, 2024 2:02:40 GMT -5
Your kid's middle name is literally Emrakul? TMDWU. shit I worded that wrong, his first name is Emrakul. Have you reached out to Wizards of the Coast about this? I feel like that's the kind of commitment that would be rewarded.
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Post by hayley on Aug 2, 2024 2:03:25 GMT -5
i was an internet geek in 1987 but i really don’t like when my son’s volume is higher than mine and i feel victorious after getting my greatest point of contention (the VR headset) out of the house once and for all but tbh i just replaced it with a new ipad so he can play minecraft with his buddy from school. he plays a lot of sports and prefers friends over devices so… i’m fine with that.
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Post by sarahohio on Aug 2, 2024 8:49:49 GMT -5
Yeah, he is just over 8 weeks. What prompted it was the memory of my wife's brother's daughter grabbing their phone and wanting to play games at the age of like 3. While we will not allpw that I feel like a bad parents for being on mine a lot. I understand the fear even though he is only just 8 weeks. I watched the Netflix series "Babies" which goes over a ton of different studies the science world has been doing on babies in the first year of their life. The amount of things they truly pick up in the first year, even in the first 6 months is crazy and maybe has made me a bit more paranoid.
Like others have said though, at least you are self aware.
Speaking of the series making me paranoid. It makes me want my future child around my mother-in-law even lessssss now. Does anyone else have an over bearing parent-in-law? I know eventually I am going to have to get kind of blunt and mean, because she has no clue on how to back off.
A couple months ago I mentioned how Sam would get some good alone time to bond with the baby while I work on the weekends and she was like, "oh he will never have to be alone. I'll always be there." and I was like, "No, we actually have talked about this. He is going to spend days alone so he can form a strong bond with our child" and she was like, "His dad never had to be alone with them. Did you Jeff?" Uh, great? We WANT this, it's not about having to. I guess she brought it up to Sam's brother again later and he was like, "yeah and how did that turn out? We are scared of dad" and she was like, "huhhhh realllllly?" She is so oblivious to the damage she caused her own kids. She is also always judging every human with kids as if they have no clue how to raise a child and only she does. Her constantly judging and negatively about anything and everything leaves me completely drained after I have been around her.
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Post by meatballmaniac on Aug 2, 2024 8:51:39 GMT -5
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Post by oogracie👻 on Aug 2, 2024 9:09:17 GMT -5
Yeah, he is just over 8 weeks. What prompted it was the memory of my wife's brother's daughter grabbing their phone and wanting to play games at the age of like 3. While we will not allpw that I feel like a bad parents for being on mine a lot. I understand the fear even though he is only just 8 weeks. I watched the Netflix series "Babies" which goes over a ton of different studies the science world has been doing on babies in the first year of their life. The amount of things they truly pick up in the first year, even in the first 6 months is crazy and maybe has made me a bit more paranoid.
Like others have said though, at least you are self aware.
Speaking of the series making me paranoid. It makes me want my future child around my mother-in-law even lessssss now. Does anyone else have an over bearing parent-in-law? I know eventually I am going to have to get kind of blunt and mean, because she has no clue on how to back off.
A couple months ago I mentioned how Sam would get some good alone time to bond with the baby while I work on the weekends and she was like, "oh he will never have to be alone. I'll always be there." and I was like, "No, we actually have talked about this. He is going to spend days alone so he can form a strong bond with our child" and she was like, "His dad never had to be alone with them. Did you Jeff?" Uh, great? We WANT this, it's not about having to. I guess she brought it up to Sam's brother again later and he was like, "yeah and how did that turn out? We are scared of dad" and she was like, "huhhhh realllllly?" She is so oblivious to the damage she caused her own kids. She is also always judging every human with kids as if they have no clue how to raise a child and only she does. Her constantly judging and negatively about anything and everything leaves me completely drained after I have been around her.
Good luck, sister!! Just try to remember that no matter how annoying it is, people are going to have apinions (my mom was obsessed w the idea that I MUST be giving my babies tons of water…). Most people are coming from a place of love and it’s complicated because advice is SO different now than it was before. One of my go-to’s when it was an older person was “thank you but we are planning on raising our child based on MODERN science and current day advice” (and then cite some wild shit that has changed now ie women don’t chainsmoke and drink martinis all day anymore while pregnant).
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Post by headxtrauma on Aug 2, 2024 10:04:45 GMT -5
shit I worded that wrong, his first name is Emrakul. Have you reached out to Wizards of the Coast about this? I feel like that's the kind of commitment that would be rewarded. I hit them up very soft-style saying "yo so can we get an Emrakul as cute as this?" but nothing really came of it. Plus I know those bastards jacked me cause when I announced his birth I made a dumb IG post calling him "Emrakul, the Aeons Blessed" (cause he blessed our lives) and what those dicks do in Modern Horizons 3? EMRAKUL, THE WORLD ANEW YEAH OKAY WOTC.
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Post by morte on Aug 2, 2024 10:32:06 GMT -5
Does anyone else have an over bearing parent-in-law? [/div][/quote] My parents in law are very chill, I even have more confidence in leaving my daughters with them. They are actually in my house now for some weeks because my oldest finnished school, currently in vacation break.
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Post by Sorley Boy on Aug 2, 2024 12:12:05 GMT -5
My parents are pretty good about not giving unsolicited advice after numerous confrontations with my older sister, but my inlaws aren't and my SIL is no prize either. We find the best approach is to just be like "yeah, good point" then just completely ignore the advice.
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Post by Thin Lizzy Gulag Graduate on Aug 2, 2024 12:41:03 GMT -5
I have no kids and no desire to, but reading y’all’s screen plight is interesting.
Do any of you see screen time, specifically gaming online with friends, as different from YouTube and single player shit? I would think them playing Minecraft with their friends would be a vastly different thing, as it enforces teamwork and socializing etc. I feel like if I were a parent, I’d be cool with them playing games online with friends for far more time than them playing/staring at a screen alone. That was sort of an unspoken rule when I was growing up, playing ps2 online. As long as it was with friends either online or in person, my parents were way less up my ass about it. I really think it got me through some dark times in middle school and by high school it really served as a way to unwind, and immediately dropped off when I got into a relationship. Definitely would have been a huge problem if I was playing alone, but the social and teamwork aspect was really beneficial for my sanity and probably for my social skills as well. Then again, I was always drawn to serious “realistic” games like arma and the early battlefield games, which definitely had a more mature player base and required organization and teamwork rather than shit talking and machismo. Prolly did get too wrapped up at times, arguing with my parents about missing clan meetings and shit but on the whole was a net positive.
Just curious what the parental perspective is on it, especially considering the gaming landscape has changed so much now that people get famous on twitch and shit.
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Post by sarahohio on Aug 2, 2024 12:46:44 GMT -5
I'd be more okay with my kid playing certain video games at some point more so then watching tv. I truly think some of my video game play helped me with puzzles, problem solving, sticking with something after multiple fails, and team work if it was multiplayer. Just have to make sure it's not their entire life.
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Post by BadScene on Aug 2, 2024 14:08:16 GMT -5
I was thinking about this thread last night... There was a comment about kids reading Harry Potter by 7? I think that's a bit aggressive. My son is probably one of the more avid readers in his school (not trying to brag, but he's a great kid and gifted), but I would say he was only ready to read books like that in the last year or so. Don't feel like your kid is behind if they're not reaching for chapter books. There are so many good graphic novels for kids now, it's a great way to get them hooked into something. Also, as smart as my son is, he can barely name the months in order too. I think covid really fucked over kids that were entering pre-k/kindergarten/1st grade. There's a lot of basics that his age group never really grasped -- penmanship is another one. Cut you and your kid some slack, but this might be an area you need to work with him on your own. (easier said than done, i know). Lastly, does anyone follow Dr. Becky? I don't usually follow or share this type of stuff, but she was on a podcast that really helped me take a look at how I was handling my parenting. She's very practical and pragmatic, and doesn't fall into the gentle parenting traps that can be so irritating to read. It has especially helped my issues with patience and yelling. Check her out if you're ever concerned or looking for a new perspective. www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/?hl=en
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Post by BadScene on Aug 2, 2024 14:16:25 GMT -5
I have no kids and no desire to, but reading y’all’s screen plight is interesting. Do any of you see screen time, specifically gaming online with friends, as different from YouTube and single player shit? I would think them playing Minecraft with their friends would be a vastly different thing, as it enforces teamwork and socializing etc. I feel like if I were a parent, I’d be cool with them playing games online with friends for far more time than them playing/staring at a screen alone. That was sort of an unspoken rule when I was growing up, playing ps2 online. As long as it was with friends either online or in person, my parents were way less up my ass about it. I really think it got me through some dark times in middle school and by high school it really served as a way to unwind, and immediately dropped off when I got into a relationship. Definitely would have been a huge problem if I was playing alone, but the social and teamwork aspect was really beneficial for my sanity and probably for my social skills as well. Then again, I was always drawn to serious “realistic” games like arma and the early battlefield games, which definitely had a more mature player base and required organization and teamwork rather than shit talking and machismo. Prolly did get too wrapped up at times, arguing with my parents about missing clan meetings and shit but on the whole was a net positive. Just curious what the parental perspective is on it, especially considering the gaming landscape has changed so much now that people get famous on twitch and shit. This was the exact reason we let my son play video games in the first place. It was during quarantine and was one of the few ways he could connect with friends -- playdates were a little nerve racking back then. That said, I think it depends on the game. Fortnite was great, but Roblox has been a nightmare. I heard something on a podcast that made me think. Some neuroscientist said that he'd prefer his kid to play a console game because the developer has already received your money when you bought the game. There's no need to keep you over-engaged in the hopes that you'll make an in-game purchase (granted there's some of that anyway). As compared to the freemium apps, where the ONLY way they're generating revenue is to keep you engaged through leveling up and dopamine hits. To make my own analogy it's the difference between getting a burger at a sit down restaurant vs. gas station roller hotdogs. Neither one is good for you, but you're risking a lot more with one of those options. Kids are also smart and will find a way to manipulate you. There was a lot of "so-and-so is online, can I play?", and then 15 minutes later we found that he was never able to join the Fortnite party, or supposedly the kid sighned off. It's whatever, but he knows we're much more willing to let him play if we think he's being social.
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Post by meatballmaniac on Aug 2, 2024 14:45:49 GMT -5
I have no kids and no desire to, but reading y’all’s screen plight is interesting. Do any of you see screen time, specifically gaming online with friends, as different from YouTube and single player shit? I would think them playing Minecraft with their friends would be a vastly different thing, as it enforces teamwork and socializing etc. I feel like if I were a parent, I’d be cool with them playing games online with friends for far more time than them playing/staring at a screen alone. That was sort of an unspoken rule when I was growing up, playing ps2 online. As long as it was with friends either online or in person, my parents were way less up my ass about it. I really think it got me through some dark times in middle school and by high school it really served as a way to unwind, and immediately dropped off when I got into a relationship. Definitely would have been a huge problem if I was playing alone, but the social and teamwork aspect was really beneficial for my sanity and probably for my social skills as well. Then again, I was always drawn to serious “realistic” games like arma and the early battlefield games, which definitely had a more mature player base and required organization and teamwork rather than shit talking and machismo. Prolly did get too wrapped up at times, arguing with my parents about missing clan meetings and shit but on the whole was a net positive. Just curious what the parental perspective is on it, especially considering the gaming landscape has changed so much now that people get famous on twitch and shit. Again, I have no data to back this up, but my gut feeling is that any social/teamwork benefits from playing Minecraft or whatever are not 1:1 with real life activities, and in fact may be more harmful than good. We’re all posters—we’re acutely aware of the gap between online interactions and irl. The alienation and loneliness effects of social media are well studied and apparent all around us, and I’m sure the same principals apply to online gaming with friends.
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Post by Thin Lizzy Gulag Graduate on Aug 2, 2024 14:51:14 GMT -5
I have no kids and no desire to, but reading y’all’s screen plight is interesting. Do any of you see screen time, specifically gaming online with friends, as different from YouTube and single player shit? I would think them playing Minecraft with their friends would be a vastly different thing, as it enforces teamwork and socializing etc. I feel like if I were a parent, I’d be cool with them playing games online with friends for far more time than them playing/staring at a screen alone. That was sort of an unspoken rule when I was growing up, playing ps2 online. As long as it was with friends either online or in person, my parents were way less up my ass about it. I really think it got me through some dark times in middle school and by high school it really served as a way to unwind, and immediately dropped off when I got into a relationship. Definitely would have been a huge problem if I was playing alone, but the social and teamwork aspect was really beneficial for my sanity and probably for my social skills as well. Then again, I was always drawn to serious “realistic” games like arma and the early battlefield games, which definitely had a more mature player base and required organization and teamwork rather than shit talking and machismo. Prolly did get too wrapped up at times, arguing with my parents about missing clan meetings and shit but on the whole was a net positive. Just curious what the parental perspective is on it, especially considering the gaming landscape has changed so much now that people get famous on twitch and shit. This was the exact reason we let my son play video games in the first place. It was during quarantine and was one of the few ways he could connect with friends -- playdates were a little nerve racking back then. That said, I think it depends on the game. Fortnite was great, but Roblox has been a nightmare. I heard something on a podcast that made me think. Some neuroscientist said that he'd prefer his kid to play a console game because the developer has already received your money when you bought the game. There's no need to keep you over-engaged in the hopes that you'll make an in-game purchase (granted there's some of that anyway). As compared to the freemium apps, where the ONLY way they're generating revenue is to keep you engaged through leveling up and dopamine hits. To make my own analogy it's the difference between getting a burger at a sit down restaurant vs. gas station roller hotdogs. Neither one is good for you, but you're risking a lot more with one of those options. Kids are also smart and will find a way to manipulate you. There was a lot of "so-and-so is online, can I play?", and then 15 minutes later we found that he was never able to join the Fortnite party, or supposedly the kid sighned off. It's whatever, but he knows we're much more willing to let him play if we think he's being social. That makes a lot of sense. Obviously kids are gonna dupe you but better they dupe you sometimes and do the thing the rest of the time, as long as the deception doesn’t become to extreme. I recall there being a study a few years ago about online games and adolescent boys. The finding was that boys who played online games displayed much more advanced teamwork, communication, and problem solving in a group setting as compared to girls of the same age who didn’t play games. I’d think type of game matters a lot. If I had a kid I for sure would not want them playing pay to win games and games like Roblox that have a super sketchy community because it’s aimed at children and have currency that can be bought with real cash. And definitely not games like COD until they were a teenager simply due to the absolutely vile voice chat. I guess all things in moderation. It’s gotta be tough trying to balance the benefits that can pay long term developmental dividends, while also avoiding the addiction and absolutely not kid friendly culture. It’s such a fine line, and must be frustrating when there are other equally developmentally beneficial hobbies they could explore if they’d just put down the screen. The dopamine hit from screens is something we as humans are totally not capable of handling responsibly.
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Post by Thin Lizzy Gulag Graduate on Aug 2, 2024 14:54:10 GMT -5
I have no kids and no desire to, but reading y’all’s screen plight is interesting. Do any of you see screen time, specifically gaming online with friends, as different from YouTube and single player shit? I would think them playing Minecraft with their friends would be a vastly different thing, as it enforces teamwork and socializing etc. I feel like if I were a parent, I’d be cool with them playing games online with friends for far more time than them playing/staring at a screen alone. That was sort of an unspoken rule when I was growing up, playing ps2 online. As long as it was with friends either online or in person, my parents were way less up my ass about it. I really think it got me through some dark times in middle school and by high school it really served as a way to unwind, and immediately dropped off when I got into a relationship. Definitely would have been a huge problem if I was playing alone, but the social and teamwork aspect was really beneficial for my sanity and probably for my social skills as well. Then again, I was always drawn to serious “realistic” games like arma and the early battlefield games, which definitely had a more mature player base and required organization and teamwork rather than shit talking and machismo. Prolly did get too wrapped up at times, arguing with my parents about missing clan meetings and shit but on the whole was a net positive. Just curious what the parental perspective is on it, especially considering the gaming landscape has changed so much now that people get famous on twitch and shit. Again, I have no data to back this up, but my gut feeling is that any social/teamwork benefits from playing Minecraft or whatever are not 1:1 with real life activities, and in fact may be more harmful than good. We’re all posters—we’re acutely aware of the gap between online interactions and irl. The alienation and loneliness effects of social media are well studied and apparent all around us, and I’m sure the same principals apply to online gaming with friends. That’s a totally fair point, and definitely true. But keeping kids off screens and getting them outside with friends socializing seems like a pretty impossible task to achieve reliably and frictionlessly. I’m not so much curious if you guys are blanket okay with it, but more your feelings on it in the context of already dealing with the inevitable and unavoidable screen time kids in 2024 are going to have.
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Post by meatballmaniac on Aug 2, 2024 15:21:46 GMT -5
Again, I have no data to back this up, but my gut feeling is that any social/teamwork benefits from playing Minecraft or whatever are not 1:1 with real life activities, and in fact may be more harmful than good. We’re all posters—we’re acutely aware of the gap between online interactions and irl. The alienation and loneliness effects of social media are well studied and apparent all around us, and I’m sure the same principals apply to online gaming with friends. That’s a totally fair point, and definitely true. But keeping kids off screens and getting them outside with friends socializing seems like a pretty impossible task to achieve reliably and frictionlessly. I’m not so much curious if you guys are blanket okay with it, but more your feelings on it in the context of already dealing with the inevitable and unavoidable screen time kids in 2024 are going to have. Oh, don’t get me wrong, my kids are on screens all goddamned day and I don’t do shit about it
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Post by Thin Lizzy Gulag Graduate on Aug 2, 2024 15:23:38 GMT -5
That’s a totally fair point, and definitely true. But keeping kids off screens and getting them outside with friends socializing seems like a pretty impossible task to achieve reliably and frictionlessly. I’m not so much curious if you guys are blanket okay with it, but more your feelings on it in the context of already dealing with the inevitable and unavoidable screen time kids in 2024 are going to have. Oh, don’t get me wrong, my kids are on screens all goddamned day and I don’t do shit about it Can’t be a good parent if you don’t look after your own sanity! My parents didn’t and they fucked up all 3 kids 😂
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Post by Jon Joseph in a golf cart. on Aug 2, 2024 15:39:29 GMT -5
We have fairly small children one turning 5 in september and one turning 3 tomorrow actually. And they get to use our old ipads to watch movies on long drives and most recently our youngest has had access to it when he’s potty training to get him to sit still, our daughter has also gotten use one at the same time during the time he’s on the potty. But it’s very restricted what they are allowed to do (one specific childrens game). On the other hand we’ve allowed them to watch alot of tv, usually when we need them to sit still so we can get some shit done, which has been weighing on our conscience alot from time to time. But we’ve also reasoned that with both tv and the minimal ipad access we are in control of what they are watching or doing. With the tv we usually give them 3 choices to choose from (which they are not always happy about lol). That way we can dictate what they are watching. But we also bought them a big ass trampoline last sunday so right now that’s all they wanna do all day every day.
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Post by concealer on Aug 2, 2024 15:54:42 GMT -5
My kid is 9.5 months now and we try not to let her even look at our phones if possible. I don’t like showing her pictures of people on it or videos or anything. She’s never watched any tv, we never have it on when she’s awake. Except like two weeks ago she saw a minute or two of an explosion filled gunfight from Con Air in full room surround sound when I was testing out the new sound system for a party at my house. She was fascinated lol
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Post by concealer on Aug 2, 2024 15:56:24 GMT -5
We’re trying to be as screenless as reasonably possible for a long time and then very mindful about how they’re introduced. I’d much rather like a gameboy type thing for games than a touch phone with all the horrible app games. Play Pokémon or something with more long attention story play that at least doesn’t murder your attention span like a repetitive game does
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